AIBU? I feel differently about my friends since my wedding?

[JackieBrown63]

Trying to keep a long story short..... :S

I don't have many friends, a LOT of acquaintances but few what I would say good/close friends. I asked my best friend since school to be my MOH and my brother's girlfriend I asked to be my bridesmaid because she's been in the family for years and I love her to bits! None of my other friends/acquaintances came to my hen do or wedding for various reasons which is fine it just upset me a little in the lead up to the wedding.

My MOH completely took over my hen do and decided she wanted to surprise me rather than do what I actually asked for and wanted. She did the same for my hen do as her own. She also uninvited my mum to the day which really bothered me because I'd promised her we would do something together during the daytime.

The day of my wedding was awful, my MOH and bridesmaid kept making fun of the dresses I'd picked for them, decorations, colours and my wedding dress. It hurt me a lot but I laughed it off at the time. My MOD told my mum I never wanted to get married I only wanted a fancy party, which is not true I married the love of my life and we had a very cheap wedding. My MOD in particular never said anything nice to me, only complained about what was wrong with the wedding decisions me and my husband made. I have hardly heard from her since. My husband and I had an incredible day - it was magical for us and everything we wanted. However, I can't help but feel different about my friendships after all this. There was a lot of other stuff that happened that I've chosen to leave out but is this normal to feel this way? I don't know how to get over this feeling.

[Mamanyt]

Well, either you suck it up and continue to be friends, or you decide that with shitty friends, you don't need enemas. I'd go with the second, myself.

BTW...in this case, it sounds as if "MOH" stands for Maid of Horror."

[dearfanny]

Honestly, why do people need a matron of honour? And then let them arrange the hen do? Why cant you arrange your own hen and then it would have been what you wanted ?

And then make two adult women wear matching yellow frocks? No wonder they were
Annoyed

[Barmychick]

MzHz This

[1mumm]

"Yellow mesh sleeves" ...sounds hideous. OP - You posted a link to a sleeveless, strapless frock, not one with yellow mesh sleeves.

Regardless they don't sound like good friends at all but if they disliked you, they would have skipped the wedding like your other friends. Just drop them & keep it moving with the people in your life who make you happy.

[gettingolderbutcooler]

UNINVITED your MUM?
And you still thought- this is a lovely woman that I still want as my MOH?
sighs

[Mollymoostoo]

My MIL had a face on her all day, my SIL said my bridal gown wasn't wedding-y enough and they let their kids waste the disposable cameras left on the tables. I spent hours making wedding favours they left on the tables and moaned about us getting married in Scotland so close to Christmas.
My family were happy, kept all the favours, danced all night and loved the bagpiper.
You can't please all people and family occasions being out the best and worse in people.
Just remember the day that you enjoyed and don't let them steal your joy. They are not married to you so you don't have to put up with this now.

[ElizabethBoland]

Agree with others that this story ticks every box for classic mumsnet nightmare bridesmaid. You said the day was awful, but also you and your husband had a good day?
So perhaps looking back you see things were shitty but if you had a good day no need to ponder over what you can’t change. If your question is should you still be mates then no, should you be annoyed? Yes. But it won’t changed now so just sack her off and move on.
Interested to hear how your brother’s girlfriend behaved?

[pollyanna1962]

I got married in 1984 the days of big meringue dresses and my 3 adult bridesmaids didnt like their dresses, looking back I dont blame them, but hey it was one day. They didnt poke fun all day though but I still knew they hated them.

[Bertiebiscuit]

Get new friends and don't look back