to be really annoyed at my partner for cutting our 13 month old's hair?

[somewhereonplanetearth]

Our 13 month old son had beautiful curls. He got lots of compliments on them and I loved running my fingers through to them.

My partner always said if we cut his hair it can grow back stronger and it would be easier for us to massage his head with coconut oil to get rid of the dry skin.

I agreed that my partner could take him for a hair cut, but I told him not to cut it too short.

He then came back like this. Before and after picture is attached.

I'm really sad and angry at my partner 😭

Even my mother says he looks poorly like that, like a sick child.

AIBU?

Oh dear he's been scalped

@dementedpixie

Oh dear he's been scalped

😭😭😭

It’s only hair
It grows back

I think a buzz looks cute xx

It doesn’t look as bad as you think but I can understand why you’re upset about it.

Many 13m olds have hair like his new cut. It will grow back thicker and stronger.

It's difficult to give a wriggly 13 mo a trim. It's hair, it'll grow.

Having it cut will make no difference to thickness or strength. It's done now I suppose but hopefully it grows back quickly

I’d be so so upset.

Looks much better IMO. Neater and tidier. In all honesty, it doesn't look 'curly' in the before pic anyhow.

In any case, hair or no hair, is he not your beautiful son regardless?

I’d be gutted.

What does your mother mean - a poorly child?

If they were curls and not baby ringlets then they'll grow back the same. If he had taken him for a haircut without mentioning it that's different to taking him for a haircut and having his hair cut...

@RobertaFirmino

Looks much better IMO. Neater and tidier. In all honesty, it doesn't look 'curly' in the before pic anyhow.

The before picture was a hot day and we were out and about, so it looked messy and sweaty.

I'd have been upset and annoyed if it had been a girl, but I see no problem in giving a boy a short haircut.

Why are some people (mums) so obsessed with keeping their baby/toddler son's hair long?

YABU @somewhereonplanetearth

@RobertaFirmino

Looks much better IMO. Neater and tidier. In all honesty, it doesn't look 'curly' in the before pic anyhow.

This. ^ As I said, the cut looks much better on a boy.

@nimbuscloud

What does your mother mean - a poorly child?

Guessing a child with cancer who has lost their hair to chemo, which is really fucking offensive.

@RobertaFirmino

In any case, hair or no hair, is he not your beautiful son regardless?

Yes, of course. I'm just scrolling through old pictures before the haircut now and getting upset.

Lol he doesnt look sick or poorly! How offensive could you be - lots of 13m olds, especially white, fair haired ones, have sod all hair at that age. It will grow back in a month and your partner has a point that if his scalp needs oiling for dry skin or cradle cap etc it's a lot easier and less messy etc if a baby has short hair.

Why are some people (mums) so obsessed with keeping their baby/toddler son's hair long? confused

It's funny isnt it. And it's always boys and the hair is rarely brushed, tied or clipped back so its tidy and out of their eyes. Whereas most girls at least lots if people tie or clip it out of their eyes.

@MyPatronusIsACat

I'd have been upset and annoyed if it had been a girl, but I see no problem in giving a boy a short haircut.

Why are some people (mums) so obsessed with keeping their baby/toddler son's hair long?

YABU @somewhereonplanetearth

Why's it okay to do it on a boy and not a girl?

Is that because girls are meant to have long hair and boys are meant to have short hair?

OP, I do think YAB a bit U. It will grow back and you did know he was going to take him for a hair cut.

It's hair, it'll grow back. You're being a bit precious.
As for mum, what an offensive and unnecessary comment.

@MyPatronusIsACat

the cut looks much better on a boy.

Eh? At 13 months girls and boys are indistinguishable, assuming they're wearing at least a nappy. Like you literally can't tell them apart. What looks good on one will therefore look good on the other.

@Rhubarbsoup

I think that's what she meant. She doesn't mean to be offensive, it just the way she talks and she doesn't realize how she comes across