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To be fed up with this generation of Botox & fillers?

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morecheeseplz · 13/09/2021 13:38

I'm mid twenties and I find that my friends are having a ton of work done fillers in there jaw lips. Even wanting to go and have BBL's in turkey now.

I find it exhausting just listening to it and seeing it all the time. Over editing pictures to the point it doesn't even look like them. This sounds really nasty and I don't mean for it to be but my friend is starting to look scary and she is 2 years younger than me.

I keep telling her to stop but she absolutely loves it.

I know it's not just my friends but I find it so exhausting even looking on social media everyone just looks weird to me.

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WhatATimeToBeAlive · 13/09/2021 14:56

@DrSbaitso

Every generation has shit and expensive fashions. In the 90s it was the Rachel cut, together with those godawful Ginger Spice highlights, just blocky yellow, red and orange stripes all the way.
This isn't about clothing, this is about injecting chemicals into your face and completely changing how you look, not to mention any future side effects. No other generation has had this to such a degree.

I really feel women's lib is going backwards - there appears to be more and more pressure on how a woman looks, rather than her intelligence or personality or what she can contribute to the world.

SafeMove · 13/09/2021 14:59

What makes me absolutely vomit is the reasoning behind these changes.

Botox and fillers are to smooth out your skin . Who has smooth skin? Children basically. Same with lip filler. Who has full lips? Children. I have seen women describe their huge lips 'blow job' lips. Vile. Your lips aren't there to service a dick ffs. Removing all body hair? Who has no body hair? Children. So you are deemed sexually attractive if you made yourself look like a doll or a child. I do not want anyone who finds this infantilism/removal of being a normal woman attractive, as honestly, their taste freaks me out. We are more than fucking sex objects whose features need changing to satisfy perceived levels of modern attractiveness and its a sick measure IMO.

Lavender24 · 13/09/2021 15:00

I agree. I'm 30 and one group of friends from my school year have been injecting their faces with shite since they were early 20s and they look absolutely awful now. I've started getting microneedling and dermaplaning done but I wouldn't go any further than that.

DomPom47 · 13/09/2021 15:07

It is sad that people are not happy with the way they look. Social media and likes have a big role to play in people’s self confidence. Due to my age it is not something I dealt with. If your friend has money and is not going into debt to get the things done and it will make her happy so be it.

2389Champ · 13/09/2021 15:10

I know they’re not permanent, but these bizarre eyelash extensions puzzle me. Quite agree, we all like long lashes - mascara would be my desert island luxury - and discrete extensions can make a fantastic improvement. But these huge drag queen monstrosities just seem to weigh down the eyes.

Totally agree with the fat lip thing too. With the eyelashes and the pouty lips, so many women seem to end up looking like those blow up dolls that are used for other purposes!

TillyTopper · 13/09/2021 15:10

I agree with you OP. I think ppl think a few tweaks would help then they get carried away.

Greyhare · 13/09/2021 15:13

@DrSbaitso

Every generation has shit and expensive fashions. In the 90s it was the Rachel cut, together with those godawful Ginger Spice highlights, just blocky yellow, red and orange stripes all the way.
Yes but they aren't permanent and can be easily fixed and or changed but the current trend to sport rubber dinghy-esque lips or the fox brow/eye thing isn't, I find it sad that women are disfiguring themselves to 'fit in'
SmokeyDevil · 13/09/2021 15:13

@DomPom47

It is sad that people are not happy with the way they look. Social media and likes have a big role to play in people’s self confidence. Due to my age it is not something I dealt with. If your friend has money and is not going into debt to get the things done and it will make her happy so be it.
It is sad. But I do wonder how many will actually be happy with it in 10 years time. Bet this will be the next big lawsuit or way to get money back, complaining that you didn't know the downsides of botox or that you'd end up looking like a fish. Doesn't Courtney Cox say she regrets all the work she's had done? Too late by that point. Once you start, that's it, you'll never be going back to how you were.
Calmdown14 · 13/09/2021 15:16

Couldn't agree more. Feel like the meaning of what it is to be a woman is being reduced to a blow up doll
If you don't fit this you opt out by being queer, trans any of the other million labels.
It is so sad. We are so much more than this narrow reduction.
As for the look itself, it makes them all look like 40 year old women trying to look young when they are actually young and should just be enjoying that.
Again, an unpopular opinion but think lot is tied to young women being slightly more overweight than previous generations but aspiring to the Kardashian look which just isn't possible without enhancement

Mrsjayy · 13/09/2021 15:19

I have Dds your age and some of the "girls" they went to school with are unrecognisable but they all look like each other it's such a strange phenomenon,it's very sad.

