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To be fed up with this generation of Botox & fillers?

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morecheeseplz · 13/09/2021 13:38

I'm mid twenties and I find that my friends are having a ton of work done fillers in there jaw lips. Even wanting to go and have BBL's in turkey now.

I find it exhausting just listening to it and seeing it all the time. Over editing pictures to the point it doesn't even look like them. This sounds really nasty and I don't mean for it to be but my friend is starting to look scary and she is 2 years younger than me.

I keep telling her to stop but she absolutely loves it.

I know it's not just my friends but I find it so exhausting even looking on social media everyone just looks weird to me.

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TheLeadbetterLife · 13/09/2021 22:52

I know Naomi Wolf is persona non grata these days, but back in the day she made some pretty compelling arguments in The Beauty Myth.

I wonder whether the very young generation of girls will rebel against all the plastic artificiality, drag queen make up and pornification of current fashions and go ultra-natural. Body hair, no make up, minimal hair products, comfortable clothes etc. That would be fun to watch.

There's a photo of my mother in 1963, standing next to my grandmother. They're dressed identically - two piece skirt suit, beehive hair, gloves, little handbag. She was 14! No wonder her generation ushered in the hippy revolution.

Alternista · 13/09/2021 22:58

I can understand people wanting to hold onto their youth. But the massive thick brows and lips that look like a sex doll?? Just don’t get that.

MrsSkylerWhite · 13/09/2021 22:59

You are not the least unreasonable. It’s nuts.

KeyboardWorriers · 13/09/2021 23:06

If it makes anyone else feel less like they aren't the only one not "doing stuff" - I am 40 and have never used hair dye, botox or anything remotely like that. In fact I rarely get round to even using a bit of lip balm. I do like spending money on dramatic earrings and expensive perfume though.

elbea · 13/09/2021 23:13

I’m the same age brackets and none of my friends have had this or talk about it. Admittedly none of us are particularly what would be thought of as fashionable, much more at home in wellies. I don’t think any of my friends have ever dyed their hair which admittedly may be unusual.

I often think it’s the more vocal majority having these things done, those who post their entire lives on social media and are very visible.

AnnieSnap · 13/09/2021 23:23

I get the subtle thing. Botox can be great, surgery to change something can be great if desired. I am taken aback though with the stuff that looks so obviously false - slug eyebrows, crazy long lashes and worst if all, duck lips. I also wonder, with the big lips. If the person (not just women now) decides to have the filler removed, the skin of the lips will surely have been stretched and them just hang there 😳

NotMyCat · 13/09/2021 23:30

Yeah I mean subtle is good if well done
My eyebrows are tattooed and very natural, it's not obvious at all
I don't think I would ever have filler but never say never, seems to be once you've had it and got used to it you want more and more

Fatarseflanagan09 · 14/09/2021 01:45

Each to their own I suppose but recently I heard a group of girls discussing the COVID jab, a few of them said they’d never have it because they’d heard it can cause loads of problems such as sterility and cancer, they would never inject their bodies with unnatural substances, most of them had lip fillers, breast implants and sun bed tans, the irony.

LobsterNapkin · 14/09/2021 03:01

The sex doll look really is kind of disturbing. The lips look like some kind of awful anal prolapse, and the face sculpting looks like weird bone deformities. And tattooed eyebrows - surely people know that the on trend brow changes every few years?

But I do think that social media and filters are behind a lot of it. Many of these girls have developed a distorted image of themselves, I think they have a dysmorphia. What they see in the mirror is not what's there.

The effort to completely hide ageing is also very bad - it stops people from becoming reconciled to the fact that they will age and die. Instead of trying to do those things well, they try to avoid acknowledging them. Of course they can't and when the point is forced, it is devastating.

The Amish might have it right about mirrors.

1forAll74 · 14/09/2021 03:45

I always wonder why these young women have all this lip filler and all the other gunk put in their faces, when they look quite ridiculous doing so. A lot of the women look identical afterwards, like they have all come off the assembly line in plastic factory. You often see young men on TV, too, who have had lip fillers and slug like eyebrows.

LubYouMaow · 14/09/2021 04:38

I look at all these beautiful young girls with oversized lips, bad fillers and giant fake lashes who are ruining their pretty faces and I feel so sad. I just want to give them a cuddle and say ‘Sweety, what made you think you had to do that to yourself? You are beautiful, you don’t need it’
But of course I never say anything. They have to figure it out for themselves.

Stircraazy · 14/09/2021 04:48

I was convinced I needed a nose job in my teens, probably would have had one if I'd had the money. Definitely would have had Botox if I could. Though I was striving to look 'naturally' beautiful.
It's the striving to look an artificial way that I cant understand. I presume it's lack of confidence, envy that drives it. You want the life these celebs have. I don't think teens will stop feeling way that any time soon.

