To be annoyed DP went ‘clubbing’

[Jessieabs]

Last night my DP went out with his friends for dinner and some drinks. Glad he had a good time, but what has really annoyed me is he’s gone clubbing with his friends in a sweaty COVIDy nightclub where apparently there was 0 social distancing and hundreds of drunk people dancing around him.

For context, we live in an area where there are a LOT of COVID cases. He’s not exactly over the hill (29) but I feel irritated that he’s put as at risk and don’t know why he couldn’t just have had a night out without the clubbing part!

AIBU?

A ‘Covidy’ nightclub?

Not trying to sound too sanctimonious but you'd have really benefitted from having a conversation about your boundaries and preferences before his night out. On that basis, YABU.

You know what I mean hundreds of people, all indoors, all drunk, no social distancing

@ReeseWitherfork yeah I do get that. Also, what a name!

Yeah not sure how you can call it "Covidy" (or why that's even being considered a word) unless you know people there have Covid. Maybe most the people who went have lateral flow tested and know they're Covid free?

I'm rather Covid conscious but you can't stop living so I don't think it's unreasonable he went clubbing.

Hes allowed to live his life how he sees fit

You are being unreasonable

Unless you are particularly vulnerable for some reason then I think YABU. He’s in his 20s! It’s time to start living now. Let’s face it, we’re all likely getting it at some point regardless of whether he puts you ‘at risk’.

YABVU

YABU. It’s nothing more than a mild illness for the majority of the population.

You can’t expect him to hold back and not enjoy himself because of your irrational anxiety.

Yeah of course YABU. Would you really go on a night out, be having a great time then go "oh sorry guys, I'm not going in there - Covid" after being around numerous strangers all night anyway?

Being in a nightclub isn't any worse than being in a busy pub.

YABU - he can do what he wants for a start, and secondly, it's time we lived with COVID, it isn't going away any time soon.

Unanimous so far isn’t it. Maybe I’ll cook him a nice hangover dinner after all

YANBU to feel annoyed.

Maybe suggests he lives somewhere else for the next 10 days?

He's more likely to get one of the colds going around.

I can't see that a nightclub is any worse really than any other activity or pursuit that involves lots of people being in one place.

You can't have it both ways: if you're sufficiently worried about COVID you should both be shielding. But he's just as likely to get it in a pub, a cinema or a swimming pool really.

YABU, unless you’re about to drip feed us something about one of you being vulnerable. We can’t hide forever

YANBU. 'Living with covid' doesn't have to be all or nothing. It's a particularly high risk environment. I'd be annoyed too.

I went to Club Covidy, but couldn't get in. Apparently I'm not hip enough.

YANBU. lots of people are getting back to normal in small ways, but drunk clubbing sounds like a silly risk to take while rates are high. Especially as it impacts on you, and you aren't cool with it!

I think Yabu too. I guess we’ve just got to continue with our lives.

YANBU.

And don’t make him any hangover dinners, he can sort himself out. Don’t pander to him.

OP Go on admit it - you are just jealous it wasn't you !

@seaandsandcastles

YABU. It’s nothing more than a mild illness for the majority of the population.

You can’t expect him to hold back and not enjoy himself because of your irrational anxiety.

i'm sorry but there are so so many people who have lost loved ones to covid including myself and you are calling it a 'mild illness'

@FatBettyintheCoop

YANBU to feel annoyed.

Maybe suggests he lives somewhere else for the next 10 days?

You're joking, right?