To be fed up with this generation of Botox & fillers?

[morecheeseplz]

I'm mid twenties and I find that my friends are having a ton of work done fillers in there jaw lips. Even wanting to go and have BBL's in turkey now.

I find it exhausting just listening to it and seeing it all the time. Over editing pictures to the point it doesn't even look like them. This sounds really nasty and I don't mean for it to be but my friend is starting to look scary and she is 2 years younger than me.

I keep telling her to stop but she absolutely loves it.

I know it's not just my friends but I find it so exhausting even looking on social media everyone just looks weird to me.

If you’re getting all this work done, stuff pumped into your face in your 20’s it’s costly I’m sure you must have to keep it up through your thirties then forties likely when you have children etc how are oriole going to afford it and what are the side effects? I just think of lovely young women think they need fillers etc at 22 what on earth will they think at 42 which is the age I am now. I don’t know these things are meant to smooth things out and improve you not make you look like an entirely different person.

My sons stunning girlfriend got stuff in her lips recently she doesn’t need it, she clearly feels she does but I hope that’s where it stops. we can’t tell people what to do with their own bodies, it’s unfortunate but they like it/think it looks nice/good and that’s up to them I suppose, I worry about future side effects of these fillers.

I agree with pp I don't really love the aesthetic and prefer natural looking faces. We're all going to get old (if we're lucky) and I don't see the point in wasting energy fighting it.

It is sad though, to be at the age when your natural beauty is at its height and to feel that you need expensive and drastic changes to be pretty. I see it as driven by insecurity and the image-obsessed culture. People want to look good in their pictures and how they look in real life is of secondary importance. I used to see a lot of young women wearing harsh contouring makeup which is used to create light and shadow in photographs/video, but in real life looks utterly weird.

YANBU. Also hate the 'dermaplaning' fad which is essentially glorified shaving. Had to have a word with my teenage nieces who feel their faces are 'hairy' and need shaving so that they can cake on their makeup. And they wax their arms 😳 which are now covered in ingrown hair pimples.

@ItsRainingTacos

YANBU. Also hate the 'dermaplaning' fad which is essentially glorified shaving. Had to have a word with my teenage nieces who feel their faces are 'hairy' and need shaving so that they can cake on their makeup. And they wax their arms 😳 which are now covered in ingrown hair pimples.

Dermaplaning is an exfoliation tool primarily and can help with scarring and pigmentation. The hair removal is a secondary outcome, although it does help make up to be applied more smoothly.

It’s clearly an addiction too isn’t it? Some people don’t seem to know when to stop or have such poor self image, they are never satisfied and kerp going back for more.

I’m mid fifties and, like several others on here, have had Botox for frown lines because I just look cross otherwise, but I don’t want a shiny fixed face and an happy with my eye crinkles when I smile because that’s part of me.

I always think the saddest one is Katie Price. She was such a naturally beautiful girl with a fabulous body - all in total proportion. She went down the endless body and facial reconstruction and now looks almost distorted. If it made her happy, fair play, but her private life has been very complicated and it’s almost as though she felt that by controlling her looks, she would regain control of her life.

@nahnahnahnahnahyeh

I feel sad watching Married at First Sight this week. Nearly everyone of those women had clearly had some sort of work done on their face.

Honestly it makes me feel pressured to look a different way because it's everywhere.

Yes. That's not the only reason I felt sad watching it tbh

I can't get over how much it must all cost these girls. I was in the hairdressers recently and while sat there I did a mental tally of how much the girls in there must spend per year on treatments and thought it must be along the lines of ...

Acrylic nails: £360
Lip filler: £300
Botox: £600
Extensions: £600
Cut, highlights, blow dry: £600
Fake tan: £360
Waxing (assumption): £480

Over £3000!

I mean, how many twenty somethings have £250 per month after tax to spend on all that?! That's before you add on make up and clothes.

I wonder if they'll look back and regret it?

@TertiusLydgate

I think Kate Lawler looks great.

She had very thin lips and a bulbous nose. To me, it looks like she has had good work done, and I can't even notice fillers.

She looks 10 years younger than her twin sister.

Agree, not seeing the issue there at all. I think she looks lovely.

@doadeer

I think the filtering is also a huge phenomenon. I know lots of people that post unrecognisable images. Real human faces have texture, pores, moles, spots, marks, oil - it isn't smooth like a cartoon.

I'm just so confused by it because when you see them they aren't recognisable from the photo.