Stircraazy · 14/09/2021 04:48

That way

garlictwist · 14/09/2021 04:51

It's not just young women. I walked past a woman in her forties the other day that had such severe trout pout that I did a double take.

I don't think we can blame the patriarchy. Most men I know do not like this look.

garlictwist · 14/09/2021 05:00

@TertiusLydgate

I think Kate Lawler looks great.

She had very thin lips and a bulbous nose. To me, it looks like she has had good work done, and I can't even notice fillers.

She looks 10 years younger than her twin sister.

I've just googled her. She looks fake and plastic and totally different.
lazyarse123 · 14/09/2021 05:23

We have a young woman at work, who has had everything done but she looks scary (we reckon she could sweep the floor if she fell over) but she won't have the covid vaccine because she doesn't know what's in it.
As the saying goes "there's no arguing eith stupid"

redpontipine · 14/09/2021 07:52

I went too far with filler.
Top ups for almost ten years. DH and I watched Married at first sight UK. I realised my face looked like some of the girls on there. Took a few pictures and was honestly shocked looking properly at what I had done. (Space raider)

I made an appointment for dissolving and got one the next day. That was so painful.
1 week later and there is no filler in my face. I look about 8 years younger and it has been the most liberating experience ever.

I'm left with excess skin. My lips are shrivelled up and around my mouth as if I smoked from in the womb. I have jowls (at 29)

I would like to say for me personally I knew my face was a mess and it was becoming an embarrassment for me.
I started young and looking back I was insecure with personal issues and I never really noticed how bad it had become until it was gone.
Women strangers especially have been nicer to me in the last 4 days than they have in the last 5 years which I find sad but my confidence has finally come out.

Stircraazy · 14/09/2021 07:52

There was a spell of all male actors having 'unnatural' eye brows.
Such a distraction when they are playing the part of scruffy detective / psychotic killer / down and out.
Ditto blue white teeth. I like nice teeth but if they are so bright as to distract from a persons eye (which is what you normally look at first when you see someone) it's not so good - and the same thing applies for scruffy detective / 80 year old grandad in films - it looks silly.

CookPassBabtridge · 14/09/2021 07:57

I don't know men who like it either. Literally every man I've spoken to (friends, family, partners) want natural. Soft droopy boobs, normal lips, no fake tan etc. These women seem to do it for other women.
I do feel a bit of pressure to get botox as I get older (36) as I think I'm gonna look so old in comparison! But the people I'm around every day aren't into all this.

redpontipine · 14/09/2021 08:03

I would also like to add that even though people around me are amazed how much better I look - it is drastic. My three children (eldest is 9) haven't noticed a thing which really warms me. Unconditional love.

I also think and I've done it myself. Having bad experiences with filler a lot of people are tempted to 'patch it up' rather than realising you can dissolve and start again. This cheek is a bit bigger so I'll put more in the other.
I really do think that's how the tumbleweed starts.

TheLeadbetterLife · 14/09/2021 09:17

That’s a sad story redpontipine, but I’m glad you’re feeling better about yourself now.

I do think there’s a kind of delusion or confirmation bias about how these treatments look to other people.

I often see comments on these boards like “it can be so subtle you can’t tell when it’s been done well” (i.e. expensively), but it’s just not true. You can always tell, and it always looks weird and plastic, or just not quite right.

I mean, if Hollywood A-listers with more money than god can’t get it done without it being obvious, there’s no chance for anyone else.

chocolatesweets · 14/09/2021 09:18

You do you. Yanbu

Auntienumber8 · 14/09/2021 09:40

When I was 20 these treatments didn’t exist. I remember girls at my school over plucking their eyebrows but they grow back. I just wonder what possible long term effects will be.

Bluntness100 · 14/09/2021 09:56

@TheLeadbetterLife

That’s a sad story redpontipine, but I’m glad you’re feeling better about yourself now.

I do think there’s a kind of delusion or confirmation bias about how these treatments look to other people.

I often see comments on these boards like “it can be so subtle you can’t tell when it’s been done well” (i.e. expensively), but it’s just not true. You can always tell, and it always looks weird and plastic, or just not quite right.

I mean, if Hollywood A-listers with more money than god can’t get it done without it being obvious, there’s no chance for anyone else.

That’s not true, you can’t always tell. It can be done very subtly and they don’t look weird. Look at someone like Gillian Anderson, she looks fantastic although maybe a poor example as she’s had so much done. Helen mirren another one

Lots of women get Botox just to soften their eleven lines, but they are still there, just less deep, or facial fillers to replace lost volume, again not detectable but makes them look fresher.

When it looks weird and you can tell it is because it’s went too far.

Guacamole001 · 14/09/2021 10:17

For the record dermal fillers only inject hyularonic acid into the skin which is a natural substance in our face to start with. So far as I know.

A lot of people are sceptical as to what is in the filler but I see nothing wrong with a natural substance just not to excess.

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