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Obscene voicemail would I BU to report it? TMI warning.

278 replies

tinnedpears · 03/10/2021 19:05

So there were three missed calls on my mobile, and a voicemail.

Picked up the voicemail and much to my surprise was treated to a couple of minutes of some saddo wanking.

Amongst the groaning, he called me by my name and informed me that he's found me on google and that it was 'dead fucking easy' to find me. Said he was hoping I'd return his call. I'm a self employed physio, so someone wanting to find me on google would do so really easily.

He didn't bother withholding his number. Should I report him do you think, or just laugh it off?

OP posts:
Sandpiper77 · 04/10/2021 17:46

Absoutely, you must in the light of all that has happened. This could well be how the guy that has just gone down for murdering Sarah Everard got started.

RaRaRabbit · 04/10/2021 17:46

Laugh it off 🤨

100% report him.

Suzanne999 · 04/10/2021 17:46

Definitely report to the police.
Why should you, or anyone else, put up with this disgusting behaviour.

littleorchard45 · 04/10/2021 17:50

Definitely report it!!!

CambsAlways · 04/10/2021 17:51

I wouldn’t think it remotely funny he’s a pervert , telling you it’s easy to find you! You don’t know what he’s up to with others! I’d definitely report him and name and shame

whatistheworld · 04/10/2021 17:53

report asap, whats the progession from wanking on a phone call??? make sure you know who is booking in with you and have a plan for it you are in a difficult position.
what a dirty bastard

Mumoblue · 04/10/2021 17:53

Absolutely report it!
What a disgusting pig. I hope someone else comes up with better advice on finding the number, seems like you’ve tried everything I would have tried. I hope you find out who it is and get them reported & otherwise name and shame them. What a pig! The fucking audacity of some men. Angry

wildchild554 · 04/10/2021 17:54

Report it, not meaning to scare you but could easily escalate into a worse situation. I remember receiving obscene messages from someone who'd seen me when I was working and described in detail what I was wearing etc and that he'd been watching me and following me. I reported it and the police dealt with it. Report it and they can follow it up, warn him off, and then you also have the incident on record.

bellabasset · 04/10/2021 17:56

Definitely report this, can the police not look at the calls made by this no to see if there are any others?

carol707 · 04/10/2021 17:56

You could google WHO CALLED ME where people also post on the pages of the phone number if it is a scam, genuine call, and comment on the contents and how many people have looked up the number and also where the numberis based (at least on a land line).

I hope this might be another idea to help you

wildchild554 · 04/10/2021 17:58

also if you have the number give it to the police.

Muchtoomuchtodo · 04/10/2021 17:59

Well done and thank you for reporting op.

I used the online 101 form this summer to report antisocial behaviour. They sent someone out immediately to see what was going on and I got a written response the next day. Hopefully they’ll get looking into this quickly too

Karleeb30 · 04/10/2021 18:01

Report report report!

hellosunshineagainx · 04/10/2021 18:03

Put the number into whatsapp and see if there is a name/photo and screen shot. And report to police too

IrishMel · 04/10/2021 18:03

Report the dirty sod. That is just gross. I would not let that go as it could escalate. Did you recognize the voice at all. This is how things start and then that person needs a bigger kick.

Mirw · 04/10/2021 18:05

The crime is sexual assault. It might have been a voice mail but he phoned you with the intention of abusing you. If the police decide it is not sexual assault at lease you will have been interviewed. Anything less they may not get back to you. The very least it is is sexual harassment.

FairfaxAikman · 04/10/2021 18:12

The crime is sexual assault

No it's not. It's a communications offence.

Bertiebiscuit · 04/10/2021 18:15

REPORT HIM - So sorry he did this to you, what a vile human being, but it sounds very frightening to me

Annie202 · 04/10/2021 18:16

Definitely report it!

LynetteScavo · 04/10/2021 18:18

100% Report! Angry

SaltySheepdog · 04/10/2021 18:20

This is probably a gateway sexual offence to worse sexual offences. Best report to protect other women who may get more serious offences in the future from the same person

JulesRimetStillGleaming · 04/10/2021 18:21

Report it. Don't do anything stupid like trying to get people to prank call him. Then you'll get accused of harassment. Just let the police deal with it.

Bebethany · 04/10/2021 18:23

You must report this, it’s a serious offence. Why are you even asking, I’m shocked that you might want consensus to ‘laugh it off’. As a health care professional and especially a physio, you have the ‘4 pillars/corners’ of wellness, one being mental health, so do the right thing please ASAP!

MissCruellaDeVil · 04/10/2021 18:23

How creepy. Be very careful with appointments OP. Do you practice alone or are there people in the same building as you close by in case you needed help?

FreyaonFire · 04/10/2021 18:27

I'm so sorry you've had to put up with a very gross, threatening call. Please report him. So important to at least have a record of it, if he does it again, or escalates.

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