I'm early 30s and when I was growing up, yes you would dye or cut hair and experiment with makeup but injecting stuff in your skin from such a young age is crazy. And how much does it all cost?!!

I've noticed this! I sell on Shpock quite a bit and often the person when collecting looks unrecognisable. And my step daughter, who is 17 and imo absolutely beautiful, completely alters every photo so that she looks like a different person.

Someone like Nikita on married at first sight is a classic example, she has clearly tried to fix her insecurity with surgery rather than dealing with the issue head on.

I have a little bit or filler on my nose, it hides an injury until I’m able to have surgery to correct it, I just can’t imagine looking in the mirror and essentially seeing someone elses face, even if that face is better looking than mine.

Someone like Nikita on married at first sight is a classic example, she has clearly tried to fix her insecurity with surgery rather than dealing with the issue head on

And Morag. She looks as if she’s had a stroke.

Get better friends

Ok, so don’t get botox or fillers? Maybe instead you should learn to respect the choices of others, especially when they don’t affect or harm you in anyway!

One day their kids/grandkids ate gonna turn round and day “fuck me, what did you look like”

My friends daughter is getting married in 2 years and has refused to ask her cousin to be a maid. She is plumped up and her hair is thin and platinum. Such a pretty girl but she really has ruined herself. Pictures are awful

@MrsDThomas

One day their kids/grandkids ate gonna turn round and day “fuck me, what did you look like”

My friends daughter is getting married in 2 years and has refused to ask her cousin to be a maid. She is plumped up and her hair is thin and platinum. Such a pretty girl but she really has ruined herself. Pictures are awful

She's refusing to ask her cousin to be a bridesmaid purely because she doesn't like the way she looks?

@Hobnobsandbroomstick

I'm wondering what happens if you have lip fillers for a long period of time and then stop, do your lips become saggy?

Faye from love island said yes, like an ‘old man’s empty ball sack’ I believe, she does have an awful lot in there though.

I direct you to The Hunger Games.

Our dystopian, fucked up future is upon us.

Hideously disfiguring your face by blowing up your lips..... I despair.

Fake boobs, bums, slugs for eyebrows, frozen faces.

I will admit that I definitely judge people who do this and think they must be extremely shallow to pursue hideous disfigurement by choice.

I love botox and fillers. But I am in my 50s and use it to look less wrinkly and more rested. I hate to see such young girls doing it - you look your best in your 20s and 30s - you dont need that shit! Not that you need it in your 50s either to be honest, but I feel better with it.

Yes. And I would too. Absolutely. She has ruined herself. Her looks caused do many heartache.

But its nothing to do with you. Nor me, so.

@LeopardPrintTits

Ok, so don’t get botox or fillers? Maybe instead you should learn to respect the choices of others, especially when they don’t affect or harm you in anyway!

Respecting these choices, gives them life.

I do not respect gratuitously disfiguring yourself to meet a weird media borne ideal of what a woman SHOULD look like.

Where was it enshrined that we HAVE to respect every choice? I am very vocal about this as I have sons and a daughter who need to know.

@DrSbaitso

Every generation has shit and expensive fashions. In the 90s it was the Rachel cut, together with those godawful Ginger Spice highlights, just blocky yellow, red and orange stripes all the way.

I grew out my Rachel cut.

Fillers are not fully reversible because the inflammatory reaction at the injection site often leads to permanent internal scarring. The actual scars aren't visible, because they are under the skin, but they change the shape of the face. This probably isn't a big deal if you are having a small amount of work in your 50s, but it's worrying for young women.

I hear you OP. I'm 31. I've never had fillers or Botox.

I feel so plain and dowdy next to some of my friends. Like I don't fit it, am not stylish or glamorous enough on a night out with them. Proper plain Jane.

But on the other hand I get asked for ID when buying alcohol and lottery tickets! So perhaps I just need to play the long game here. People are shocked when they find out I'm 31 most place me at 23/24. So that good old bar of imperial leather soap and the bit of mascara I wear and lib balm must be doing me wonders. 😂

@MrsDThomas

Yes. And I would too. Absolutely. She has ruined herself. Her looks caused do many heartache.

But its nothing to do with you. Nor me, so.

Well then, don't talk about it or tell me.

I think that's much worse than making a choice about bodily autonomy. And she probably wonders why her cousin worries about being judged on her looks...

I was a teen in the 70s and 20 something in the 80s and honestly we were a lot less high maintenance than the current generation and more individual too.