How to survive alone at home

[gg12346]

How to survive living in a house alone!

Can someone please help me .Is it only me or it is others as well .
After shifting into the suburb area from the city .I am findingmyself quite lonely when partner is off to work and kid is at school .My anxiety shoots so much high that I drank 6 cups of tea today and also went to a near by cafe to have lunch alone .I was suppose to finish a lot of house work and so apply for jobs in the time that was given to me .But I just didnt function normally .What can I do ? please help I am losing my mind

@FreddyMercurysCat

You don't need to see a bloody GP - you've moved to a new area. Start applying for jobs and find some groups to join.

Going out for lunch is great, get to know your local area and the people around you.

If you're still struggling in 6 months time, then think about a chat with your GP

Agreed. You don't need meds for this, you need time. Adjusting to a quieter environment and alone, may mean you're overthinking often, having time with your thoughts. Have you tried online exercise at home or boxsets? Just relax and enjoy yourself OP. Try meditation, that works a treat for my GAD episodes. I really didn't enjoy the months my husband was WFH (he hated it too) as I felt my 'workplace' had been invaded. I LOVE being at home with my cats- there's a thought, have you time and room for a pet?

Radio is great to break through that loneliness and anxiety. R4 or talkSport, R5, world service and local stations for another voice. R2, Kisstory or Capital Xtra for upbeat songs. R3 or Classic FM for soothing background noise.

No it's not normal. Most people don't give a joy about being home alone. I do it everyday when DP goes to work and I WFH. Honestly barely notice...

See your GP. Or get a dog.

Jot* not joy

I love having the house to myself, I really appreciate the peace and quiet, and the freedom to do what I want when I want. You need to ask for a referral for counselling. Have you investigated local activities that interest you, and/or getting a part time job?

@Brindisi32

Moving house is stressful and sounds like it’s a big contrast to where you lived before.

Try to get some more belongings unpacked. Make it feel more familiar, more homely.

If you’re missing the buzz or city noise have a listen to your radio or music.

Get curious about your neighbourhood: have a walkabout; find out what sorts of neighbourhood groups are available.

Get some structure to your days; do apply for jobs when you’re ready.

if you’re still feeling anxious find some relaxation sessions online.

Yes moving can be hard. Especially to a new area. I've done it many times.

That does not make what the OP describes normal though. Many people live alone, to struggle to be alone in a house for 6 hours when you have family around the rest of the time is a clear sign of struggles with mental health. Somebody well would relish this time just to rest or do things they enjoy like exercise, cooking, gardening, explore the local area themselves, have a nap, watch TV, read a book etc if they didn't feel inclined to do housework. To feel upset about 6 hours on your own to do things you need/ want to do - or indeed do nothing - is not normal at all.

@gg12346

This is the first time I felt so ,since partner was always at home and I had someone to give lunch and tea to many times .I haven't told him but will tell.

See gp Get a pet Volunteer Counselling so you see yourself more than just someone to serve others

Audiobooks are a good distraction.

Exercise will channel some of the adrenaline you are feeling.