3 year old peeing in a potty in the corner of a museum

[Griddlesizzle]

As it says in the title. Mother just whips the potty out and the child pees away, without the mum even asking anyone if there was a loo nearby. As a side point, the loo was less than 10m away…

Ai by - it’s pretty vile
Aibu - what else are you gonna do?

Not sure whether to laugh or cry at all these people who think that spending a dedicated week on it is the answer to everyone's potty training problems.

It took me a year and a half with DS. We started age 2.5. I am a sahm and we did indeed begin with some dedicated time in the house but that was very much only the beginning of a stressful and difficult process involving much conflict, many bribes, many 'maybe he's not ready we'll try again in a bit', and an apparently permanent dislike of m&ms on his part as a result of a phase where he got a few each time he went and he ended up having a few too many.

So no, a week off work is not necessarily the final solution, even for people who have the luxury of being able to do that.

@Aria999

If you start a year before the child is ready then of course it will be harder. Most people who do it in a week have noticed signs of readiness/are doing it with an older child. Also they might not actually be doing it entirely in a week, eg have been talking about the toilet/sitting on it/trying at home but are using the week to get it sorted fully.

To be honest it sounds like your son wasn’t ready and you pushed it, then resulting in him being contrary/stressed and not wanting to use the toilet at all because as you say it was a stressful process.

YANBU The child should be in pull ups when out and about. And taken to a toilet every hour to prevent accidents. The childs modesty also needs protecting!!

I was once on the London eye when a mother did the exact same thing. Poor child in hysterics that strangers were 'watching her'

@Aria999 but 2.5 is still relatively young - plenty of children start a few months later. If it was stressful at that point and you easily had 6 months to wait and try again to be well within the norm of potty training age why persist?

@DeepaBeesKit

I don't see why parents ever see this as appropriate.

If it's the difference between
a) puddles if urine in the floor
b) waiting until children are about four to potty train (and creating landfill nappy mountains)
c) occasionally using a potty in an an antisocial location in an emergency

I would pick c, personally.

Why are they the only choices? D) don't visit a museum whilst potty training.

Revolting.

And yes I’ll judge because you are not doing your best if you allow a child to use a potty in the corner of a museum.

Ive picked ds up before at that age and ran with him to the nearest loos and even begged to jump the queue, no one minds in an emergency .
Potty in a museum? No way !

Not something I would do.

I have used a portable potty discretely by my car before with my first DD. Second DD is currently toilet training but luckily not had any issues and I take spare clothes with me anyway.

I don't have an issue when I have seen parents whipping out the portable potty in random places though. Nothing worth getting stressed about!

The portable potty's have lids too so you can transport the wee.

🤷‍♀️ maybe. He checked off all the signs of readiness at the time and a lot of the push to keep trying came from him.

Didn't want to wear nappies, but was very unkeen to go to the loo except on his own terms ie when he wanted to, and by that time it was often too late.

And I had at least one person tell me I should have started earlier as he would have been less willful 🤣