To ask: what makes you know that your DP really loves

[TracyLords]

Fed up a bit with all the stories of shit DPS on MN. So let’s hear about the good ones.

I realized DH was a loving guy when we had been dating a few months and we’re going to the cinema. Before we left the house he asked if I remembered my glasses as otherwise I wouldn’t see the screen properly and would get a sore head.

When pregnant and over emotional I was crying because no clothes fitted or looked nice on me. He just nodded. A while later he came over with his iPad. He had been on ASOS selecting maternity wear in my size and style and just was looking for final approval of the items before ordering

When he's at a football match and someone scores, he immediately texts me. It's such a small and random thing but I love that his first thought is 'I must tell Blame'.

Also, I had a leg operation five weeks ago and he's done every single thing since then, literally every single thing that's needed done, from meals to cleaning to hoovering to taking the kids places to bedtimes.

DH wrote me (awful, but sincere) poetry when we started going out. Decades later, he still turns down my side of the bed if he gets in before me, get me a sandwich from my favourite deli if he's going past and kills spiders before I even see them! He's also a devoted father, hard worker and all round good 'un.

He has, on more than one occasion, cleaned up my vomit (and sometimes wee - hyperemesis during pregnancy) from the floor and hasn't once moaned or complained. He will rub my back and get me water and tell me I'm doing a great job when I cry.

@blissfulllife this is just beautiful and gives me hope!

He buys me Prosecco and that Cadbury's popping Candy chocolate and hides it in different bits of the fridge. He covers it with salad or yoghurts etc and then he can triumphantly produce chilled wine and chocolate whenever I'm having a hard day with whatever bullshit my daughter's disability discriminating school want to throw at us.

Something he does that I love- if he wants me to make a move on him, he wears a certain Tom Ford because I find it smells incredibly sexy on him. He doesn't know that I know that's why he does it, but it is and it's adorable when he breezes nonchalantly into the room in a subtle cloud of sexiness.

When we met I had 3 yo twins
We married when they were 5
A couple of months after the wedding we were in the park and TD fell off her bike. DP was nearer her than me and she was sat on the floor with both knees bleeding in tears. He ran over and she wailed "Daddy my knees hurt"
He cried
I cried
She ran off to her brother & they carried on playing.

From that day onwards they have called him Dad.
I knew then, deep in my heart that marrying him was the best thing I'd ever do.

We've had 2 children together. He treats all 4 the same. Most people have no idea that DTs arent biologically his. (They have no contact with their father - his choice).

I defo need to get rid of mine!
See, I do loads of lovely things like all these for my partner and I get fuck all back from him

He was so lovely when we met but he’s shown who he really is since I’ve been pregnant/had our DS

Just selfish, angry, and a liar!

I’m out ladies!! 🙌🏻🙌🏻🙌🏻

When I am talking about my work he looks at me like he really admires me.

He talks about me to others in a really complimentary way.

Mine is far from perfect but I know he will love me to the day he dies. Still fancies me rotten despite my ravaged body from giving birth 3x in 4 years. Only ever says I'm beautiful. Even I don't like seeing myself naked but he loves me, wrinkly belly and all!

DH is a joiner and saves all his offcuts to make bird boxes/tables, planters etc. for the charity shop where I work. Also, any time he passes a free book box, he calls me to tell me what the books are and do I want any.

Oh dear StripeyDeckchair. I wasn't prepared for that at all.

How wonderful.

He WhatsApps me during the working day (on the rare occasion were not both WFH) to tell me loves me and can't wait to see me.
He suggests and plans date night if weve had a busy couple of weeks and not had enough 'us time'.
He tops my drink up without being asked.
He always buys chocolate when he goes to the corner shop, even though he himself could take it or leave it.
We've been married 10 years and I always think how lucky I am when I read the many threads about shit partners.

@StripeyDeckchair

When we met I had 3 yo twins We married when they were 5 A couple of months after the wedding we were in the park and TD fell off her bike. DP was nearer her than me and she was sat on the floor with both knees bleeding in tears. He ran over and she wailed "Daddy my knees hurt" He cried I cried She ran off to her brother & they carried on playing.

