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Original poster

Why are women with husbands so jealous and hurtful towards other single women?

527 replies

beigebrownblue · 26/09/2021 19:57

Ok. I'm divorced.

I have absolutely ZILCH desire to hook up with a man.

None. Nil. Nichts. Nada.

I have been taking myself out once a week to eat at a local restaurant. Not cheap, but it is the only break I get.

I have noticed that the woman who is mangeress of the restaurant is really off with me and does not seem to be able to accept my presence.

I dress down. For a long time I've not wanted to be noticed by anyone actually. Often I read a book.

Her other half cooks in the kitchen.

Why is it that she insists on being territorial with me, on this one?

Are women so threatened nowadays?

Yes, perhaps her other half has history, but why blame a customer?

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TractorAndHeadphones · 26/09/2021 22:13

@BrightYellowDaffodil

It's considerate to not linger unduly in a busy restaurant unless you keep ordering. As a former waitress I've seen single customers order a starter, not even a drink - then stay there for 3 hours. Of course it's their 'right' to be there but it costs the restaurant money.

@TractorAndHeadphones Can you point to the part in OP’s post that makes you think she’s “lingering”?

Wasn't talking about the poster - was challenging your odd statement about 'single women not being allowed to go out to eat', because of 'space'. It's not about space it's about the amount they order. But carry on wilfully misunderstanding.
DroopyClematis · 26/09/2021 22:14

@beigebrownblue

C8H

And I'm not a bad tipper.
I am a brillian tiipper because I really appreciate the service and the food.

perhaps women are not supposed to go out to eat at all.
Misogyny in action.

Eh?
Honestmary · 26/09/2021 22:15

Or maybe she thinks you fancy her and wanted to let you know she is married, hence her not being friendly too. I mean, that’s as possible as your assumption 🤔

Coronawireless · 26/09/2021 22:16

Hmmm interesting one.
Maybe she’s angry because she knows that by ordering the most expensive item her DH has cooked you are sending him a secret message that you like his meat and two veg.
I would be angry too if I was her.

Original poster
beigebrownblue · 26/09/2021 22:16

@GlendaSugarbeanIsJudgingYou

And how would she even know if you were single?

Yes, did you tell her?

Do you wear a badge?

No, I didn't say. Why would you think I had?
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TractorAndHeadphones · 26/09/2021 22:17

Also OP - your posts are very disjointed. It's hard to understand what's going on.
I doubt that the manager just walked up to you and declared she was married to the chef - whose existence you knew about ... how?
People are doubting you because you're not revealing enough information to make a judgement and your posts are all over the place.

Original poster
beigebrownblue · 26/09/2021 22:18

@Coronawireless

Hmmm interesting one. Maybe she’s angry because she knows that by ordering the most expensive item her DH has cooked you are sending him a secret message that you like his meat and two veg. I would be angry too if I was her.
Oh fuck. So women are not allowed to order items that are on the menu now? Who would criticise men for doing that?
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Sparklesocks · 26/09/2021 22:19

Oh fuck. So women are not allowed to order items that are on the menu now?
Who would criticise men for doing that?

Err I don’t think that poster was serious…

Original poster
beigebrownblue · 26/09/2021 22:19

@TractorAndHeadphones

Also OP - your posts are very disjointed. It's hard to understand what's going on. I doubt that the manager just walked up to you and declared she was married to the chef - whose existence you knew about ... how? People are doubting you because you're not revealing enough information to make a judgement and your posts are all over the place.
Actually she did just that. No. My posts are quite comprehensible.
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BrightYellowDaffodil · 26/09/2021 22:19

Wasn't talking about the poster - was challenging your odd statement about 'single women not being allowed to go out to eat', because of 'space'. It's not about space it's about the amount they order. But carry on wilfully misunderstanding.

My “odd statement” was in response to an earlier comment about a single person taking up a table for two (or more), and therefore preventing a fully-occupied table from which the restaurant would make more money. I still don’t see how a restaurant knowingly accepting a single booking would equate to the customer “lingering”, but carry on wilfully misunderstanding.

Clymene · 26/09/2021 22:20

Maybe she's just really grumpy?

GreyhoundG1rl · 26/09/2021 22:20

No, I didn't say.
Why would you think I had?
Because it's the very basis of your (admittedly very confusing) op!

ambereeree · 26/09/2021 22:20

Maybe you should go somewhere else to eat?

Original poster
beigebrownblue · 26/09/2021 22:21

@Coronawireless

Hmmm interesting one. Maybe she’s angry because she knows that by ordering the most expensive item her DH has cooked you are sending him a secret message that you like his meat and two veg. I would be angry too if I was her.
Its the only thing on the menu I like and can eat, actually. Nutrition wise.
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znaika · 26/09/2021 22:21

I don't understand the restaurant scenario properly in any way so cant comment.

However, it is the case that a certain kind of married women is vile to single women. The sneering mainly, disappointment when you're not poor and your child isn't fucked up and absolutely definitely not inviting you to things, even if it's a "family day" because you're not a proper family (tinkly little laugh)
Most women are not like this, but there is a type unfortunately

GreyhoundG1rl · 26/09/2021 22:21

My posts are quite comprehensible.
They're not, you know.

GreyhoundG1rl · 26/09/2021 22:22

@znaika

I don't understand the restaurant scenario properly in any way so cant comment.

However, it is the case that a certain kind of married women is vile to single women. The sneering mainly, disappointment when you're not poor and your child isn't fucked up and absolutely definitely not inviting you to things, even if it's a "family day" because you're not a proper family (tinkly little laugh)
Most women are not like this, but there is a type unfortunately

God almighty...
Waspsarearseholes · 26/09/2021 22:22

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Malldelly · 26/09/2021 22:22

Is english your first language op? Maybe there was something lost in translation.

DrSbaitso · 26/09/2021 22:22

Oh fuck. So women are not allowed to order items that are on the menu now?

The fact that you took that post seriously is making me doubt how reliably you read your interaction with the manageress.

TractorAndHeadphones · 26/09/2021 22:22

@GreyhoundG1rl

No, I didn't say. Why would you think I had? Because it's the very basis of your (admittedly very confusing) op!
As seen in her reply to me OP thinks that her post(s) are perfectly comprehensible Hmm
Original poster
beigebrownblue · 26/09/2021 22:22

@Honestmary

Or maybe she thinks you fancy her and wanted to let you know she is married, hence her not being friendly too. I mean, that’s as possible as your assumption 🤔
No one would think that a bloke felt like this. They would leave him be an d appreciate the custom.
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TractorAndHeadphones · 26/09/2021 22:22

X- posted @GreyhoundG1rl!

GlendaSugarbeanIsJudgingYou · 26/09/2021 22:23

How else would she know you are single if you didn't tell her?

DrSbaitso · 26/09/2021 22:24

I'm starting to doubt the authenticity of this entire OP. I did think the title was egregiously nasty...

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