To be annoyed DP went ‘clubbing’

[Jessieabs]

Last night my DP went out with his friends for dinner and some drinks. Glad he had a good time, but what has really annoyed me is he’s gone clubbing with his friends in a sweaty COVIDy nightclub where apparently there was 0 social distancing and hundreds of drunk people dancing around him.

For context, we live in an area where there are a LOT of COVID cases. He’s not exactly over the hill (29) but I feel irritated that he’s put as at risk and don’t know why he couldn’t just have had a night out without the clubbing part!

AIBU?

We just need to learn to live with it

That doesn’t mean completely ignoring it. Why don’t people understand this?

So nightclubs are covidy but going to a supermarket is fine. Okay then.

At some point soon normal life will return. You need to start realizing that.

@chocolateorangeinhaler a supermarket doesn’t have you in close contact with multiple people for an extended period of time. Do you spend 2 hours at a supermarket!

@chocolateorangeinhaler

So nightclubs are covidy but going to a supermarket is fine. Okay then.

At some point soon normal life will return. You need to start realizing that.

Crikey, what supermarket are you going to that's like a nightclub? Strangers don't touch me in the supermarket.

@BoredZelda

We just need to learn to live with it

That doesn’t mean completely ignoring it. Why don’t people understand this?

But going out sometimes doesn't mean completely ignoring it.... For example, I partied, but I also still wear mask in a shop even though most of the people who I bet my shoes would be horrified at idea of club, don't. I also do random ltf tests.

Well l don't think you are being unreasonable. You have assessed the risk and that's your conclusion. I would be concerned as well. Even if it's mild, why would you risk getting ill and passing it on to someone who might die?

TTC baby 1 and this is cycle 12. For the last 11 months I have always got my static smiley on a CB OPK on day 13-15 and I'm on day 17 and still on flashing faces (8th one). Am I not going to ovulate this cycle making it a waste?! Never happened before :-(

@tryingforbabyh

TTC baby 1 and this is cycle 12. For the last 11 months I have always got my static smiley on a CB OPK on day 13-15 and I'm on day 17 and still on flashing faces (8th one). Am I not going to ovulate this cycle making it a waste?! Never happened before :-(

I think you posted on a wrong thread @tryingforbabyh

Ahhh sorry no idea how I did that!!

I don't think I would like the idea of that,, but there are hundreds of people piling into clubs now, mainly young people. If all the rules say it's ok, that's that. I don't think any oldies wan't to go into overcrowded places just yet.

Crikey - he's 29 not 99!

He can choose to go clubbing if he wants. You sound very annoying.

Yabvu. I don't expect my dc to ask permission to go clubbing, I certainly wouldn't expect to ask dp if I could. To be frank he would be told to fuck off if he thought it was acceptable to question me, let alone if he acted like the wronged party because I didn't discuss it with him first.

YANBU, I have no problem with people going to clubs, I don't like them anyway, but I definitely wouldn't be going to one now (I'm around the same age as your partner). But since it's not restricted anymore, I guess a lot of people will think it's not a risk. The friends I have who regularly went to pubs/clubs before covid are still avoiding them.

I used to get pissed off with dp doing this pre-covid. For me it was the I will be home by 11 bullshit when really he would stroll in pissed out his head at gone 4am. Always without keys and never answering his phone. He knows I don't sleep until I know everyone is home safe. If he had said he was coming home at a reasonable time your totally correct being in a mood, if he hadn't probably not so much.

@ChargingBuck

I went to Club Covidy, but couldn't get in. Apparently I'm not hip enough.

I heard they take your temp, and if you're not hot enough you get turned away.

@TheBlackArt

Not joking in the slightest.
The U.K. govt. has become extremely reckless lifting restrictions when it has the highest rates of Covid in Europe and not vaccinating children.

We still wear masks indoors and haven’t eaten in a restaurant in more than 2 years and have no desire to pretend everything’s hunky dory when it patently isn’t. 🤷🏻‍♀️

I really think that COVID is a good excuse for people that like to control their partners every move ….

[quote FatBettyintheCoop]@TheBlackArt

Not joking in the slightest.
The U.K. govt. has become extremely reckless lifting restrictions when it has the highest rates of Covid in Europe and not vaccinating children.

We still wear masks indoors and haven’t eaten in a restaurant in more than 2 years and have no desire to pretend everything’s hunky dory when it patently isn’t. 🤷🏻‍♀️[/quote]
So you think it's reasonable OP's partner moves out for 10 days?

Insane.

YABVVU
You can't control him to that extent.

@Jessieabs

I didn’t apologise or even get angry at him particularly. I just said (earlier) I was frustrated at him as felt it was a bit high risk and it’s made me uncomfortable.

So you know you're wrong but haven't admitted it?

@ChateauxNeufDePoop telling her other half how she feels and why isn't doing anything wrong. Feeling don't need to be reasonable, they're just feelings. She didn't do anything.

I couldn’t get worked up about this. Covid is a mild illness for most people. I have had it, it was like a cold for me, double vaxxed. I have also had family members die but life does go on and I don’t think he was wrong

Did he have a bit too much fun for your liking op?

@Shelddd

Still clubbing at 29 is rough... But I'm sure he's just as likely to have got COVID earlier in the evening.

Why is clubbing at 29 “rough”?