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Aibu to think this isn’t what happens to most people?

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TurnUpTurnip · 07/10/2021 13:25

I was kicked out of home at 16, there was no reason for this, my mum did it with all of her children, once you turned 16 you were out and we weren’t allowed back in, she made us go down to the council and I was put in the most awful hostel. My flat was broken into weekly, they stole everything and I mean everything, even my lamp shades. There was a druggy living above me with his partner and it was him who kept doing it. Police and council wouldn’t help and I was left with it for 2 years, I would come home and my door would be kicked off and the flat ransacked. I ended up getting kicked out of the hostel and evicted because I ran up so much rent arrears as I wasn’t mature enough to be responsible for paying for bills, I was suffering from depression and barely left the flat so before I knew it I was in rent arrears (I was getting HB but I think they suspended the claim at one point) I mentioned now as an adult that I would never throw my children out and they will always have a place at my house but she seems to take great offence to this and maintains that what she did was right, she also says it’s normal and happens to most people. She said most people kick their kids out and if my son plays up she will say things like “and you’ve never going to kick him out when he’s older” 🙄

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Sceptre86 · 09/10/2021 15:35

What do you want to get from this post? It might happen in some circles, like for example amongst your mum's friends but it isn't OK. Your mum let you down when you were a child and sounds unpleasant to be around as an adult. If you need her help I guess you will have to put up with her. Only you know your financial circumstances and if they would allow paid support I'm sure you would have gone down that route. The only advice I would have is to stand your ground and try to enforce boundaries. You aren't a child anymore and she doesn't hold all the power, don't allow her to have any all over you x

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