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What is something you've had to make peace with never having?

869 replies

BobbiPinsOn · 09/10/2021 10:34

a good singing voice

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Anotherboy · 09/10/2021 19:00

A loving mother
A happy marriage
A girlfriend!

Graphista · 09/10/2021 19:01

Good health - none of us really have much control over this. Main ones for me are disability due to a car accident where I was stationery and mh issues which are a mix (the experts think) of genetics, physiology, brain chemistry and trauma - no cure available for either

Another saying another child (there's a lot of us eh!) - lost 3 before dd to mc, dd was a tricky pregnancy and birth and revealed that to have another pregnancy due to a rare medical condition would likely have killed me. I wanted a big family but it wasn't to be. It's been hard to come to terms with esp as ex has a large family with wife 2 (6 kids)

My heart goes out to those in similar circumstances and of course even more so to those who've been unable to become parents when they wanted to and those who've lost children Thanks

I'll admit I'm smiling a little at the non singers, I've sung all my life and honestly at one point thought everybody could at least carry a tune...then I met a lovely friend who is amazing in many ways but has a voice that could cause physical pain! She's fantastic! But seriously if someone ever held a gun to her head to make her sing they'd regret it!

Men who whisk you off your feet and generally into big romantic gestures are often narcissists - it’s about them not you -and not good partner material.

Have to say I agree with this

Heart also goes out to all of you that have had difficult family relationships, inc of course abuse and to all those who've experienced trauma Thanks

TisBrilliant · 09/10/2021 19:02

Stable childhood

My health. Once it’s gone…

honeylulu · 09/10/2021 19:02

Parents who see me as other than a disappointment.

A home in London. I always thought I'd live in London at least for a while. Have worked there for 20 years but commute, now have kids settled in schools and a forever home.

Good balance. Can barely ride a bike.

The ability to do the splits or a headstand/cartwheel.

Not bad really except the first one.

Glitterblue · 09/10/2021 19:04

A second child.
A 3 bedroomed house

supertedious · 09/10/2021 19:05

A flat stomach again

LadyOfTheFlowers · 09/10/2021 19:06

Having enough money to not worry about money

Derrymum123 · 09/10/2021 19:06

A good childhood. Mine was a shocker. I envy those who had a perfect childhood with parents who loved them.

CurryLover55 · 09/10/2021 19:07

Biological children 😢

DrMaryMalone · 09/10/2021 19:13

Nice nails
Calves that fit in regular knee high boots and wellies
A Teddy Ruxpin toy

chocolateorangeinhaler · 09/10/2021 19:16

Children

dancinfeet · 09/10/2021 19:20

A home that I own, and a driving licence. And relatives that give a shit

LadyTiredWinterBottom2 · 09/10/2021 19:21

@BikeRunSki

Thin legs, flat stomach

Size 12 or Size 16, I’m very bottom heavy

Me too!

However l think l have come to terms with not having a beautiful house in the country. We could have had it, but DH preferred to be mortgage free. Probably a bit first world but hey ho.

Thulian · 09/10/2021 19:41

Re height, yes why do women want it? I'm 5'9, was 5'10 when younger, it's a pain in the arse! I'll never be able to find women's shoes that fit me properly, many clothes don't fit properly either, men mainly don't like it much and prefer a woman who's noticeably shorter than them, it's a pain on planes, in cars, whatever, and I'm not even exceptionally tall. I'd choose to be short any day.

Tangletester · 09/10/2021 19:46

Another one to say a loving Mum.

lazylinguist · 09/10/2021 19:46

Flowers to everyone coping with loss or who had unloving parents.

For me - a slim, athletic-type body with small boobs. It takes such a lot of restraint to be at the lower end of my weight range (borderline size 12/14) instead of the upper (16), but even at the lower end I feel busty and bulky. I always wanted to be able to wear strappy tops, tucked in tops etc without feeling bulgy or like I was showing off my cleavage. But I guess we all want what we don't have. If I had an androgynous figure I'd probably be yearning for curves.

BobbiPinsOn · 09/10/2021 19:50

forgot to mention good eyesight too

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Littlecaf · 09/10/2021 19:51

A girl

A swimming pool

Being naturally slim

the80sweregreat · 09/10/2021 19:58

I would have loved a girl ..
not to be ,,but my sons are amazing !

ShellieEllie · 09/10/2021 19:58

I'd just like to be able to choose clothing from a much bigger selection than is ever available in petite sizing, there's so little out there. First world problem I know but it doesn't stop me feeling envious of what others can buy.

QuornSausagesAreTheDevilsPenis · 09/10/2021 20:03

To have listened to my bloody A level biology teacher! She told me what she thought would be an ideal career for me. I didn't take her advice. Went in a completely different direction.

I'm almost there now with her suggestion, nearly 3 decades later 🙄😂 Mind you, I wouldn't have dh or the dc if I'd plumped straight for that one so it was the right choice at the time.

MotherofPoodles · 09/10/2021 20:06

I think I've made peace with losing my dad and not having any other family.

Not having a baby.

Mattsmum2 · 09/10/2021 20:08

To have known my father. He died aged 43 when I was 19. My parents divorced when I was 3 and they decided he wouldn’t be a part of my life from then on.

misspurple90 · 09/10/2021 20:17

This

Walkingriver · 09/10/2021 20:18

A decent mum

A driving license

Having no talent for any hobby/sport that I’ve ever tried

Close friendships

Being a hard worker (backed up by excellent performance reviews) but always ignored for in-company promotions/transfers, hence never worked my way up in any company

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