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Beans on toast for dinner

164 replies

BigPyjamas · 09/10/2021 06:55

Last night my DH was out with friends, came home and got huffy as I gave the kids beans on toast for dinner. 'That's not very nutritious' he moans. (He himself chose to have fried chicken for dinner)

In my defence: I work full time, had spent the day doing serious amounts of household crap during my free moments (was WFH) and my youngest actually asked for beans on toast.

YANBU - beans on toast is a perfectly decent Friday night meal.

YABU - you slovenly mother, where were the veggies and organic quinoa

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Immaculatemisconception · 09/10/2021 07:39

It’s fine @BigPyjamas.

FakeFruitShoot · 09/10/2021 07:41

Beans on toast with a bit of cheese and a glass of orange juice ... I'm sure I read somewhere that that's one of the most nutritionally balanced meals there is.

Even if it wasn't, it's one meal out of a week! He can cook if he's so concerned.

Rubyupbeat · 09/10/2021 07:42

Quick and nutritious.
At 57 I still love beans on toast.

HappyTimeTunnelDinosaur · 09/10/2021 07:43

YANBU

PuppyMonkey · 09/10/2021 07:43

Perhaps today would be a good opportunity for you to bugger off out with friends leaving him free to create nutritionally balanced meals for the kids while you eat KFC.

LawnFever · 09/10/2021 07:45

@Longdistance

Yanbu. If he wanted the kids to have a nutritious four course dinner he could’ve stayed at home and cooked it himself.
Lol this!!

Beans are one of your five a day, you’d DH is being an idiot, beans on toast is perfectly fine as a quick tea.

CatalinaCasesolver · 09/10/2021 07:46

He sounds like a right twat, of course it's fine!

Stayingnomorethanayearpal · 09/10/2021 07:48

YNBU love beans n toast. My 15 year old loves this still especially when she is fed up . Hearty and comforting. Oh I might make this for brekkie !😍

NoSquirrels · 09/10/2021 07:49

I can’t believe this was even a conversation you both needed to have, let alone that your DH ‘got huffy’. If my DH is out I feed the kids what we all fancy and he wouldn’t even think to enquire.

gogohm · 09/10/2021 07:50

I can't stand them so I certainly would have been cross if my exh had fed the kids beans on toast on the very rare occasions he fed them, but I always left proper food for them. (In reality he did far worse, he would take them out or get a takeaway!)

merrymouse · 09/10/2021 07:51

YANBU

NoSquirrels · 09/10/2021 07:53

@gogohm

I can't stand them so I certainly would have been cross if my exh had fed the kids beans on toast on the very rare occasions he fed them, but I always left proper food for them. (In reality he did far worse, he would take them out or get a takeaway!)
I can’t stand baked beans either but my children eat them happily. What’s to feel cross about? They are ‘proper food’, you know.
starrynight21 · 09/10/2021 07:55

My kids are grown up now, but when they were young , beans on toast was a favorite. They used to call it "cowboy food". It's more nutritious than fried chicken !

twirlinginthesnow · 09/10/2021 07:56

To be honest DH wouldn't comment on what I'm feeding the children (unless I was buying McDonalds regularly or something!).

Mine had a quick dinner last night too. They were knackered after a busy week at school/preschool, I was too and I couldn't be arsed to cook properly. They got ham and cheese omelettes with wholemeal toast soldiers and a token bit of salad (carrot and pepper sticks) on the side.

Nothing wrong with that, or beans on toast! I wish mine would eat beans they won't touch them.

Tell him to butt out or cook for them himself.

Sciurus83 · 09/10/2021 07:58

The only thing vaguely unreasonable about this is that you haven't made it clear there was grated cheese which is of course essential

rainyskylight · 09/10/2021 08:01

Absolutely fine, especially if they’ve eaten a proper lunch.
If I’m home late from work and haven’t eaten dinner I’ll have beans on toast or scrambled egg. Classic easy cheap nutritious.

Original poster
BigPyjamas · 09/10/2021 08:02

@Sciurus83

The only thing vaguely unreasonable about this is that you haven't made it clear there was grated cheese which is of course essential
Oh there absolutely was cheese, lots of it. An essential dairy element of the meal Grin
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Greenrubber · 09/10/2021 08:03

@ivykaty44

It's the flour that is fortified
So even homemade bread has extra nutrition and homemade cakes HmmGrin

Original poster
BigPyjamas · 09/10/2021 08:07

@PuppyMonkey

Perhaps today would be a good opportunity for you to bugger off out with friends leaving him free to create nutritionally balanced meals for the kids while you eat KFC.
I can't bugger off to KFC but, I will certainly insist that he feeds them tonight.

And when I'm back in the office next week and he's on pick up, after school activity and dinner duty, I will pointedly not enquire what he's fed them when I get home. Nor will I prep any food in advance or make any suggestions.

Thank you, feeling warmly pleased that 41 random internet strangers agree with me Grin

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gofg · 09/10/2021 08:07

YANBU - I have beans on toast myself for dinner sometimes

labazslovesliving · 09/10/2021 08:15

its one meal out of seven and perfectly healthy. use granary bread chuck on a sprinkling of cheese give them a glass orange juice n its damn near perfect

eandz13 · 09/10/2021 08:17

Beans on toast is a great meal, packed with fibre and protein. I'm going to make it for dinner today, but with plenty cheese and pepper mixed in!
Try cheesy beans on tiger bread toast. Perfection

00100001 · 09/10/2021 08:28

What has he said to your question of

'Oh, I think you meant, "Thanks for staying home and looking after the kids and feeding them whilst I went out and relaxed"...?'

EdgeOfTheSky · 09/10/2021 08:29

Beans on whole meal toast provide the full range of proteins.

Newroad · 09/10/2021 08:30

Nothing wrong with that at all! I often eat it when I can’t be bothered and it’s my oldest son’s favourite after playing football. Tell him to shove his fried chicken and nutritional advice up his arse.