From that day onwards they have called him Dad.
I knew then, deep in my heart that marrying him was the best thing I'd ever do.

We've had 2 children together. He treats all 4 the same. Most people have no idea that DTs arent biologically his. (They have no contact with their father - his choice).

I'm not crying, you're crying 😭

@Youdoyoutoday

Last night our dd was screaming her head for no reason til 4am. I'm the sahm and he was awake with me taking it turns to comfort her and telling me we are a team. He texts me when he's upstairs working to tell me he loves me. He tells me pretty much every day how happy he is to be with me and how great life is together. When we met I already had my DS and my DP has pretty much taken him on as his own, there is no quibbles over finances, he even asked for my DSs bank details the other day as he said he should start putting money away for him as he does for our DD. When I ask if I look OK before heading out, he says no you look great. He loves me and my body, has never once said anything mean or horrible about the way I look and I'm overweight. Lockdown made us stronger than ever.

It really makes me sad to read some of the shit that women put up with on here and I realise how blessed I am.

This one made me feel really emotional. He sounds like a wonderful man. My ex punched me in the face, called me a c* on a daily basis, made me feel like a horrific human being.. I can't tell you how much happier I am on my own and to see men like your dp existing like this... It gives me hope :)

Rushes to my location whenever he hears a sound (I'm a graceful dancer but clumsy otherwise and always dropping and breaking things). Immediately gets a brush and dustpan to clean whatever it is

He was there for my Grandad when he was dying. I was extremely close with my Grandad, losing him was one of the hardest things I've ever faced. DH sat by his side, held his hand, chatted with him. For days on end. Grandad adored him, and he was right there to the very end.

He looked after my sisters so well when they were pregnant. Driving them around, bringing them glasses of water, just general looking after them. My Mum often says that DH is the best person she's ever met, and she's not wrong. His depth of kindness and compassion still floors me.

Little things like always phoning me during his lunch break for a chit chat, making me a couple of aeropress coffees to microwave later on if I'm WFH and he's going to be at the office (I just cannot get the hang of making decent coffee!), going along with the silly stories I make up about our dogs without looking at me like I'm bonkers.

After being with an abusive ex for years it was lovely to suddenly realise while watching a soppy romcom one day that I wasn't feeling sad that I'd never be lucky enough to find someone who really cared about me.

Hubs knows I'm sad even if I won't admit it.
He knows if I'm being stubborn.
Hes the worst patient in the world but as soon as I have a headache, he's the best doctor.
He says "thankyou that was lovely" everytime we have dinner

These have got me all teary.

And this man tells ME everyday that I'm the best thing that happened to him. 20 years together now and he still warms my feet, makes sure our family want for nothing and cooks my favourite foods. Makes me laugh and gives me butterflies when I see him pull up in his van.

But this one especially ^^

My DH has helped me immensely with my mental health issues, he knows when l'm up, down and he always supports me.

He has shown me what it feels like to be wanted and loved. He always says we are in it together.

Very blessed to have such a wonderful husband.

When I had food poisoning and couldn’t make it to the toilet to be sick, he held my hair back whilst I was sick into the sink, then unblocked the drain and cleaned me up without missing a beat.

When a work taxi failed to collect me from an event, he got up in the early hours and drove over an hour from home to get me without me having to ask.

Took me and friend to a pedicure appointment and picked us up so we could have fizz and not risk spoiling our polish driving.

Too many other kind things to think of…

We had an arranged marriage but on our wedding night he told me l was his life. He's completely committed to our family.

Brings me a can of san pellegrino blood orange on his way home on a friday night. It's the little things.

Every morning, despite getting up very early for work, he puts an extra blanket on me, tucks me back up and kisses me on the head. He thinks I'm asleep but I try and stay awake just to experience it.

DH is kind of like Parker from Friends but only when it comes to me. :o

He just thinks I'm the best thing ever.