Why are women with husbands so jealous and hurtful towards other single women?

[beigebrownblue]

Ok. I'm divorced.

I have absolutely ZILCH desire to hook up with a man.

None. Nil. Nichts. Nada.

I have been taking myself out once a week to eat at a local restaurant. Not cheap, but it is the only break I get.

I have noticed that the woman who is mangeress of the restaurant is really off with me and does not seem to be able to accept my presence.

I dress down. For a long time I've not wanted to be noticed by anyone actually. Often I read a book.

Her other half cooks in the kitchen.

Why is it that she insists on being territorial with me, on this one?

Are women so threatened nowadays?

Yes, perhaps her other half has history, but why blame a customer?

[gobbynorthernbird]

Also, if I were to be treated with distain by the staff of a restaurant or bar, I wouldn't be returning.

[Bluntness100]

It’s illogical though, thinking the bloke in the kitchen fancies you has cheated on her and she’s jealous of you.

That’s a leap that’s mind boggling.

[PhillMcCann]

We just know we can't compete with you and we're scared our husbands are going to run off and leave us for you 😭😭

[Stormyequine]

Does she even know you are single? As far as I am aware married women are allowed to eat out on their own too.

[Footprintsonthemoon1]

Honestly I bet she doesnt give a shit about you. You need a better book cos your imagination is running wild

[YouMeandtheSpew]

So we’re talking about one woman, and you appear to be able to read her mind. She’s a ‘bit off’ with you which must mean she’s threatened by you.

[slashlover]

How would she even know you're single?

[Merryoldgoat]

What on earth makes you think it’s that?

[LagunaBubbles]

You don't have a clue what this woman is thinking, bit of a leap to say she's jealous of you, thats a bit full of yourself.

[Smartiepants79]

I am jealous of no single women and certainly not of someone who has gone through the stress of a divorce.
I trust my DH he works and even socialises with single women. It is not an issue.

[IveGotASongThatllGetOnYNerves]

How does she know you are single? What makes you think that she knows you are single and sees you as a threat? What makes you think she is insecure? What makes you think he isn't in the kitchen because that's his job?
Maybe she's just rude or brisk.

[Imissmoominmama]

You tell us; you’ve been married, so you must know…

[MrsR87]

I don’t understand this thread. I’m a married woman and I don’t know why I would be specifically jealous of a single woman. What freedoms do you have that I don’t? I’m so confused!

I might envy you if you are drop dead gorgeous or if you possess a talent I don’t…but for being single….???

[IveGotASongThatllGetOnYNerves]

And no. You can't say anything about married women as a group because one woman doesn't seem very friendly to you and her husband works in the kitchen of their restaurant.

I'm interested what she is actually saying that makes you believe she resents your presence.

Maybe you should start leaving a good tip. 🤷‍♀️

[Bluntness100]

Honestly I’m all for self confidence but assuming her bloke fancies you, she’s threatened and jealous of you and making the assumption he’s cheated on her before, and thus clearly wants to cheat with you, is a whole other level.

Is that what you sit there thinking? How hot you are and how much the chef must fancy you?

[DontWiltMySpinachPlease]

"I'm not like the other girls"

[NeverDropYourMooncup]

Could you look a bit scruffy in her 'not cheap' restaurant, sitting there for hours with a book and not spending much money?

If somebody's on a table for two, spending the minimum amount, not drinking alcohol and taking their sweet time about it, they could be making far more money with two people having a treat meal for a special occasion - and then another couple afterwards.

[IveGotASongThatllGetOnYNerves]

@NeverDropYourMooncup

Could you look a bit scruffy in her 'not cheap' restaurant, sitting there for hours with a book and not spending much money?

If somebody's on a table for two, spending the minimum amount, not drinking alcohol and taking their sweet time about it, they could be making far more money with two people having a treat meal for a special occasion - and then another couple afterwards.

I'd put money on this being it.

[KingdomScrolls]

Maybe she just thinks you're a dick

[playinginashadow]

I'm married. But I often go out on my own for lunch or a coffee when DH is at work and the children are at school.

No one gives me a second glance. Do I give off an 'I'm married' vibe?

It's not because I wear a ring either, I don't. It's too small since having babies and we've not got around to having it resized!

[Bluntness100]

@KingdomScrolls

Maybe she just thinks you're a dick

There’s alway this,,

[BiscuitLover09876]

It sounds like you're pretty angry. Maybe giving off some pretty angry body language?

Or this woman may just have her own issues. Or be a bitch!

[Comedycook]

My guess if she's pissed off you take up a table whilst only paying for food for one person when the table could seat two and they could make double the money?

[LividLaVidaLoca]

You need to be more specific about what she’s done or said.

Regardless, why are you giving your custom to a place where you don’t feel welcome? I was single 11 years and solo dined all over the world. If the vibe wasn’t right, I’d do one and find somewhere better.

[ShrikeAttack]

Most of my female friends are single women/mothers.

It's a thing that couples don't invite them.

I could not tell you why that is, but I can tell you that is most definitely something my friends observe.