Why are women with husbands so jealous and hurtful towards other single women?

[beigebrownblue]

Ok. I'm divorced.

I have absolutely ZILCH desire to hook up with a man.

None. Nil. Nichts. Nada.

I have been taking myself out once a week to eat at a local restaurant. Not cheap, but it is the only break I get.

I have noticed that the woman who is mangeress of the restaurant is really off with me and does not seem to be able to accept my presence.

I dress down. For a long time I've not wanted to be noticed by anyone actually. Often I read a book.

Her other half cooks in the kitchen.

Why is it that she insists on being territorial with me, on this one?

Are women so threatened nowadays?

Yes, perhaps her other half has history, but why blame a customer?

Maybe just a very titsy bitsy narcistic or you occupy a table for 3 hours,whilst reading a book and the owner simply thinks,maybe occasionally occupy a table for 3 hours in a different restaurant.who knows,we can all speculate here for hours......

@Getawaywithit

Maybe it’s just because you’re regularly taking up a table which could be used by 2 people (could be couple, friends, siblings, whatever) so she’s making less money from the table than she would if there were 2 x meals and drinks to charge for?

Yeah, single people should never eat out. Leave those tables for couples. Single people’s money has no value.

I have had women (plural) literally pull their husbands away from me when we’ve had a chat at achool pick up. Wouldn’t care but I am a very fat 40-something with zero cash. No threat.

This is so weirdly hostile.

I didn’t say I think single people shouldn’t ever eat out. I don’t work in or own a restaurant so really do not give a shit at all, doesn’t impact my life whatsoever.

It does seem plausible though that someone running a business might not give a shit about someone’s relationship status but would like to make the most amount of profit possible.

Sorry to hear other women have been weird about you being near their husbands. Maybe they’re jealous, maybe they just want to go home.

Quite a leap there, OP

I’d stop going there if I felt that unwelcome 🤷‍♀️

I want OP to come back and give us the massive drip feed that makes this make sense.

Just go somewhere else.

I would have said yabu.

But there's was a recent thread where op dh was going to meet a woman ye had been friends with for 20 odds years, previous to being friends they had dated for 2.

Op couldn't even confirm if she was single, but so many posters on there claimed to know so many single women who go out for their way to destroy marriages. They can't be trusted and tbe poor men can't be expected to keep saying no.

I think the words were 'single women are dangerous' and 'sad and so jealous they will steal what you have'

Non of them could account for the fact that married women, could also have an affair with their husband.

So actually, I am not entirely sure op is right in this specific situation but I do think there's a good portion of women, who really don't like single women.

So much of this is strange. Why do you think she thinks that you're trying to steal her husband who presumably is hidden away in the kitchen anyway? Why do you think that, even if the manager were for some reason worried, this would apply to married women in general?

Your opening post sounds like you're trying to write a novel. A really shit one. You are absolutely absurd to think that this woman
a) gives a single shit about you when in reality she could barely muster a wet fart
b) has even acknowledged your relationship status, let alone given it any thought
c) thinks you're so astonishingly beautiful, despite 'dressing down' so as to ward off all the men that would otherwise immediately cheat on their wives at the very sight of you
d) is representative of every single married woman and has singled you, and you only, out of the dozens of women she sees a week in the restaurant as some kind of irresistible husband tempter and knows that you're single yet doesn't know that you're uninterested in all the men you're so desperately trying to not attract

Maybe she gets the same vibe as many others on here do from you - that you're just a bit full of yourself and a bit of a knob?

Is there more to this than you are saying?
Why are you convinced this is the reason? Does her husband come out and interact with you when he should be in the kitchen?
How do you know her husband works in the kitchen for that matter?
I doubt any of us will get an answer to our many questions on this one 😂

It's a big leap from one woman to all women

HRTWT.

Go somewhere else???

@BrightYellowDaffodil

It’s quite a leap to assume this woman doesn’t like you because a) you’re single and b) her husband is there

However. It’s absolutely the case that single women don’t get invited to stuff - I very much noticed the drop-off in invitations once I became single again. Not from my true friends, granted, but there are some people who seek to be genuinely uncomfortable to have a single woman around their partner. On top of that, there seems to be the idea that single people will make things awkward

For those saying “stay at home instead” or “maybe she’s pissed off that you’re taking up a table”, why the fuck should OP feel she shouldn’t be there? If the restaurant have accepted a booking they know what they’re letting themselves in for. I don’t see anyone saying a group of three shouldn’t go out in case they get given a table for four and leave an unused space! But hey, single women should be at home…

It's considerate to not linger unduly in a busy restaurant unless you keep ordering. As a former waitress I've seen single customers order a starter, not even a drink - then stay there for 3 hours. Of course it's their 'right' to be there but it costs the restaurant money. This doesn't target single women in particular it's part of a category that also includes multiple people at a table but only one ordering and the lot taking a very long time.

The OP is probably a troll post - I fail to understand why anyone would patronise an expensive restaurant they didn't feel welcome in.

That's very judgy of you

I am married. My husband is friends with several single females. I don't have an issue with that

I'm single. Probably always will be now. I've never experienced this. Maybe I'm uglier than even I realise

@NeverDropYourMooncup

Could you look a bit scruffy in her 'not cheap' restaurant, sitting there for hours with a book and not spending much money?

If somebody's on a table for two, spending the minimum amount, not drinking alcohol and taking their sweet time about it, they could be making far more money with two people having a treat meal for a special occasion - and then another couple afterwards.

That was my immediate assumption.

Maybe that's just her personality?

OP?

Errr…..because they’re not! 🙄

Maybe that’s how she expresses pity?

She probably wants you to leave and stop reading your book when she could get someone else to spend money on the table.

Bit of a leap to assume she's being territorial over her husband who presumably can't even see you from the kitchen.

@beigebrownblue You're definitely overthinking this. Have you spoken to your 'married' friends and asked what they think? One woman at a restaurant who most probably has resting bitch face isn't a true representation of ALL married women.

Why do you think it’s to do with her partner in the kitchen? Do you even know him or see him?

And how would she even know if you were single? She's either just got one of those faces, or she's annoyed at you repeatedly taking a table for two and reading there. Presumably she could be getting more if the table was taken by two people ordering 3 courses and wine, not one picking over food as they read.

Of all the reasons she might be bristly, I can pretty much guarantee its got nothing to do with her feeling threatened by you in any sense.

Those bloody wimmin.

Not that I expect you'll be back really but 🤷‍♀️
I assume you think married women are like that because that's how you behaved when you were married.