Page 3 | To be 24 and never want to live with a man again?

BeenHereForAges · 15/10/2021 22:44

I don't blame you at all OP. Enjoy your independence.

Draineddraineddrained · 15/10/2021 22:48

I know very very few women for whom the man in their life is a support and a true friend rather than a source of worry and stress. Seriously I love my partner but if I had my time again I'd never take up with a man at all. Certainly if he left me or died or something not a bloody chance would I ever move in with a man again. So well done for figuring this out nice and young! By all means befriend, date, shag - but don't let them take over your life.

TroysMammy · 15/10/2021 22:50

A man has lived with me for 7 years. If I found myself single again I would stay single as I'm not cut out to live with someone.

I don't know what possessed me to dabble in online dating all those years ago as I was perfectly self sufficient. Perhaps my vibrator stopped working.

Laladell · 15/10/2021 22:50

Nearly 29 and haven't lived with a man for nearly 10 years now! Recently came out of a terrible, terrible relationship and so glad I wasn't living with him and am able to be in my own home not having to worry about one of us leaving etc

I love my own space, my own comfort and doing my own thing and have done for years and it hasn't caused an issue in long term reactionships either

Hope your OK x

FOJN · 15/10/2021 22:51

I envy you for working this out at such a young age, I lived alone for over a decade before I married in my late 30's and when that ended I vowed I would never live with a man again. I love living alone.

You may give living with a man another go, women seem to be conditioned to believe our value as human beings depends on having a man but if it doesn't work out then you probably won't bother again.

TroysMammy · 15/10/2021 22:56

@drunkenflamingo2 shove the leftovers in the freezer and use them when you cba to make something or have the same meal 2 days running. A man is not the reason to reduce your leftovers.

TheFormidableMrsC · 16/10/2021 01:31

Me! Never again. Not a chance. I love my space and my freedom. Never again will I risk my security and happiness for a cheating, parasitic, narcissistic prick.

ThatsWhatI · 16/10/2021 01:56

Luckily we live in an age where you can live however you feel like and you're not defined by who you marry or if you marry.

Obviously some people might still think that way if that's how they were brought up but that's by the by and part of the era they grew up in.

But your era OP you can feel free to do what you want, when you want and how you want within reason of course so you're not damaging others.

I'm sure I've said something others will find to pick apart, rip to shreds, but you get my drift

ThatsWhatI · 16/10/2021 01:57

Luckily we live in an age where you can live however you feel like and you're not defined by who you marry or live with or not

immersivereader · 16/10/2021 02:02

I know very very few women for whom the man in their life is a support and a true friend rather than a source of worry and stress

^

Me too. Quite thought provoking actually

julieca · 16/10/2021 02:29

A friend lived with her partner until 25 years old and then split up. She said this, everyone said she would change her mind. She is now retired and still lives alone.
It is your life. Do what suits you best.

NotMyCat · 16/10/2021 02:46

I've never lived with a man I honestly think living with someone would drive me mad!

HarebrightCedarmoon · 16/10/2021 02:56

I think in the future a lot more women won't bother to live with a man, ever, even if they have children together. They only had to in the past as society made women financially dependent on men.

MrsAvocet · 16/10/2021 03:22

I could happily live alone. I love my DH and am very happily married but if he left or died I'd be in no hurry to replace him. I'd stay where am until youngest child finishes school and then downsize and move nearer to my adult DD. I think I'd be very content in my own space, doing my own thing as I don't need continual company. I'd like to have some family or close friends around, but not to live in each others pockets.
You're still very young OP, and life may take you in completely unexpected directions in the future - don't rule anything out. But you are absolutely right that you don't need to live with a man to be happy or secure. Live your life however is best for you.

Wincarnis · 16/10/2021 03:39

happily divorced and living alone since 2004. DP of 15 years lives on the other side of same city, we meet at weekends or maybe midweek for a concert/dinner etc. highly recommended !

Nat6999 · 16/10/2021 04:02

I'm 55 & done with men, never again.

BlueFlavour · 16/10/2021 04:26

I hope you are ok @heywassuphello. It’s horrible when they are ill, remember you can’t pour from an empty jug. To look after them, you have to look after yourself.
I would never ever live with a man again. I’ve been married for 15 years, 3 dc.
I think that being in a good supportive relationship is a bit like winning the lottery, technically possible, but very unlikely.
I can think of two great marriage/partnerships amongst my friends.

Hairbrush123 · 16/10/2021 04:31

Definitely not. I’m 25 and while I love DP - I love my independence and freedom. If we were to break up, I don’t think I’d rush to find another man

CounsellorTroi · 16/10/2021 05:25

@Lawstudentmumtoone

I’m 26 and feel the same. Been single for 4 years after split from ex husband and I love living with just me and DD. I also love my own space, being able to have a quiet bath at night and watching what I want on tv without having to have a conversation if I don’t want to - at the moment I still have no want or need for a relationship - but I genuinely think even if I eventually went on to remarry I would be one of those couples who live separately and have their own houses - I love my space and independence too much!

Do you think you just might have been too young to get married?

GillBiggeloesHair · 16/10/2021 05:30

No I wouldn't either and I live my husband dearly.

grapewine · 16/10/2021 05:34

I've never lived with a man and never will. My space is my space. When I've had relationships or FWB, It's all the more exciting for never having to wash his pants or pick up after him.

itsgettingwierd · 16/10/2021 05:41

My DP left me and 13 month old ds when I was 25.

I felt free like you.

I've not wanted to live with a man since and I haven't (unless you count now 17 ds!)

I'm now 41 and still feel the same way

Dita73 · 16/10/2021 05:57

I’ve been with my husband for 30 years and if we split up I can honestly say I would never get married or live with anyone ever again. I don’t think I’d even bother seeing anyone else,certainly not seriously. I do love my husband but if I knew then what I knew now,I wouldn’t have done it

SoLoveless · 16/10/2021 06:32

Biggest thank you to this thread and the comments!!

I’m 35 and I’ve never been in a relationship, the past few years I’ve had some personal/existential crisis about it, but this thread helps a little to see that maybe relationships are not all that.

Snoken · 16/10/2021 06:53

@SoLoveless

Biggest thank you to this thread and the comments!!

I’m 35 and I’ve never been in a relationship, the past few years I’ve had some personal/existential crisis about it, but this thread helps a little to see that maybe relationships are not all that.

I am sure you have meaningful relationships in your life already. With friends and/or family. Those are the best relationships as they tend to be fully positive and encouraging ones.