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To think this guy leaving me money is so strange?

428 replies

brooksandvicki · 27/09/2021 17:32

Was out last night and met a guy, brought him home and had a one night stand. Had a good night and he left this morning, I then went to work. When I got home I noticed there is a twenty pound note on the side he was 'sleeping'. He obviously does not think I'm a prostitute but why in the hell would he leave that?

AIBU to think this is very very strange?

OP posts:
Quick99 · 27/09/2021 19:49

What was the wording of your msg to him op?

GreenTeaBlackCoffeeAndRedWine · 27/09/2021 19:50

Now go spend that 20 quid and enjoy those drinks. I'm glad you asked too

Limejuiceandrum · 27/09/2021 19:53

They do say if you leave something it’s because you want them to get back in touch with you !
Maybe he did that

KurtWilde · 27/09/2021 19:54

Great update, the one I was hoping for! Have a nice treat!

BeaFlowers · 27/09/2021 19:56

So it fell out of his pocket then?

CandyLeBonBon · 27/09/2021 19:59

@brooksandvicki

He replied, sorry for the boring update...'Hi, of course I wouldn't think you're a thief, I didn't even realise to be honest. Don't worry about transferring it back, buy yourself a drink or two on me next time you're out. Hope you're not as rough as me today'. 😂 sorry very anticlimactic!
Good update thanks op!
GunsNMoses · 27/09/2021 19:59

@brooksandvicki

He replied, sorry for the boring update...'Hi, of course I wouldn't think you're a thief, I didn't even realise to be honest. Don't worry about transferring it back, buy yourself a drink or two on me next time you're out. Hope you're not as rough as me today'. 😂 sorry very anticlimactic!
Oh I'd now go back with 'how about I buy us both one?' 😉
TheYearOfSmallThings · 27/09/2021 20:00

Score! You haven't been insulted and you're up £20.

ripples101 · 27/09/2021 20:00

@brooksandvicki

He replied, sorry for the boring update...'Hi, of course I wouldn't think you're a thief, I didn't even realise to be honest. Don't worry about transferring it back, buy yourself a drink or two on me next time you're out. Hope you're not as rough as me today'. 😂 sorry very anticlimactic!
Hahahaha

Sorry but this is so funny.

Makes some of the posts on this thread look so bitter.

OuiOuiBonjour · 27/09/2021 20:01

@brooksandvicki

He replied, sorry for the boring update...'Hi, of course I wouldn't think you're a thief, I didn't even realise to be honest. Don't worry about transferring it back, buy yourself a drink or two on me next time you're out. Hope you're not as rough as me today'. 😂 sorry very anticlimactic!
Glad to hear it and that he wasn't a wrong 'un! Phew!
ripples101 · 27/09/2021 20:02

@MeridasMum

He's vile. He knows you're not a prostitute but is insulting you by leaving what he thinks you would be worth if you were. Disgusting piece of shit. So you know him? I'd shame him to everyone I know for that behaviour
How do you feel now?
LST · 27/09/2021 20:04

@ripples101

Seeing as everyone is jumping to conclusions, why didn’t you stick a £20 note in his wallet?

You both shagged each other. You’re no better than him in that respect at least.

Eh? In what respect? Is consensual sex a problem?
grapewine · 27/09/2021 20:05

@MeridasMum

He's vile. He knows you're not a prostitute but is insulting you by leaving what he thinks you would be worth if you were. Disgusting piece of shit. So you know him? I'd shame him to everyone I know for that behaviour
I mean, I hope you're happy with the monumental leap you made here.
TwinsandTrifle · 27/09/2021 20:06

Nothing to add, just following to see what he says!

Sally872 · 27/09/2021 20:06

Nice ending, thanks for update OP.

cricketmum84 · 27/09/2021 20:07

Chinese and a bottle of wine! Plus a decent shag! Lucky you OP!

SecretKeeper1 · 27/09/2021 20:07

How do you feel now?

Exactly. It’s no wonder women have a reputation for being uptight and touchy. This thread is a brilliant example of why that might be.

Win win for the OP I would say!

RickJames · 27/09/2021 20:07

Yay! @brooksandvicki

He doesn't think you are a prostitution whore! (Ron Burgundy reference)

What are you going to spend the 20 quid on?

DumplingsAndStew · 27/09/2021 20:09

Are you happy with that outcome? Were you not going to see him again? I'm kind of wondering if he was hoping to see you, given he gave you his number this morning.

OuiOuiBonjour · 27/09/2021 20:09

So are you happy to just leave it as a ONS or would you like to see him again?

He left his number, I'm presuming without you asking him to give it to you. He's sent a pretty decent reply.

I'll admit my suggested text was written with the suggested bank transfer in it, in case he was a nasty piece of work and as a way of letting him know you didn't want to see him again anyway.

But...if you did want to see him again, I think there's an easy way to arrange that.

"Ah, thanks, no worries. Or I could get the drinks next time if you want to meet up again?" Plus flirty response to the whole "feeling rough" thing that I'm too awkward to come up with Blush.

But only if you actually did want to see him again.

Thevoiceofreason2021 · 27/09/2021 20:10

Urghhh what an absolute dick. Give the money to charity, rid yourself of his nasty vibes….

SecretKeeper1 · 27/09/2021 20:12

@Thevoiceofreason2021

Urghhh what an absolute dick. Give the money to charity, rid yourself of his nasty vibes….
Why is he nasty and a dick? Confused
MintyGreenDream · 27/09/2021 20:12

Bottle of wine and a maccys win win.

JacquelineCarlyle · 27/09/2021 20:13

Great outcome - glad you asked Op!

Explosivefarts · 27/09/2021 20:14

Great update he sounds like a good un