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To have burst out laughing at movie quote DP?

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OdettySpaghetti · 08/10/2021 06:34

DP has a habit of saying things as though he’s in a movie. He doesn’t do it jokingly - example:

He was telling me about when he was younger and spent the weekends going to car meets in car parks (boy racers 🙄) and he suddenly stopped talking, shook his head and said “man, that summer was immense” - I burst out laughing and started singing “the summer of 69” - it just sounded so American and movie like!

Another one - I was saying how much I’m missing Thailand (it’s been a while since I’ve travelled, first world problems I know) and he took my hand and stared into my eyes and said “we will get there again, believe me, we’ll make it back” 😂😂 he was being dead serious, I burst out laughing as it just sounded so out of context!

Anyway, last night - we’d gone to the local for something to eat. We were sat in the beer garden, it was lovely and warm. He suddenly stood up, held out his hand and said “walk with me?” 😂😂😂 I almost choked on my bloody drink, he said “what’s funny this time?” So I said “why do you keep talking as though we’re in a movie??” And he looked all embarrassed and laughed and said “I don’t, I just wondered if you fancied a walk!” So I said “so say that then! The movie quotes just make me laugh!”

Fast forward to bed time, he stood up, stretched and said “well, I’m going to hit the hay, tomorrow will be hard on everyone” 😂 I said “why will it??” So he replied “I just mean Fridays are always a ball ache as people just want to fast forward to weekend”. Ffs why the dramatic movie quote?? AIBU to find this so funny and cringey at the same time?

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Dreamstate · 08/10/2021 08:58

Saying like like man that was immense is just describing that moment in time.

God you would be laughing st me then because sometimes when I describe some moments or memories I do say something similar like that was intense, out of this world.

I dont think anything he said is odd or something to be cringe over.

I've even used the phrase we will get bsck there again alot in light hearted conversation to lots of my friends about travelling somewhere.

I think you making something out of nothing.

And now you know he doesn't understand why you find it funny I think you should stop openly laughing about it cos then thats cruel

I would that endearing, quickly put a smile on my face type of thing

And remember there is no such thing as a normal person

SparrowNest · 08/10/2021 08:59

It sounds like you’ve developed contempt for him. I get why you find the phrasing funny, I guess, though I don’t think it’s as out there was you seem to. I do think it’s awful for him to be constantly mocked by his partner like this. I think if someone posted this story from his side I’d tell them their partner was trying to undermine their confidence, and was borderline emotionally abusive.

asadlittleflower · 08/10/2021 09:00

@CandleWick4. I am all for MN banning calling female posters, Bitches, but what about Mil and Sil threads? There was a thread not so long ago with the AIBU question, 'Are all SILS bitches? ' The OP got loads of support until someone pointed out that she was a Sil too.
So let's campaign to ban the use of Bitch as a term of abuse as long as it includes, Mils, Sils, Mums in the playground clique, work colleagues.
Perhaps also add 'Narc' as an undiagnosed term of abuse on MN?

KurtWilde · 08/10/2021 09:00

And now you know he doesn't understand why you find it funny I think you should stop openly laughing about it cos then thats cruel

This.

PinkSyCo · 08/10/2021 09:02

Haha I don’t really know what to say about your post except thanks for the laugh. Grin I think your think your DH sounds rather lovely, a bit intense but lovely. Don’t take his good nature for granted by taking the piss out of his quirk too much though. You’d probably miss it if he changed. Smile

MmeD · 08/10/2021 09:02

Embrace it. Or send him to me. I have days when I’m the star of the movie of my life, he sounds as though he has wonderful leading man potential. 😁

lnsufficientFuns · 08/10/2021 09:02

He sounds fabulous op 😂

Keep laughing x

KosherDill · 08/10/2021 09:03

@Sunseeker90

He sounds lovely and it must irk him when you laugh at him. Especially as he said what funny now.
I know. If someone repeatedly burst out laughing at me, I'd be leaving them.
FallonBeesley · 08/10/2021 09:03

Amazing Grin I think it’s hilarious too!

TwoLeftSocksWithHoles · 08/10/2021 09:03

I've done the reverse, said a line from a film and everyone thought it was from me! We were about to go out and someone said that they thought it might rain, and I said...

