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To be fed up with this generation of Botox & fillers?

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morecheeseplz · 13/09/2021 13:38

I'm mid twenties and I find that my friends are having a ton of work done fillers in there jaw lips. Even wanting to go and have BBL's in turkey now.

I find it exhausting just listening to it and seeing it all the time. Over editing pictures to the point it doesn't even look like them. This sounds really nasty and I don't mean for it to be but my friend is starting to look scary and she is 2 years younger than me.

I keep telling her to stop but she absolutely loves it.

I know it's not just my friends but I find it so exhausting even looking on social media everyone just looks weird to me.

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SwishSwishBisch · 13/09/2021 13:51

YANBU at all. It’s difficult to watch people you care about doing things that you yourself do not agree with. But that is what you have to do I’m afraid.
All you can really do is reassure your pals that they’re gorgeous as they are, but if they want to get surgery/fillers/an extra head sewn on, that is their choice ultimately.
If you’re really bothered by it, it might be time to expand your social circle to find some friends who are less looks obsessed?

CaroleFuckingBaskin · 13/09/2021 13:55

I wonder what they will look like in a few years. Surely if you have all this stuff done you have to keep it up. Then end up looking like the bride of wildenstein. As for the slug tattoo eyebrows...😀

WhatATimeToBeAlive · 13/09/2021 13:58

YANBU but it does seem to be an obsession with a generation that are too young to actually need any work doing. Trowelling on the make up doesn't do them any favours either, it makes them look so much older - and not in a good way!

Hopdathelf · 13/09/2021 13:58

YANBU to not like that look. YABU to keep telling your friend to stop. It’s up to her. Answer honestly if she asks you but otherwise keep your views to yourself.

EvilPea · 13/09/2021 13:58

When I went out in my 20’s. I’d shave my legs, blow dry my hair (cut and colour every 6 weeks), pluck my eyebrows, paint my nails and toes. Bit of makeup and that was it, some people fake tanned (I didn’t have the nack). But that was pretty much all your do.

I would not like to be young now. It seems ludicrously expensive and hard work!

It’s a fad op. It will pass and they will be stuck with these awkward faces. The closest example I can give is the 90’s eyebrows, I know they are looked at in disgust and confusion now by the teens of today.

BlueberrySugar · 13/09/2021 14:00

I don't think it's just this generation so I find that quite rude.

At the end of the day it's her body her choice. You're not having it done so why do you care so much?

TinaWeymouthsBass · 13/09/2021 14:01

I find it really sad and depressing that young women feel they need to do this to themselves, it's deeply troubling that we have got to the stage that no matter what we look like it's never good enough.

I'm in my 50s and have friends and colleagues that have been injecting and sculpting their faces for years and they now look far older and disfigured than the ones who've not and the trouble is you get to a stage when it's never enough and you have to resort to surgery.
So so sad.

malificent7 · 13/09/2021 14:04

Capitalism/ the patriarchy dosn't want women to be happy with their looks EVER as the beauty industry majes ££££ and if women didn't think negatively about their looks 24/7 they might actually become empowered.

Halloweeeeeeeeeeeeeen · 13/09/2021 14:07

Honestly it’s the lip fillers that weird me out. I see them out and about and they look weird in real life. Really weird.

However I have a lot of empathy for people who feel so sad that they think they need them because of Kylie Jenner etc.

Youdoyoutoday · 13/09/2021 14:12

I'm sat watching Towie right now and I cannot agree with you more. One cast member is around 20 and looks 40 for the amount of work she's had done and it will never stop.

BathMatToe · 13/09/2021 14:13

Yes they look deformed.
Like frogs or mannequins.

It's all fine people saying what does it matter and it's up to them but it's the miserable society we live in that is causing women mainly to view themselves in such a negative light, that they actively choose to rip body hair out to look like toddlers, poison their faces so they look like they're wearing an expressionless mask and deform their body with surgery and cancer causing industrial compounds to look appealing to men.

It's revolting. Society is ruining women.
Their self esteem so tied up in how they look that they do this.

