To have burst out laughing at movie quote DP?

[OdettySpaghetti]

DP has a habit of saying things as though he’s in a movie. He doesn’t do it jokingly - example:

He was telling me about when he was younger and spent the weekends going to car meets in car parks (boy racers 🙄) and he suddenly stopped talking, shook his head and said “man, that summer was immense” - I burst out laughing and started singing “the summer of 69” - it just sounded so American and movie like!

Another one - I was saying how much I’m missing Thailand (it’s been a while since I’ve travelled, first world problems I know) and he took my hand and stared into my eyes and said “we will get there again, believe me, we’ll make it back” 😂😂 he was being dead serious, I burst out laughing as it just sounded so out of context!

Anyway, last night - we’d gone to the local for something to eat. We were sat in the beer garden, it was lovely and warm. He suddenly stood up, held out his hand and said “walk with me?” 😂😂😂 I almost choked on my bloody drink, he said “what’s funny this time?” So I said “why do you keep talking as though we’re in a movie??” And he looked all embarrassed and laughed and said “I don’t, I just wondered if you fancied a walk!” So I said “so say that then! The movie quotes just make me laugh!”

Fast forward to bed time, he stood up, stretched and said “well, I’m going to hit the hay, tomorrow will be hard on everyone” 😂 I said “why will it??” So he replied “I just mean Fridays are always a ball ache as people just want to fast forward to weekend”. Ffs why the dramatic movie quote?? AIBU to find this so funny and cringey at the same time?

Just to add he once said, with a straight face …
“It’s not personal, it’s business” to his father regarding the increase in fees he’d faced to hire a field. I had to leave the room.

He sounds like such a wally 🙈

OdettySpaghetti

Just to add he once said, with a straight face …
“It’s not personal, it’s business” to his father regarding the increase in fees he’d faced to hire a field. I had to leave the room.“

Thinking of A Bit of Fry and Laurie, now. Their brilliant sketches set in a health club in Uttoxeter. “Damn Marjorie, this is business”

Sea / Ocean! It's definitely a performance, isn't it!

I agree that 'hit the hay' is a televisual Americanism. It's like British people talking about being chased by 'the feds'.

It just sounds as though he's picked up all his romantic and proclamatory language from film and TV. Maybe he grew up in an environment where people didn't exclaim their love and wonder at the world, so he lacks other language for those feelings?

I think his openness and sincerity, his desire to say these things out loud, is wonderful. It's just unfortunate that he sounds like a poor pastiche of a film character when he does it.

Walk with me 😂😂😂

And just... All of them!

Yes that's properly ROFL brilliant!

Does his family do it? I mean that's bizarre. He must have got it from somewhere!

i only do quotes with people i know who do it back i dont do it staring off into the distance like im in pride and prejudice

Baffled at this, you think “in all my 33 years, I’ve never seen the ocean” sounds like a movie quote?

Sounds like quite normal talking to me - maybe I just live a movie star life or something!

@Changednamehere56

Could be autistic scripting.

I was going to say it reminds me of my autistic friend! I didn’t know there was a term for this.

My mum used to say “hit the hay”.

This is brilliant!! I imagine it’s all good while you’re getting along but mid-argument it would be too much!

Haven’t read the whole thread but Aw he sounds sweet! But even though I think it’s mean I’m afraid I would laugh too. Imagine all the future situations?! On a very busy boat “we’re gonna need a bigger boat”…6 years down the line, your firstborn is in a high chair at the corner of a table “nobody puts baby in the corner”…you’re at a casino with your punk friend “do you feel lucky punk, we’ll do’yah?”

Well he sounds like a most excellent dude !

MintyCedric

Well he sounds like a most excellent dude“
🤣🤣🤣

I suspect he knows exactly what he's doing. Deadpan Geordie humour.
I love it.

😂

Thanks for making me laugh OP. He sounds like he is the principal hero in his own drama.

I like a bit of dramatics in life myself so tend to sometimes say things that are like they are out of a book - friends just say ' WHO talks like that'. Makes me laugh, makes them laugh, all fine.

This has made me cry 😂😂😂 amazing!

This thread has made me very happy! It's sooo funny.

Also it's great he's not like it all the time. Just nuggets of pure brilliance!!

I think he's got some kind of challenge with identifying the right register for a conversation, and how emotions are usually conveyed. My dad does this a bit, and my brother, both of whom I am fairly certain are on the ASD spectrum though have not been diagnosed formally. My dad in particular has a very "Hallmark cards" way of talking about love and emotion which jars with his otherwise rather witty and ironic view of the world.

When neurotypical people use the wrong register it can give an impression of self aggrandising, fake emotions, or just a weird sense of off-ness. It can make you laugh or cringe as it feels like a communication not "in good faith". I find it hard to know how to react if someone does it when I'm not sure if they are NT or not.

kids can do it too when they're learning about clichés and metaphors - my daughter used to say things like "Well, I've seen a few of those, in my time" making her sound about 70 instead of 6.

@EarringsandLipstick

I mean, I get what you are saying and it is a bit cringe but I think you sound kinda mean.

You know he does this & you keep laughing at him. I'd feel horrible if I was being laughed at by my partner.

Yes, this. Laughing at him sounds cruel and hurtful. So what if he's a bit earnest? There are MUCH bigger flaws out there! If you can't stand it, break up with him, but don't make him feel small and stupid for the way he speaks.

A disorder of pragmatics. that's the term for it I think.

@OdettySpaghetti

Just to add he once said, with a straight face … “It’s not personal, it’s business” to his father regarding the increase in fees he’d faced to hire a field. I had to leave the room.

He’s just great OP😂😂😂

You need to start doing a quote of the day

@OdettySpaghetti

Just to add he once said, with a straight face … “It’s not personal, it’s business” to his father regarding the increase in fees he’d faced to hire a field. I had to leave the room.

Why? It's perfectly normal saying and apt in plenty of real life situations. If he doesn't have an issue then fair enough but you sound odd.

None of his sayings sound like movie quotes ..

It does sound a strange way to talk.
I have an austistic DD and I echo others who think this might be scripting, a way of trying hard to fit in and socialise and make conversation but getting it wrong.
If he's otherwise lovely please dont laugh at him, he maybe genuinely perplexed as to why you are laughing.