To ask: what makes you know that your DP really loves

[TracyLords]

Fed up a bit with all the stories of shit DPS on MN. So let’s hear about the good ones.

I realized DH was a loving guy when we had been dating a few months and we’re going to the cinema. Before we left the house he asked if I remembered my glasses as otherwise I wouldn’t see the screen properly and would get a sore head.

When pregnant and over emotional I was crying because no clothes fitted or looked nice on me. He just nodded. A while later he came over with his iPad. He had been on ASOS selecting maternity wear in my size and style and just was looking for final approval of the items before ordering

I don’t know where to start. He’s just lovely to me, the kids, he’s just kind. He’s not batted an eyelid this week as my Mum moved in after Dad just died and he’s helping (doing most) of the paperwork associated with Dad’s death. He didn’t once make out it was hard for him with the kids on his own whilst I disappeared to stay at the hospital with Dad lots.

He always makes me feel loved. He is a fabulous involved Dad. He’s the best. I am thankful for him. I truly am. He’s my rock. He’s a genuinely good person.

I’ve just had breast surgery for early breast cancer. I was diagnosed mid August. He has been my rock.
He stops me from wallowing, keeps me positive, irritates the hell out of me by not waiting on me hand and foot. But knows that I hate being fussed over.
We have been together for 30yrs and despite a few ups and downs he remains my constant.

For me it's the tiny, tiny things. He hardly ever buys flowers, but he did buy me an absolutely perfect plant pot that I love, and sits on my kitchen windowsill. Giving me a pebble he's brought back from a walk because he thinks I'd like the shape. My favourite biscuits hidden in a random cupboard when he's away for the night, whole sentences that can be conveyed across a crowded room with one glance. That quick top-to-bottom checking me out that I sometimes catch him doing (despite a few extra pounds), and him winking and giving me a 'yeah, you'll do' when he gets caught. Breakfast in bed with the first daffodil that peeks out in the garden. Always making sure there's a spare jumper in the car for when I inevitably get too chilly.

I'm keeping him I think.

We can't afford big gestures - flowers to me are special because of their rarity, and that tenner a week or whatever £££ soon adds up.

When we hadn’t been together long my grandad was diagnosed with cancer. We drove 6 hours to see him for a few days around a couple of months before he died. We also made the same journey for the funeral. He also used to leave little notes around my room for me to find and little gifts (mainly snacks we both liked). That’s when I knew he was a keeper!

Lovely thread ♥️

My Dh still buys me flowers randomly, he always chooses my favourites. He also carries the many plants and trees I buy from the plant market to home with no complaint (even in the rain).

He always fills my water bottle up and brings me my iron pills as he knows otherwise I’ll forget. Not to mention always stocking up my period pads and chocolate and running hot baths for me.

Even after all these years, he calls me every lunch time and listens to my endless rants and fully encourages all my dreams. I cannot list the number of times I have come home to make up, clothes or any other items that needs replacing, already taken care of. He always puts me first. He takes an interest in my hobbies and recently brought an painting activity to complete together. It was the first time he’s painted and I can’t wait to hang it up in the hallway.

And probably best of all is him waking up for every night feed! 😂

He is all in all, the most selfless, loving and beautiful man I have even known. He has stood by me some of the saddest and difficult moments in my life and never once did his love waver. He has shown me what it means to love fearlessly, and is kind even when I am not.

I don’t know what I have done to deserve him but will spend the rest of my life trying to make him as happy as he makes me 😢

These are so lovely, can I ask, for those who met their partners young (less that 25) was he always like that from a young age, or did it grow over time? I'm wanting my DD to meet a good 'un and wonder if the kindness shown can be evident in men/boys early on?

DH and I met when we were 21 and he was like that from the start. I knew I wanted to marry him when I was working late one night (11pm finish) and my co-worker went home sick at around 10pm. When I came out to lock up he was outside waiting for me totally unasked to make sure I was safe, he had a pair of gloves because it turned chilly, and a bag of chips to share on the walk home.

Why so many digs at @Anordinarymum? She may have been in a abusive relationship previously; so something like that could really be a massive difference in the relationship she has now.

These are all lovely stories btw ❤️

This is so lovely to read.
My Dh isn't perfect by any means and is not much of a talker, but his actions tell me that he loves me.
He brings me coffee in the morning, buys my favourite meals when it's his turn to cook, buys my favourite chocolates once a month. He's always happy for a hug and always lets me have the best sofa when we're watching television.
I think it's these (and many other) small daily gestures that make me feel secure and loved.

When we first started seeing eachother he would finish work and drive 2 hours to see me. He wouldn’t get to me until midnight and then he’d leave at 6 the in the morning to get back. He just wanted to spend those few hours with me.

We’ve had a few bumps lately, mainly I think that he drinks too much. But he is still the most loving and wonderful partner. He waits on me hand and foot atm because of my difficult pregnancy. He spends 12 hours a day at work cooking for other people then comes home and cooks for me, does all the housework that I haven’t managed and is genuinely pleased to hear about my dad even though I don’t do anything. He always makes sure I have flowers in my vase on the kitchen table, he kisses me on the head when he leaves at 5am and tells me loves me even though I pretend to be asleep (he’d feel bad if he thought he had woken me up!).
He’s taken on my daughter completely as his own and is a fantastic dad to her.
I just love him. Lots and lots. I’m crap at showing love but he is great at it and he shows me everyday.

Mine was incredibly supportive of my breastfeeding. It was hard - brutally hard - at first, but he sat with me and continually encouraged me and told me I was doing really well. He batted off all 'advice' from in-laws etc. and basically waited on me hand and foot (brought me drinks, snacks, propped me up with pillows etc.) I went on to breastfeed until my son was 2 and absolutely cherish that time. But without my husband's support I'd never have managed it!

