He ate a cream tea with a spoon

[HeAteItWithASpoon]

First date. He seemed perfectly nice and we went and got a cup of tea in a cafe. We ordered a cream tea for two and he ate his scone with the teaspoon that came with his cup of tea.

I wasn’t horrified or anything like that I was just surprised. Is that a thing? I suppose it’s puddingy but I’ve always just picked it up and eaten it like toast, I thought everyone did.

I’m drying up like a sponge thinking about it. No just no

Isn't it good the children have gone back to school, this is the kind of cerebral conversation I absolutely come to Mumsnet for. All we need now is a cracking well paced parking thread (with diagrams) and no new 'is there going to be another lockdown thread' for a while and it will be back to normal!

@Durbeyfield

How have you got from eating scones with a spoon to keeping poo in a jar?!

hahahahahaha only on mumsnet

"You wouldn’t make a sandwich by putting the cheese on the bread and then buggering it, so why would you do that to a scone?"

I'm assuming Debrette's is silent on the matter of buggering cheese sandwiches?

The only time cutlery goes near a scone is when applying the jam and cream.

It wouldn't be a deal breaker for me though.

Obviously, he wears dentures.

@RedRec

I was mortified! Especially when he started chopping teeny tiny bits off a chip!

He must have thought you were a total savage op.

@Bumblenums1234

I assume she means they were still in there shell (think broad beans), and he eate the skin. Like eating an orange without peeling it.

You're supposed to pop the beans out of the case before eating them. In the shops their already de-shelled.

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tara fully agree about cutlery and cream teas.
The only time a knife comes close is to spread (jam then cream). But frankly more often simply use the spoons provided. If the scone is inferior then the knife might have to start the split but never cut through - you’d end up with flat surfaces. You need nooks and crannies for the JAM to nestle into.
If the scone is so huge that you can’t safely lift each half without danger of collapse then you’re in ‘inferior scone’ territory from the get go and all rules are lifted, I guess.
The thing which would worry me about this teaspoon use is that if there were some reason (ocd/Hand wash concerns etc) why on earth didn’t he make a joke of it - he can’t have been unaware that it was unusual surely ? Was it some kind of weird test of you ? Troubling. Stay alert op.

NCed as otherwise this may be outing. I am germaphobic and can’t eat food with my fingers unless I’ve been able to properly wash them immediately before, so I could easily imagine having to eat a scone with a teaspoon.

I once had to eat some unexpected chips with some (unused) disposable chopsticks I happened to have in my car. In public, with many normal people using their hands to eat said chips. I looked like a right Howard Hughes

@floppybit

That would make my fanny snap shut like an angry clam

Totally!

This thread is bugging me a bit, so many people have nightmare partners who don't do their share of cleaning, are slobs, or worse, abusive. This might be a really nice guy who just used a spoon!

Does he have facial hair? Since growing a lockdown beard I'm very conscious of the risk of getting sticky foods stuck in my 'tache. I could imagine wanting to break up a thick scone with sticky jam and a thick layer of cream, to avoid the danger!

Maybe he's developed his scone-eating method over the years so as not to get cream and jam all over his fingers.

Maybe his mum taught him that.

Are you really really thinking you might write him off because he's got a neat way of eating a scone?

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I suppose being fastidious like that might mean he's critical and precious in the bedroom. ?

Eating a cream tea with a teaspoon is a gateway to other horrifying behaviours.

Block him.

peachycream31 it wasn’t a neat way of eating a scone, it was a weird way. He was a really tall, big guy and him sitting there eating it with a tiny little teaspoon made him look like he was at a little girls tea party. I don’t think I’ll see him again because I don’t think there was much of a spark. I’m fed up of going on dates with men who are perfectly nice, going on more dates with them because there’s nothing objectively wrong with them and then things just fizzling out because I’m not really interested.

stop looking, stop dating imo

Yeah that would be a bit of an ick for me. However, I musts admit I do sometimes eat those massive gourmet-style burgers with cutlery simply because I can't fit them whole into my mouth, and I'm also guaranteed to make a right mess with them, (ketchup running down hand etc), so it is better while out in civilised society for me to eat them with a knife and fork. In an uber-casual way of course; I might cut it in half or quarters then eat it with my hands. In fact I think I might cut scones in half too, but in my defence I don't think that's as bad as eating them with a spoon!

If you don't want to see him again don't but to create a thread slagging him off for doing something different to the way you do it and encouraging others to do the same is a bit shit.

I thought this was about scones, then I read about buggering cheese sandwiches....

He was a really tall, big guy and him sitting there eating it with a tiny little teaspoon made him look like he was at a little girls tea party

Anyone else got the image of Buzz Lightyear being Mrs Nesbitt?

Sorry your date didn't go well OP and you didn't feel a spark. As you say this is a common pattern for you, have you thought more generally what you are after? If it's a passionate fling then this is likely not a contender but if you are looking for a long-term partner then sometimes the feelings grow as you get to know each other. If you are after a fast and furious experience (nowt wrong with that) you might find a date in a bar is more conducive than meeting for an afternoon cream tea?

My daughter (8) eats a cream tea all put together like a burger. But this guy, imagine how uptight he’d be in the sack if he can’t bear to get his face messy with a cream tea.