I dread girls growing up in this generation of endless swiping and judgement from men on Tinder to the bombardment of filtered deformed bodies in their hands for hours of the day.
It's so damaging.

oohmama · 13/09/2021 14:15

Society is ruining women.
Their self esteem so tied up in how they look that they do this.

This 😢

BIoodyStupidJohnson · 13/09/2021 14:18

It's the dark side of social media. Turns everything into an arbitrary beauty contest, with a never-ending parade of the most vicious judges.

Campervan69 · 13/09/2021 14:21

Absolutely agree op. Looks so weird in real life as well. I'm sure they will be in a mess as they age.

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morecheeseplz · 13/09/2021 14:28

I just think it's really sad yes it's nothing do with me but seeing my friend who was so naturally pretty when I first met her. Looks terrifying now her whole face looks blown up.

It's so so sad Sad

I say this generation because I don't remember it ever being like this growing up.

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znaika · 13/09/2021 14:28

It's absurd and the fake culture is everywhere. I have to tell my 20 something employees that we can't use their social media photos on the company website for their profiles as thats not what they actually look like. It seems mean and unkind but the fakery has permeated everything

Have a picture with a surfboard and surfgear- you're a surfer! Actually surfing is physically and mentally demanding and takes courage, skill and dedication. Fuck that- let's fake it and on and on and on. But it's not kind to point out you can tell it's a fake so on it goes.

CarrotSticks23 · 13/09/2021 14:32

I agree OP. I have a few friends who have had excessive filler/both and their faces look really odd now. They were really pretty before, and you just wonder when/if it will stop. Getting one thing changed is not such a big deal but the problem with filler is you can just keep going, and often people are never satisfied.

It's also quite poorly regulated industry. There are complications which often the actual practitioners cannot manage and patients can get stuck in limbo

Its not a risk free, reversible procedure as its often sold as. I find it sad the fact that people feel the need to continually edit their faces putting themselves at risk, and it's a self perpetuating cycle. The more people edit themselves and their photos, the higher the standard and the more people will do it

VladmirsPoutine · 13/09/2021 14:34

I think some people have taken it entirely too far and look blown up. A few tweakments here and there can really make someone look striking, though.

nahnahnahnahnahyeh · 13/09/2021 14:38

I feel sad watching Married at First Sight this week. Nearly everyone of those women had clearly had some sort of work done on their face.

Honestly it makes me feel pressured to look a different way because it's everywhere.

DrSbaitso · 13/09/2021 14:40

Every generation has shit and expensive fashions. In the 90s it was the Rachel cut, together with those godawful Ginger Spice highlights, just blocky yellow, red and orange stripes all the way.

LaBellina · 13/09/2021 14:45

I agree OP and it makes me feel pressured too, to get fillers, veneers etc. But then I look in the mirror and the face I see is ME and not some kind of Instagram filter. But the pressure is there. It doesn’t help that as a teen I was bullied for being ‘ugly’. It nearly drove me to suicide at 15. I’m always scared that I’m going to have my life made hell again for not fitting in in terms of looks.

drpet49 · 13/09/2021 14:46

* I agree OP. I have a few friends who have had excessive filler/both and their faces look really odd now. They were really pretty before, and you just wonder when/if it will stop.*

^I have 2 friends who have done this. One is almost unrecognisable. It just looks awful.

ididitsocanyou · 13/09/2021 14:46

I do not understand young women doing this but I do understand it can help for deep wrinkles and sagging faces that make you look miserable. If you don’t have deep, age related lines or drooping eyelids/jowls why on earth do it?

JazzerMcCreary · 13/09/2021 14:49

It honestly makes me feel such a disconnect with my peers that this is seen as normal. (I’m late 20s)

Sometimes I feel a bit shit about myself because I’m so ‘plain’ by comparison.

MattDamon · 13/09/2021 14:55

It's older women, too. Matt Damon's wife has always looked very pretty and age-appropriate. She's turned up at his new movie premiere this week with giant fake lips and a weird botox-to-the-max expression. She's 45 and a married mum of 4.

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