When I had a MC I was really low, he knew washing my hair would make me feel the tiniest bit better but I didn't have the energy, so he washed and blow dried my hair for me .

I don't cope well with little sleep so he does more with our baby during the night.

He strokes my back to help me relax enough to go to sleep.

If he is up for work before me he leaves my cup out with a tea bag and sugar in it ready for me. If he knows I have had a crappy day at work I will often come home to find he's run me a bubble bath and put a glass of wine on the side for me. He kisses me and ds on the head when he thinks we are asleep before he goes to work.

This thread is depressing for those of us who don’t have any of that 😂

A few weeks ago, I'd had a few really long days in work and just felt really exhausted and overwhelmed (just took a promotion in work), and I came home to find he'd put candles on the decking outside, filled and lit the hot tub and had a nice dinner all ready with a bottle of wine chilling on the table outside. It was so lovely, and we just relaxed and looked at the stars while soaking. It was amazing.

@Od130990

Why so many digs at *@Anordinarymum*? She may have been in a abusive relationship previously; so something like that could really be a massive difference in the relationship she has now.

These are all lovely stories btw ❤️

Just to clarify. There had been such a lot of horrible threads before this one - regarding men who treat their other half like shit, abusing them in so many different ways it made me depressed reading them - so I said what I said and it was true.

I also slightly doubt everything that gets said on here - I am sure people embellish the truth and it is not necessary.

For those of you ladies whose man does very little in the way of being thoughtful, don't forget some of those guys are unfaithful while they bring the morning coffee upstairs............

Lets have things in moderation please

My guy does not bring me flowers or warm the bed up or romantic stuff, but he is always there and I love him. He is not perfect but then again neither am I.

Love this thread. I am also very lucky to have an amazing partner. We met young and have been together for 22 years. He is the most caring person I've ever met.
He'll stop the car and rescue sick/injured animals. He has always always supported me. He cooks me dinner every night, makes me countless cups of tea, generally puts up with my shit. Runs me a bath when I'm ill, is a fantastic dad to our son.
wow, I really needed this thread. We are starting to come out of a really bad patch, very nearly separated a few months ago, and I so needed a reminder of all the wonderful things about him that I take for granted.

My partner did everything he could to help me through depression. He couldn't offer much practical help but he was always, always there for me and kind to me.

@RobertaFirmino

DH is a joiner and saves all his offcuts to make bird boxes/tables, planters etc. for the charity shop where I work. Also, any time he passes a free book box, he calls me to tell me what the books are and do I want any.

This has raised the bar for all DP

Mine has a cold and accompanying cough (not that one) at the moment. The other night I mentioned I hadn't slept brilliantly (but obvs I know he's not doing it deliberately like). Anyway last night he decamped and slept on the sofa bless him, and he's doing the same again tonight 😍

For me it's the way he respects me, doesn't force me into doing something I don't want to do or feel comfortable doing and will stop as soon as I say so. Unlike my exH who would wake me up in the early hours after finishing work and demand to have sex with me. If I refused or tried to pretend I was asleep he'd pinch the insides of my thighs as hard as he could before forcing himself inside me. Would come home from the pub and drag me round the flat by my hair. I locked myself in the toilet once but he kicked the door down. Had such a temper he shattered our living room door by slamming it into me, kicked the cupboard door off its hinges straight into my leg and threatened me with divorce because for once I refused to get up out of bed after I'd been asleep for hours so he could get off on whipping the fuck out of me. At the time I believed no one would ever want me so I put up with it. We spilt up 3 and a half years ago and had remained amicable. That was until he asked me for a lift home the other week and thought he could shove his hand down my top and grope my breasts. His words when I told him to get the fuck off me and out of my car were 'you're still technically my wife I can do what I want with you' My now OH is the total opposite. He tells me daily how much I mean to him, how much he loves me and that I'm the best thing that's ever happened to him. Supported me through 5 miscarriages and tells me daily how proud of me he is

Lots of things, but the first was when I stayed over on our second date. I have a bowel condition and get anxious using the bathroom (which he knew about). I woke up at about 2am and really needed to go but was so uncomfortable at the thought of him hearing or knowing. Anyway he woke up, realised from our previous conversations what was wrong and said he’d left something in the car and would I mind if he went to get it? He sat in the car for 20 minutes so I could use the bathroom in peace. It was November and the middle of the night- I knew he was special that day.

Loving reading these. There's many, I have a very good husband but the Most poignant is the way he has stuck by me the last 16 months since my mum suddenly died she was my best friend in the world and I have been very very hard to love but he's just been here waiting til he got a little more me back week by week. Genuinely was expecting him to leave and wouldn't of blamed him but very glad he didn't

As I am CEV he does most of the grocery shopping and errands. He has a list for us to write things we need on.

He always gets up first thing in the morning and unloads the dishwasher. He puts my coffee cup on the coffee maker ready to go.

He drives me to my Entyvio infusion every month, goes and has a coffee and then picks me up. I could drive myself but he knows it stresses me a bit so he takes me.

He fixes stuff all the time. Quickly and with no complaints.

He is an awesome Father and Grandfather. Involved and loving.

I just love him to bits and have done for a long, long time.

I forgot this. I lost both my parents in the same week. They were in hospital with flu and just couldn't fight it off.

He was in a word amazing. And still is. He loved them like I did. He was there for me every step of the way. He helped me tremendously with being the executor of their estates, taking this to the accountant, filling in forms and just generally being wonderful. Often while I just sobbed in the corner.

He pitched right in the clean out their house. Booked cleaners and auctioneers.

I would not have survived without him.

Mind you every so often when he is giving me heck about something, he will say if I was your Dad would you do x, y, or z?