To wonder what she actually expects us to do?

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My husbands ex has sent a message stating that it's not acceptable that my DSC are being woken in the night by our baby, they have told her they are tired a couple of times now apparently and they can't be tired before school so "we need to sort it".

AIBU to wonder what she actually expects us to do?

I am sleeping downstairs on the sofa with a new baby (in their basket obviously!) to try and limit the noise for the rest of the house but short of putting baby in the shed at night, we can't guarantee no one will ever be woken in the night by crying.

Baby isn't even that bad. They wake once or twice a night but it's never usually for long, they aren't left crying and crying for hours or anything like that.

I don't know whether to just ignore this? She was annoyed about DH having another DC anyway, could it just be trying to throw some sort of spanner?

DSC haven't said anything although I appreciate they may not have wanted to, but all in all they seem happy and really enjoying having a baby sibling.

[quote Mymapuddlington]@ancientgran
I find that quite sad, adopted children should be part of the family, surrogacy children should as well. Just because a baby didn’t come from the same womb doesn’t mean they’re not siblings.[/quote]
They didn't say adopted or surrogate children ween't siblings, they were saying they were siblings. They happened to come from the same womb and it was there come back to snidey comments about "He's only a step/half brother."

Maybe the difference is too subtle.

They happened to come from the same womb and it was there come back to snidey comments about "He's only a step/half brother."Maybe the difference is too subtle

There's nothing subtle about it, and step sibling isn't actual a relation, wheras half you share DNA.

If a particular bunch of people want to ignore their dna and call themselves what they want, that's great for them. But other people using the correct terminology are not in the wrong. Also, a lot of kids in blended families don't want everyone to keep insisting they are just siblings, when they know they aren't and they don't feel that way.

I would reply sarcastically that the baby has had a strong talking too and that you will be leaving to go to your Mums when they sleep so the baby doesn't disturb them....

I think for the sake of keeping a relationship with her, I'd say thanks for letting me know, I'll try some white noise in their rooms and put them to bed a bit earlier. Both easy things that don't have any bad side effects

I'd also close their door when they were asleep