Why do we have low expectations of children/adults with disabilities?

[Nivealove]

Thought twice about posting this post. But here you go.

AIBU to have high expectations of my children with disabilities? Had an disagreement with one of the DC's teachers today and she thinks it's acceptable that my 13 year old should still be learning the 2 and the 10x table. 2/3 go to special needs school. When I challenged the head and the teachers, they give me some bullshit about him not being ready and they adapt the curriculum to the child's needs. I've decided to remove me child from that school. If they stay there, they would be left with nothing.

It's the same thing everyday. It's not acceptable for a neurotypical child to not read and write. But it's acceptable if a child with a disability can not read and write. If it wasn't for me and spending ££££££ in tutors/resources and not leaving it to the school, my children would not have learnt to read and write. It- instead would be blame on their disability and not because of their poor (unambitious) teaching practices. I'm not just talking about academics, I'm talking about sports, independent skills and so forth so forth.

My children have been taught by people who see my children as individuals and have high expectations vs people who see my children by their diagnosis and 10/10 my children succeed with people who believe in them and have high expectations.

When I complain to the school, I'm seen as a mother who is in denial and haven't accepted their children's disabilities. I have- as I wouldn't have been ££££££ amount of private therapies.

I've come to realise that society as whole is like this. Rant over.

[quote Lovesicecreams]@Mickarooni it’s the stats that don’t lie. Most sn parents in surveys feel let down by care for their children in schools.[/quote]
That’s very valid and parents are more than entitled to feel the way. Perhaps it’s the way I’m wording it but I see it as an opinion and a response to their own situations.
I’m not saying this flippantly, I’ve been that parent with a child with additional needs in an SEN school that was not suitable for the child. However, I’m only disagreeing with some very blanket factual statements made by a few on here. Obviously I’d never disagree with anyone’s personal views or their own personal experiences. I recognise I am biased, of course. My own opinions cannot be totally objective.