"I love the rain, it washes memories off the sidewalk of life."

It said by Woody Allen in the film 'Play It Again Sam'.

...and they almost gasped and said that's very profound!

AllyBama · 08/10/2021 09:05

Wow, you sound really mean. Openly laughing and mocking your partner for his personality traits. Do you even like him? Do you have the ick and this is how it’s manifesting? Poor guy, let him go find someone nice.

NatashaRf · 08/10/2021 09:07

Is he ND?

Just sounds like a quirk.

My eldest can phrase things quite unusually. (ADHD possible ASD) But on the flip side her writing and imagination are incredible.

knittingaddict · 08/10/2021 09:08

You're laughing at him, not with him and that is going to have a horrible impact on him eventually. How would you feel if you had a habit or quirk that made you partner laugh at you? I feel sorry for him and if you find him that ridiculous, send him back before you make him feel even worse about himself.

cantbeforeal · 08/10/2021 09:08

My ex did this but it was because he was trying to create a romanticised version of himself instead of the abusive person he actually was.

TimeForTeaAndG · 08/10/2021 09:10

@YesIDoLoveCrisps

Print out all the quotes he says and frame then or get them made as those wall stickers. Eventually your house will be covered in them and he might get embarrassed.
Do not do this. How cruel! I had a guy who started writing down any of the quirky things I said so he could read them back later and laugh at me. It ruined my confidence.

He's always been like this OP so why are you now laughing at him (or have you always laughed and somehow he hasn't told you to fuck off yet?)

KingRoloIV · 08/10/2021 09:10

Oh I love this!! Gave me a bit of a laugh too, he sounds lovely.

Northernparent68 · 08/10/2021 09:11

@CallMeMabel

I get that it could be funny and annoying at the same time. But I also think you sound a bit mean and not half as funny as you think you are. I know which one I'd rather spend time with.
This.
Justbecauseofit · 08/10/2021 09:12

It is funny yes, I'd laugh too! He sounds like a sweetheart.

But think of it the other way around how grinding down it would be if DP kept laughing at you and mocking you for saying things and still did even though you were clearly embarrassed? I'd be careful OP, you don't want to be that person in the relationship who shames someone for who they are.

I'd be tempted to join in the fun and movie quote him back.

FatsoGatso · 08/10/2021 09:14

@pumpkinfan

This sounds hilarious. But don't make too big a deal of it, he might stop!
Yep - a lifetime filled with cheesy movie sayings delivered deadpan and dead serious sounds quite entertaining to me Grin
TheLongDrop · 08/10/2021 09:15

Shame you have to mock his humour.

knittingaddict · 08/10/2021 09:17

Also what he said about "in all his 33? years he had never seen the ocean", what's wrong with saying that? It's a fact and doesn't sound particularly pretentious or wordy. Perhaps he has a much better vocabulary and is more articulate than you op. Perhaps he should find someone he can talk to on his level.

Disfordarkchocolate · 08/10/2021 09:17

I'd love this.

I occasionally talk like Yoda. Happy it makes me.

RavensWig · 08/10/2021 09:19

Aww don't laugh at him he sounds very sweet. Just quote him right back with something out of context.

"Walk with me?"
"Toto, I've a feeling we're not in Kansas anymore."

MaeD · 08/10/2021 09:19

I dunno, to me it sounds like in some of those moments at least he’s trying to express himself in a deeper and more emotional way, maybe a bit more creativity or even romantically. I think it’s a little harsh to burst out laughing at him and shut him down. Even if that’s not his ‘normal’ way of speaking, perhaps in these moments he’s trying to be more expressive and keeps being shut down and laughed at. Seems a little sad to me.

Most of your examples don’t sound movie-ish to me, they sound like someone who is just trying to express things differently. The ocean reaction is also really sad - was it really his first ever time seeing the ocean at that age and you laughed at him for how he expressed that and found it negative in some way?

I realise this thread is split and some find it very funny, and I can see why it’s a bit amusing but I also find it sad that this guy is being laughed at whenever he tries to be more expressive to his partner.

LadyLothbrook · 08/10/2021 09:19

Hahaha. I would love that. My type of humour. I feel bad by my DH is similar and makes me laugh without meaning to all the time. He doesn't realise how unintentionally funny he is.