What is something you've had to make peace with never having?

[BobbiPinsOn]

a good singing voice

Health/energy - ME.

A loving grandmother for my DC. My mum died before they were born. Their MIL isn't very interested at all. I feel so sad they lost out on that relationship. I was very close to my grandmother.

A flat stomach.

After having three boys i said goodbye to the hope of having a daughter.
Haven't quite given up on the idea of having a pony quite yet....

@Libertaire

Sporting talent. I would have loved to have the basic hand eye co-ordination to be able to hit, catch or kick a moving ball, but I was always completely hopeless. I remember at school envying my friends who could just pick up a tennis racket, hit the ball, get it over the net and bouncing inside the court. They made it look so easy yet I just swished at thin air or connected with the frame & sent the ball into orbit. I tried cricket once, joining the lads practicing in the nets. I couldn’t even catch the ball when it was gently lobbed straight to me, never mind hitting it with the bat.

Could you have dyspraxia?

A nice kitchen
A personal masseuse

To run 9 or 10 minute miles. I wish I could just one run 5k in under 30 minutes and 10K in under an hour. I’ve never even been close.

Small boobs.

@DazzleDrops

A slide in my house. I've always wanted one 😂 A driving licence Self confidence. Everyone thinks I'm confident but I just pretend.

You can get slides that go on the stairs!

Decent, non-violent parents. I realised long ago I had to make peace with that or it would hang over me for ever. My life is good now. I do have invasive thoughts at times but I can quickly move on, if I didn’t then I would be letting them ruin my whole life and not just the first 30 years.

Being able to re-create the splurge gun battle at the end of Bugsy Malone, I'd love to do that.

A big house. Earning over 40k and being all "why isnt everyone on 70k, I was at 27", about it.
Other than that Im quite happy.

Running a London marathon. I have now done 2 very slow half marathons and am realising that it will never be. Also finding I have one leg longer than the other means I shouldn't do it.

Oh and a Louis Vuitton bag (I don't really want one now so have maybe dealt with that one!)

Parents - my mum died young when I was still a teen and my dad has always been somewhat absent (they split when I was little) I’m always envious of people with lovely loving present parents.

A partner who REALLY REALLY loves me and cares for me and leaves me in no doubt of it. I have a partner of 18 years, I’m not sure he even likes me let alone anything else.

Get married, be in love - ship has sailed on that one.

Bring my son back, I would give up every other thing on the list for just this one thing.

1. A child
2. Loving partner
3. Pension

I guess I could still have 2, and a crap 3

glassofschloer I was going to say exactly the same thing. A loving mother. The sadness never goes.

@Libertaire I was like that at ball games for years. Then I met DP. He is very sporty. He spent hours and hours patiently coaching me how to catch & hit a ball (still crap at throwing any distance).

It still amazes me that I can catch a ball 80% of the time now.

I've made my peace (mostly) with the fact that my sister will always have more than me (material stuff like clothes, beautiful perfect big house etc). I realised it doesn't actually make her happy. My small scruffy house is home.

Chasingsquirrels

Mr Frosty (as a child).

I could get myself one now ... but as an adult I can see mum's viewpoint on them!

I agree with all of that!

As an adult: a big house

lilly

Mr Frosty

A house of my own

To all those who want a Mr Frosty, my brother had one and it was rubbish! So much effort to get a little cup of crushed ice which, once you'd used up the tiny amount of syrup that came with it, is pretty unappealing.

For me definitely a good singing voice, I've thought about lessons but I have no musical talent at all so don't think they'd do much good.

Also need to make peace with the fact I won't have lots of babies, started too late as I wasn't sure I wanted children and now I've had one I'd happily have loads! Hopefully we'll have another but think that will be it.

My eldest son. He died from cancer aged 18. Ill never find peace with his suffering and death but I have accepted, on some level, that he is gone (7 years now).

minmooch

A completely healthy body and mind. I have health conditions that affect both body and mind and have had various treatments. Whilst my conditions have been fairly stable for years (to the extent that I can live a relatively 'normal' life), I've accepted that I'll probably never be completely cured of either. I know I'm lucky they are stable, but I do wonder if things will change as I get older and if my quality of life will deteriorate, but I tell myself that could happen anyway. Anyone could develop a health condition at any point and even if I was fully healthy now, there are no guarantees.

@poshme I agree. I didn’t have natural hand eye co ordination but it can be learned, it’s just that PE teachers often can’t be bothered to teach it if you are not a natural.