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Original poster

How to survive alone at home

108 replies

gg12346 · 16/09/2021 20:50

How to survive living in a house alone!

Can someone please help me .Is it only me or it is others as well .
After shifting into the suburb area from the city .I am findingmyself quite lonely when partner is off to work and kid is at school .My anxiety shoots so much high that I drank 6 cups of tea today and also went to a near by cafe to have lunch alone .I was suppose to finish a lot of house work and so apply for jobs in the time that was given to me .But I just didnt function normally .What can I do ? please help I am losing my mind

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MrsRobbieHart · 16/09/2021 20:53

Do you mean you can’t cope with being alone in your house between 9-3?

Original poster
gg12346 · 16/09/2021 20:54

Absolutely

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DismantledKing · 16/09/2021 20:55

If it’s just during the day while your partner is at work or kids at school, then this is quite an extreme reaction. Is your anxiety being treated?

MrsRobbieHart · 16/09/2021 20:55

That’s not normal. You should speak to your GP about your anxiety.

Original poster
gg12346 · 16/09/2021 20:56

Is this not normal ?

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gobbynorthernbird · 16/09/2021 20:57

Most definitely not normal. See your GP.

Oh9autumn · 16/09/2021 20:57

Oh my word I love having peace and quiet, it’s such a rarity!
However on Mat leave with my 2nd I got bored and lovely, DH worked long hours 60 hour weeks on average and I spent a lot of time alone with the kids… I chose to go back to work when she was 6 months old.

I think you need soemthing to fill your time, are you applying for jobs?

TheFormidableMrsC · 16/09/2021 20:57

No this is not normal at all. You need to see your GP.

Orangesandlemons77 · 16/09/2021 20:58

OP I get it, Flowers getting out and about in the day might help you perhaps

grapewine · 16/09/2021 20:58

Are you serious? Speak to a GP. This is not normal. At all.

Original poster
gg12346 · 16/09/2021 20:58

I got so overwhelmed today and I ate lunch out .please bear in mind that I have shifted to a new area recently and have no frds around

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Hellocatshome · 16/09/2021 20:59

It is absolutely not normal to be to anxious to be in your house alone during the day. Is it a dangerous area? What are you worried will happen? I do think you need to see a Doctor but also how about volunteering during the day to get you out and about and meeting people.

Mischance · 16/09/2021 21:00

I think you should chat to GP - this is not a normal situation. Does your OH know how you feel?

Original poster
gg12346 · 16/09/2021 21:00

Will Gp understand it .Would they belive it

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Curioushorse · 16/09/2021 21:00

Is your fear ghosts and monsters (that's mine)? Or something more logical?

AnneLovesGilbert · 16/09/2021 21:00

What stopped you putting the radio on and getting on with the cleaning or job hunting? What do you think is going to happen to you while home alone?

ZaraCarmichaelshighheels · 16/09/2021 21:01

If you can’t function normally because you are by yourself between 9 and 3 I think you need to see a GP.

Original poster
gg12346 · 16/09/2021 21:01

This is the first time I felt so ,since partner was always at home and I had someone to give lunch and tea to many times .I haven't told him but will tell.

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sammylady37 · 16/09/2021 21:02

Seriously?

grafittiartist · 16/09/2021 21:02

It's a big change when your child starts school.
Could you look for a club or volunteering opportunity? Then you could be with people and have a bit of structure?

Hankunamatata · 16/09/2021 21:03

Start small. Take a class at local college - doesn't have to be academic. Join a ladies gym and do some classes.

Original poster
gg12346 · 16/09/2021 21:03

I just feel very depressed all by myself honestly. The house is half empty since furniture is still to be added ( on which we are deciding slowly ) adds up to my anxiety

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maofteens · 16/09/2021 21:03

This is not normal. I'm in a new city and love having the day to myself. But if you are more social then volunteer or join a gym or whatever. Eating lunch out is not weird I love going to a cafe and watching the world go by for an hour or so. But it seems you need more interaction - get out there, get busy, find a hobby.

FreddyMercurysCat · 16/09/2021 21:04

You don't need to see a bloody GP - you've moved to a new area. Start applying for jobs and find some groups to join.

Going out for lunch is great, get to know your local area and the people around you.

If you're still struggling in 6 months time, then think about a chat with your GP

MrsPelligrinoPetrichor · 16/09/2021 21:04

I remember this feeling after moving out of London, I missed the constant noise, it was soooooo quiet!!

I got up and put the radio on all day for background noise.

Joined the PTA so I got to meet other school parents.

Also made a point of having friends back for tea and invited the mum's too for a coffee.

It helps to get out and walk round the area so it starts to become familiar. I did it every day and added a new road each time.

It's a big adjustment moving especially yo a totally new area. It shook me up and I'm really self assured.