LakieLady · 13/09/2021 15:23

Some of the more extreme work makes people look like mutants or something imo: the cheek implants that are all round and shiny, like there's an abscess brewing underneath, the fillers that make women look like their lips have been turned inside out, eyes that slant upwards at the outer corner like a caricature of Catwoman - I find it eerie and ugly.

I just think it's the most appalling shame that so many women are that insecure about their appearance that they feel compelled to resort to this, and I'm really not comfortable with fillers and so on being done at beauty salons. At least actual plastic surgeons are more regulated.

IfImLyingImDying · 13/09/2021 15:24

Don’t worry OP, there’s a growing group of us out there from your generation, that don’t go in for all that stuff. Many of the people I surround myself with are of the the non-judgemental and non-conforming variety and as soon as I found my place among them in my late 20s, it felt liberating. I do however, remember how the women of our parents generation tried to hold on to youth so forcefully though and it really did them no favours.

As an aside, I have naturally full lips due to my heritage and I am sick and tired of being asked where I “got them done”, especially as I used to be teased relentlessly at school about them!

daisyjgrey · 13/09/2021 15:26

Is she asking your opinion or are you just telling her to stop off your own back?

Unless you're being asked specifically "do you think I should get X?" then it's not really any of your business.

Starbrand · 13/09/2021 15:26

Three cheers for this thread. Imagine if you were mid 30s and single! So much pressure to get it all done!

workshy44 · 13/09/2021 15:28

Its so so aging. I just can't understand how they can't see this. Instead of looking better young girls/women now look like women in their 40's
The lips are the absolute worst. Who are they doing it for ? Its not like guys even find it attractive as with all those dating shows/love Island the natural one always seems by far the most popular

Mrsjayy · 13/09/2021 15:28

I mean how rude "where did you get them done". 😲

Pinkspecs · 13/09/2021 15:29

I agree with you OP.
I think some people see 'imperfections' that aren't there.
And then ruin their face.
It's also so ageing, seeing young 20 year olds (towie) that look 20 years older it's so bizarre.
I always thought I would get it done when I was older but actually I think I won't.
I think people end up looking weird.

arethereanyleftatall · 13/09/2021 15:30

Yanbu.

The problem is with all this stuff, the women look absolutely beautiful in photos etc and probably in front of the mirror.

But, when you're talking to them and their face doesn't move/wrinkle free skin doesn't match the age clearly visible in their eyes - it just looks really really odd.

A bit like when someone tries on high heels and looks gorgeous standing still, but then walks like a duck.

SparklingLime · 13/09/2021 15:36

@DrSbaitso

Every generation has shit and expensive fashions. In the 90s it was the Rachel cut, together with those godawful Ginger Spice highlights, just blocky yellow, red and orange stripes all the way.
A haircut and highlights are a long way from injected fillers. You must get that?
CaroleFuckingBaskin · 13/09/2021 15:39

It will look ridiculous when their necks go all scraggy and the face is so puffed it doesn't move.

If you want to guess an age then necks and hands give the game away.

IfImLyingImDying · 13/09/2021 15:39

@Mrsjayy

I mean how rude "where did you get them done". 😲
Totally. I just reply “it’s all natural beauty darling”
Thecazelets · 13/09/2021 15:40

I don't know anyone in real life who's had that sort of stuff done, but it is a definite and immediately noticeable 'big face' look which seems to distort people's features rather than enhancing them - Felicity Kendall, for example. I'm all for 'your body, your choice' but I am still mystified by it, especially on young girls.

Chickydoo · 13/09/2021 15:42

I find I can't stop staring at someone who has obvious enhancements. It just looks so strange. A while ago I was aggressively asked 'what are you staring at' by a glamorously dressed women with a Wildenstien face. I mumbled something about nice shoes and hurried off.
Surely though people do this to be stared at. I am fine with subtlety, it's the bigger, bolder brasher I'm not so keen on.

EvilPea · 13/09/2021 15:44

@DrSbaitso

Every generation has shit and expensive fashions. In the 90s it was the Rachel cut, together with those godawful Ginger Spice highlights, just blocky yellow, red and orange stripes all the way.
I get what you meant. It’s a fashion.

Ours grew out / were reversible. It’s unfortunate these aren’t and I don’t think the people that have it done realise they will age them in years to come

Avinagiraffe83 · 13/09/2021 15:47

I needed to read this today, at almost 40 I am sorely tempted and the last of my circle of friends to dive in. Perfect timing mn

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