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AIBU?

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Puppy jumping on exercising man

320 replies

disculpe · 02/10/2021 16:26

Perfectly happy to be told I'm being U but I don't think I am. Took my 10 month old puppy (German shepherd) out for a walk this morning with my DS. As most puppies that age are, she is naturally cheeky and pushes the boundaries at times. She is pretty much always walked on a leash because most of the time it's too busy and if she sees another dog she will go mad and try to play as well as jump up on them, so we are careful to make sure she's not able to play with dogs who don't want to play, and so she doesn't knock children over in her excitement.
There is a field near us where we often take the dog on Sat and Sun mornings. It's always quiet on weekend mornings, not many dogs there, and we have been letting her off the lead to play ball there and teach her to come back to us without having to worry about other people or dogs. Was all going well this morning - she was fetching the ball nicely and when people walked past us along the path she completely ignored them and carried on being well behaved. Then a man on a bike stopped about 15 feet from us. He could clearly see us as he kept looking over. Then he started exercising, even though this field is huge and he could have exercised literally anywhere else, a lot further away from a woman, young child and unpredictable puppy. My dog ignored him, carried on playing fetch so I didn't put her on her leash because she was behaving. After about 10 minutes this man started doing push ups and something about that movement excited my dog and she ran over to him, putting her face in his and running around him trying to play. I'm not defending her behavior, I would never want her doing that to anyone and completely understand that German shepherds are big and can look intimidating, and not everyone wants a dog in their face. He started screaming and shouting at me about how I should control my dog, I managed to get her back on her leash and then shouted back at him that of all the places he chose to exercise was within a few feet of me when there was a huge area with no dogs in it that he could have chosen instead. Got my dog back on the lead and walked home with my son. When I got home I realized just how intimidating his behavior was - what sort of person chooses to encroach on someone's space like that? Especially a strange man getting uncomfortably close to a lone woman and child. I know I could have put my dog on her leash and found another spot to play ball as soon as he turned up but the stubborn bitch in me was like "I was here first" and I assumed that as he'd chosen to be there he wasn't too concerned about my dog. I messaged my husband (he's working away) the second I got back and he said no decent man would get that close to an unknown woman in a field when there was ample space elsewhere because decent men don't want to make women feel uncomfortable. So, AIBU for getting angry with him and for not putting my dog on a leash the second he pitched up next to us or was he BU?

OP posts:
sunglassesonthetable · 03/10/2021 16:36

*1. No demanding or confrontation

  1. Read my previous posts instead of jumping in and making yourself sound like an idiot with your fresh air comment
  2. Exactly how much space should a dog owner be allowed in a public space? Just so the rest of us know.*

Nah have read all your posts, cheers.

You still sound like you're bored and spoiling for a ruck.

Trying to imagine exactly what voice you would be saying No 3 in? Get real.

@SirChenjins

DoraMaude · 03/10/2021 16:39

I love dogs but I think you are being very unreasonable.

SirChenjins · 03/10/2021 16:44

Just so you’re clear - I couldn’t give a flying fuck what you think I sound like.

sunglassesonthetable · 03/10/2021 16:52

I kind of guessed that. @SirChenjins

But I'm guessing it would be very pompous.

Who exactly do you want to answer your question about the definitive amount of space , "dog owners" need "to themselves in public"?

Most people on here ( including the OP ) agree her dog should have been put back on a lead.

SirChenjins · 03/10/2021 16:58

Who do you think should answer that question? I hadn’t anyone particular in mind - feel free to give it a whirl. Or not. I don’t care.

Well spotted - most people do indeed think the OP should have put her dog on a lead and the OP agrees.

starfishmummy · 03/10/2021 17:03

YABU.
He didn't encroach on your space. He was, according to your post, in a public place 15 feet away. And while I quite like dogs I would not want any dog, let alone one I don't know putting their face anywhere near mine.

As for your "I was here first" comment, my response to such a childish remark would be to tell you to take turns and it was "my turn" to be there now.

WeRTheOnesWeHaveBeenWaitingFor · 03/10/2021 17:17

I think he was BU.
It’s not normal behaviour to get really close to other people when you have plenty of space, it sets off my weirdo alarm.
My dog is a similar age and while he has good recall most of the time someone going to the ground like that would likely trigger him to want to investigate/play. He saw the dog and he can’t expect every dog to be completely instantly bomb proof with all their training 100% of the time. It’s not like he bit him.

jesusmaryjosephandtheweedonkey · 03/10/2021 17:26

You sound completely entitled. The guy was 15 feet away and you wasn't controlling your dog.

Mushypeasandchipstogo · 03/10/2021 17:41

Sorry but you are being very unreasonable and should have control of your dog at all times. I do think that the man was being a bit weird coming very near to you to exercise but I think that you should have put your dog on a lead at that point.

LookieLikie · 03/10/2021 17:45

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sunglassesonthetable · 03/10/2021 17:52

Who do you think should answer that question? I hadn’t anyone particular in mind - feel free to give it a whirl. Or not. I don’t care.

answer something as stupid and confrontational as that ? Give over.

ChamberofSecrets69 · 03/10/2021 17:52

@LookieLikie

I have not rttt. But dog owners like you make my blood boil. Keep it on a leash in public spaces. Simple. Why should we modify our behaviour for an animal that benefits us not one iota. If that dog had raced towards me or my kidsAngry
@lookieLikie

And why should everyone else modify their behaviour for you and your family, you don't benefit them one iota either!

WildfirePonie · 03/10/2021 17:55

YABU.

SirChenjins · 03/10/2021 17:57

@sunglassesonthetable

Who do you think should answer that question? I hadn’t anyone particular in mind - feel free to give it a whirl. Or not. I don’t care.

answer something as stupid and confrontational as that ? Give over.

As I have already said, I don’t care what you think or if you answer it.
sunglassesonthetable · 03/10/2021 18:02

Did anyone answer it? @SirChenjins

WhatAShilohPitt · 03/10/2021 18:06

Have you been to proper puppy training classes? They don’t usually advise training recall without distractions eg people and other dogs, simply because that’s what you’re teaching your dog to be recalled away from. Other people and dogs should be part of the training as otherwise you have recall that’s great when the dog has nothing better on offer and then you’ll struggle when there’s an exciting person doing a press-up, which is what happened. You’d be better using a longline until recall around distractions is absolutely reliable.

SirChenjins · 03/10/2021 18:11

You’re unhealthily obsessed by my question @sunglassesonthetable - you need to let it go now. I’m not going to engage with you any further.

sunglassesonthetable · 03/10/2021 18:14

hmm, maybe.@SirChenjins

Just wondering why posters like you want to pick fights.

I don't think anyone is going to bite on your aggressive question.

sunglassesonthetable · 03/10/2021 18:16

I’m not going to engage with you any further.

@SirChenjins 👍🏻

Quirrelsotherface · 03/10/2021 18:28

YANBU
I'd be the first to say you should keep your dog on lead if no recall etc etc but given this guy's behavior, looking over and standing near you..nah he was just waiting for her to do that so he could start a fight. Angry man.

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