Why are women with husbands so jealous and hurtful towards other single women?

[beigebrownblue]

Ok. I'm divorced.

I have absolutely ZILCH desire to hook up with a man.

None. Nil. Nichts. Nada.

I have been taking myself out once a week to eat at a local restaurant. Not cheap, but it is the only break I get.

I have noticed that the woman who is mangeress of the restaurant is really off with me and does not seem to be able to accept my presence.

I dress down. For a long time I've not wanted to be noticed by anyone actually. Often I read a book.

Her other half cooks in the kitchen.

Why is it that she insists on being territorial with me, on this one?

Are women so threatened nowadays?

Yes, perhaps her other half has history, but why blame a customer?

@expatmigrant

Get a grip Have an extra

Oh God, don't.

The OP's head is going to be bad enough in the morning 😱😂

Wtf am I reading?

@DrSbaitso

She made a big point of saying she is married to him.

She was probably just making chit chat or possibly trying to give the impression of the restaurant as a friendly, intimate, husband-and-wife endeavour. If you think someone is jealous and hurtful for mentioning their spouse in context, the insecurity might not be theirs.

She wasn't. And it wouldn't have happened to a bloke on his own.

Someone asked if she knew you were single, was she somehow informed, you reply:

No, I didn't say.
Why would you think I had?

Because your whole rant from the start, was married women being jealous of single you.

Except if you actually step back for one second, if she's not got a bloody clue that you're single, your whole post makes feck all sense.

Maybe she just doesn't like you. But if she doesn't know you're single, then by very definition, it can't be because you're single

@Smartiepants79

I am jealous of no single women and certainly not of someone who has gone through the stress of a divorce. I trust my DH he works and even socialises with single women. It is not an issue.

I'm sure it isn't for you, and I admire you for it. But it obviously is for some people.

She wasn't.

Oh, well, that settles that then.

And it wouldn't have happened to a bloke on his own.

It might well have if she was getting creepy vibes from him...

It’s well known that divorced women turn into serial killers so she was probably scared. Or you had a bogey on your face.

@Squeakycatflap

It’s well known that divorced women turn into serial killers so she was probably scared. Or you had a bogey on your face.

I thought they morphed into blood sucking succubi, but only at the full moon.

@MyPatronusIsACat

WOW. You're a bit full of yourself eh *@beigebrownblue*

'Married woman is jealous of me, an obviously-super-attractive single woman, coz I may ensnare her man, (and I could have him if I wanted, so there!')

have this >>>

Nothing of the kind, actually. Lost for words why you would assume that.

I do remember a thread about a women worrying about her husband going away for a works do as there would be single women there and some of the replies were shocking. Basically some women’s views are that any single women is out to steal your husband no matter the age difference, income, whether he’s even attractive etc. And of course the poor man wouldn’t be at fault as the single women seduced him
I know more women in relationships that cheat than single women who have affairs with married men.

OP, I don't understand why you didn't mention the woman going out her way to point out the chef is her husband in your first post as it does seem quite significant.

However, as no further info or context has been given, I still can't join the dots to why you think her attitude towards you has anything to do with feeling threatened by you? I doubt she randomly blurted out 'he is my husband'?

Were you talking to him and she was glaring over at you, then she said this? Or was she pleasant to you until one day you spoke to her husband for a while and then she changed her tune towards you afterwards? If so, then maybe you have a point, but if it is just her being grumpy with nothing significant having happened, I think you are looking too much into it.

You keep arguing with posters and insisting "I didn't say that. You did", op. What exactly is your beef, because it's really not at all clear?

@Bluntness100

It’s illogical though, thinking the bloke in the kitchen fancies you has cheated on her and she’s jealous of you.

That’s a leap that’s mind boggling.

I didn't. I was busy eating my food. Which I liked. I say again, this wouldn't happen to a bloke. And neither would this comment.

Do you have any other examples of the married woman's jealousy, beyond announcing her marital status ?

Women are individuals. Shocking, I know.

You keep arguing with posters and insisting "I didn't say that. You did", op.

THIS

@BiscuitLover09876

It sounds like you're pretty angry. Maybe giving off some pretty angry body language?

Or this woman may just have her own issues. Or be a bitch!

That's an interesting reaction, to be sure. No, I don't linger. No I spend a reasonable amount of money. Yes, I am what is classed as 'regular' No I an not 'angry; or 'unreasonable' why on earth would you assume that? If not internalised misogyny?

Often I read a book

You’ve been reading too many romance novels. The woman isn’t angry because her husband secretly wants on rip your bodice off.
You sound like a PIA customer tbh, sitting there for hours at night not ordering much.

@Waspsarearseholes

"Its the only thing on the menu I like and can eat, actually. Nutrition wise"

You literally change your tune in every post. You are either bored or delusional but one thing I can guarantee is that you're a liar.

Right, ok. You are better than me then. No, I'm not delusional. Yes, I do go to the same restaurant and ordered the same thing.

Thanks.

I'm sure she tells lots of customers her husband is the chef.

It's conversational in a restaurant setting.

"The here chef really knows his food"
"I know that's why I married him, haha. Would you like to see the dessert menu?"

Lobster?

@GreyhoundG1rl

I'm single and eat or drink out by myself a lot. I've never had this. In fact, quite the opposite.

thanks for posting this, I think more people should be aware of this.

Are you drunk, op, or just taking the piss? . More people should be aware that your experience just doesn't happen to other people?
Most people are aware of this, actually...

Perhaps where you are, and the experience you have isn't the experience people have in other places?

@MeredithGreyishblue

So you regularly visit a restaurant where you're clearly not welcome and order the filet mignon (flaming yon) and read your book in order to claim your space against / amidst misogyny...

Is it an open kitchen?

I claim my space, Why shouldn't I? And the staff are happy to see me. Not sure why this should meet with such an aggressive response.

This sounds like a classic case of ‘it’s all in your head’. It’s all your imagination!

And the staff are happy to see me.