To be fed up with this generation of Botox & fillers?

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I'm mid twenties and I find that my friends are having a ton of work done fillers in there jaw lips. Even wanting to go and have BBL's in turkey now.

I find it exhausting just listening to it and seeing it all the time. Over editing pictures to the point it doesn't even look like them. This sounds really nasty and I don't mean for it to be but my friend is starting to look scary and she is 2 years younger than me.

I keep telling her to stop but she absolutely loves it.

I know it's not just my friends but I find it so exhausting even looking on social media everyone just looks weird to me.

I don't know anyone in real life who's had that sort of stuff done

I expect you do, but if it's done well, you won't know. MN likes to tell me I must be a spoon with hair because I have low dose Botox once a year. I assure you I'm not. I just don't have frown lines. Can still move my forehead and knit my brow, albeit not quite as deeply. Nobody knows I've had it. No, really. They don't.

With that said, some people actively want the hair-spoon, Sharpie eyebrow look. It's an aesthetic and it's not supposed to look natural. Whether it's seen as a sign of wealth or high fashion or obvious falseness like pink hair or tattoos, I don't know. But if it looks very obvious and fake, chances are it's intentional.

I'm wondering what happens if you have lip fillers for a long period of time and then stop, do your lips become saggy?

I remember a decade or two ago people were complaining about the look of Bratz dolls and what message they were giving young girls about their appearance. I couldn't see the fuss, because they were cartoon caricatures. Now grown adults women are distorting their faces to look like Bratz dolls.

It's their face, and it's up to them, but I can't fathom how they afford it. And long term I wonder what it will do to their faces and skin.

I will admit I was slightly aghast when my 23 yr old niece had botox recently.

Having said that, she looks no different. She just can't frown as much or screw up her forehead. She's very pretty and natural-looking. As she says, it's preventative and she was already getting fine lines - so why not?

I am sure the young girls that have the slug eyebrow tattoos, lip fillers, coffin-shaped nail extensions and those hideous Russian lashes will look back and laugh at themselves. Just the same as I do when I look at my massive hair and dodgy make-up from the early 90s.

@Calmdown14 even the Kardashians can't physically achieve their look either. All of their photos are filtered and edited, so in a photo it's so far removed from what they actually look like too

I agree OP. I think it looks ridiculous. Especially the huge slug style tattooed eyebrow trend and trout pouts.

These women will have looked a lot better before any of these procedures.

A haircut and highlights are a long way from injected fillers. You must get that?

Not really. I've never had fillers but I've had Botox. It’s not permanent, in fact full on hair colour takes longer to grow out (unless your hair is very short) than Botox or fillers, done properly, take to stop working.

They are more invasive, true, but they're still minor procedures with temporary effects (though my frown lines have never been as deep as they were originally). There's a miniscule risk...same goes for hair dye. You can destroy your hair with bad treatments too.

Friend (52) has baby botox and some fillers. She looks good. When she didn't get it done over lockdown and went a year without it, she looked baggy and droopy. It was a shock. I think I'll stick to facial exercises to keep my face muscles actually working. I'm 52 and maybe more lines than friend but don't look any older. She takes a better photo though. And she takes a lot of selfies.

@BlueberrySugar

I don't think it's just this generation so I find that quite rude.

At the end of the day it's her body her choice. You're not having it done so why do you care so much?

It’s this generation that’s having stuff done to their faces that’s entirely unnecessary and pointless. There’s a reason for people who are starting to show signs of age.

I agree it makes you look 20 years older.
Some of the young women on Married at first sight look like 45 year olds trying to look younger in fact they are nowhere near that age.
Ages ago I had a hair appointment. There was already a young woman having her make up done when I arrived. She had already got layers of thick foundation on, false eyelashes, thick eyeshadow, you get the picture.
Anyway I had my hair washed, cut, blow dried , styled with straightened and paid and she was still in the salon having more make up applied. She had so, so much on and her face was what you see all the time on Instagram and on programmes such as Love Island etc.
I really couldn't believe how much was trowelled on.
Imagine spending the night with someone like this then seeing their bare face.
There are some women who actually look mixed race but are white, they wear so much crap
I think it's awful how females feel pressured into doing this to their bodies.

