He ate a cream tea with a spoon

[HeAteItWithASpoon]

First date. He seemed perfectly nice and we went and got a cup of tea in a cafe. We ordered a cream tea for two and he ate his scone with the teaspoon that came with his cup of tea.

I wasn’t horrified or anything like that I was just surprised. Is that a thing? I suppose it’s puddingy but I’ve always just picked it up and eaten it like toast, I thought everyone did.

rumblymumbly I’m not really sure what I’m after to be honest. I split from DH a couple of years ago after realising that I was going to set myself on fire if I had to spend another date night with him chatting about the weather or the state of the roads. It made me realise that we’d never had a conversation about anything of any importance. Whenever I’d try to discuss anything I actually find interesting he’d find a way to turn the conversation back to motorway service stations or something. So I think im just really trying not to end up in another relationship like that. Not that eating a scone with a teaspoon necessarily means he’s an anal, weather obsessed bore but I’m just trying to spot the red flags.

HeAteItWithASpoon

I decided I am not perfect and have many annoying ways and I find others are the same.

There is nothing wrong with living alone.

A creamy tea!

Cream tea is more an older lady type thing. He was probably a bit intimidated and didn't know how he was supposed to eat it but was very British and just said nothing and you were very British and said nothing too.

I refuse to believe he has lived in Devon all his life and never encountered a cream tea before. He was the one that suggested we get one to share, I’m sure he wouldn’t have done that if he didn’t know what you were supposed to do with it.

Maybe he was trying to be polite or something? Out of all the cutlery available I’d say a dessert fork would have been more appropriate though.

I have to make scones today now after all this talk of scones. That rhymes with cones by the way No cream, just homemade butter, and strawberry jam. One mustn't cut a scone though, one must gently break it apart to preserve the texture. Now, plain, sultana, or cherry? Dd prefers plain, I like fruity to give some semblance of healthiness. Jam is fruit right?

But did he fist his spoon? Because that was he a genuine reason for me to never see him again

@MolyHolyGuacamole

But did he fist his spoon? Because that was he a genuine reason for me to never see him again

That would be a genuine reason, ugh

Good Lord, first it's buggering bread and cheese and now it's fisting spoons

@FlatteredFool

Good Lord, first it's buggering bread and cheese and now it's fisting spoons

What next, rimming the jam pot?!

@BrightYellowDaffodil

And jam first otherwise you may as well have butter

That’s the point, the cream is a butter alternative. You wouldn’t make a sandwich by putting the cheese on the bread and then buggering it, so why would you do that to a scone?

You are so wrong that I am having palpitations..

@70isaLimitNotaTarget

I have pastry forks ( small thin forks ) and sporks (spoons with fork tines and a serrated knife edge)

I am on the hunt for a Runcible Spoon and my life will be complete

Not weird at all OP but I'm not a fan of scones so Ill bow out

Googled runcible spoon as I wasn't sure it was actually a thing or just something made up by Edward Lear.

Apparently, runcible spoon is the original and, very old, name for a 'spork'.

So hunt no longer 70isaLimitNotaTarget they are the same thing, apparently.

The perfect thing to use when eat slices of quince.

I’d give him a second chance as it could easily be first date nerves. Scones can be very crumbly sometimes and maybe he was nervous about making a mess? If he was nice in other ways then you don’t want to miss out on someone lovely just because they eat a cream tea weirdly 🤔 I mean, how often do you have scones anyway??!!

Rimming the jam pot actually sounds like a good idea. Or the marmite pot.

Otoh I am concerned that the entire thread “eating scone with a spoon” is a euphemism for something and I’ve only just twigged.