@BlueberrySugar

I don't think it's just this generation so I find that quite rude.

At the end of the day it's her body her choice. You're not having it done so why do you care so much?

I'm guessing that you have had the works done, and that's why you are annoyed about these comments?

I can’t get so worked up about this. While it’s not a look I would personally go for as long as they’re happy let them be.

Throughout history women have altered themselves in odd and dangerous ways. From lead makeup to corsets that cause severe damage to the organs to extreme tanning. Plastic surgery is probably less dangerous than most of these even though it’s not without its risks.

There is a lot more celebration of diverse beauty these days which is a step in the right direction.

Oh gosh yes, those faces that all look the same, fat lips, orange faces and ridiculously long and thick eyelash extensions that look like bog brushes.

These are young women that were probably once very pretty and now look freaky.

Society has a lot to answer for in regards to this. YANBU to feel frustrated, but to be personally exhausted because your friend wants some work is not really your business!

It really does make women look like drag queens. And I don't understand it.

@DrSbaitso

Every generation has shit and expensive fashions. In the 90s it was the Rachel cut, together with those godawful Ginger Spice highlights, just blocky yellow, red and orange stripes all the way.

None of this that the OP is talking about is really about 'fashion' though is it? Clothes and hairstyles can be changed for fun and aren't permanent, and yea every generation has had versions of those kinds of fashions that we can all relate to.

This is about permanently (or having semi-permanent procedures done so often at it amounts to the same thing) changing your face. It's about anti ageing too, because god forbid we look our ages.

I have had Botox for number 11 lines between my eyes, so I'm not against this kind of thing as such, but I'm in my 40s. Girls getting this stuff done in their 20s don't even have wrinkles in the first place and the pressure on them to look a certain way must be huge. I do worry about my daughter growing up in this sort of culture because girls are damaging their looks so much without even realising it, and there's no going back from some of these treatments.

Some look weird others look great. When the top supermodel is an ordinary looking girl who got her billionaire father to buy her a new face then you can see the appeal. Nothing is as it seems

Take a look at Kate Lawler for how not to have fillers.

I agree, @WhatATimeToBeAlive, there’s always been dodgy fashions but we don’t really know the effects of injecting chemicals into our skin over decades. Personally I think it’s risky and I’m not prepared to find out, I’ll stick with facials and live with my fine lines.

One of DD’s friends is about to turn 17 and her Mum showed me her birthday wishlist…it included lip fillers.😳 She’s not getting them, of course, but she was being serious!

I think Kate Lawler looks great.

She had very thin lips and a bulbous nose. To me, it looks like she has had good work done, and I can't even notice fillers.

She looks 10 years younger than her twin sister.

@TertiusLydgate

I think Kate Lawler looks great.

She had very thin lips and a bulbous nose. To me, it looks like she has had good work done, and I can't even notice fillers.

She looks 10 years younger than her twin sister.

She looks like she has a beak from the side.

There'll be a cohort of women who have been injecting their faces for decades soon enough. As they age, only then will we be able to what the impact of paralysing muscles for so long actually is.

I think the filtering is also a huge phenomenon. I know lots of people that post unrecognisable images. Real human faces have texture, pores, moles, spots, marks, oil - it isn't smooth like a cartoon.

I'm just so confused by it because when you see them they aren't recognisable from the photo.

I'm early 30s and when I was growing up, yes you would dye or cut hair and experiment with makeup but injecting stuff in your skin from such a young age is crazy. And how much does it all cost?!!

I'd love to know the environmental impact of the beauty industry, (to which I also contribute to) . From production of all the paraphernalia, to the packaging and to how the products, including those injected breakdown, and what enters the water cycle and food chain. I know its one of many contributers, but it would be interesting.

I don't get the big lips at all. I was bullied at school for having full lips 🤷🏼‍♀️

We all look back at photos of ourselves and cringe at the 'beauty' fashions of the day (90s eyebrows and blue eye shadow, I'm looking at you) but at least very few of ours were so permanent or damaging.