AIBU about magic mushrooms in the dining room

[FromEnglandWithLove]

Aaahh, so here it goes, I am deeply convinced I am not unreasonable but am prepared to be told otherwise.

In a nutshell: DH is growing magic mushrooms in the dining room. We have kids, I don't think it's right to grow psychedelic drugs in the house. He strongly disagrees and thinks I'm totally unreasonable to object.

I get that magic mushrooms have all sorts of health benefits, micro dosing etc, and it's not like he's running a meth lab but still, I'm not comfortable with a mushroom patch in my dining room. This kind of stuff has no place in a family home.

Am I being really uptight and awkward about this? AIBU to object?

Not unreasonable to grown them and eat them but so unreasonable to have them anywhere NEAR the kids
Jesus it’s a no brainier surely?

*grow

Urm….no. If he must grow them, they should be out of sight, reach, or anything to do with children

Yep I agree with the pp, fine to make the decision to take or grow them as an adult but they should be kept well away from children. The dining room is not appropriate! Much too easy for kids to get their hands on them.

YABU to even allow them in a house where there are children. What are you thinking?

Thought they grew in dark places?

Eh, I couldn't find it in myself to be bothered about this - as long as the kids can't accidentally eat them (i.e. locked growing container/high up).

As you mention they have lots of benefits, and by growing them himself nobody can object on grounds of the supply chain. They're also not physically addictive (nor have I ever met during my work in drug & alcohol recovery someone mentally addicted to mushrooms).

You're allowed your own boundaries though, it doesn't matter what someone else would do.

@Soubriquet

Urm….no. If he must grow them, they should be out of sight, reach, or anything to do with children

They need to go in the loft, and when the kids are old enough to get into the loft by themselves they need to go in a lock-up garage that the kids don't have a key to or even know about.

Fine to grow them but they have to be 100% out of reach and sight of the children. Preferably in a lockable growbox, and not in a room used by the children.

YANBU OP, I don't think they should be in the house.

Slightly different but I know a couple of people who grow cannabis at home - strictly 1 plant only, for personal use - but they either don't have children or their kids are older and have left home (and even so it's up in the loft/ in a cupboard). I don't think they'd do it with kids in the house.

Micro dosing may or may not become a thing... it's trying to break out but it hasn't really yet. Still illegal in basically every country... although that might change in the next 5-10 years. Still illegal currently though and still quite harmful to children who may ingest large amounts accidently.

Definitely not unreasonable object... probably more unreasonable to stay with someone who thinks that's acceptable. I would seriously question his decision making and parenting ability.

I used to grow them on top of the boiler.

Dining room is an utterly stupid place in a family home.

Think it's fine to grow them in the house but they should be completely inaccessible to the children. So not in a dining room no.

Lots of good points here, and it's interesting that some (many?) of you grow them at home.

I suppose it's one of many things recently that have made me feel DH is putting himself first and ignoring my feelings

No op. Of course it’s not ok to produce mind altering, illegal drugs in your family dining room 🙄

@SukonthaM it sounds so obvious when you put it like that but based on DH's reactions to my objections I've got to the point I'm doubting myself

I think he should think about how serious it would be if the kids ate one. Just need them well well well away from kids.

Do you honestly have to ask?! Stop doubting yourself - of course it’s a stupid (and dangerous) thing to do.

What is his objection to not growing them elsewhere where dc can't get too?

I wouldn't leave a packet of paracetamol within reach of a child, let alone growing drugs where they eat.

Could he grow them in your bedroom if he's going to? I can't say I know how to grow them but they either need sunlight or dark and any room could provide that.

Have you asked him how he’d feel if one of the children ingested some? How he’d explain to the doctors at A&E that his child was unwell and terrified?
I don’t have a problem with people taking recreational drugs at all, and have done myself in my youth. I’ve also seen people having a “bad trip” and it’s really not a pleasant experience. If someone put my kids at risk of that I’d be absolutely furious and questioning their ability to keep the children safe in other situations as well.

They are class A, would you be happy with a meth lab in the kitchen?

I don't object to mushrooms but its ridiculous to grow them in a 'public' area of the house. They are very susceptible to bacteria and so a closed area, free from pets or sticky child hands is better anyway.

YANBU

I wouldn't have them in my home , especially not with children around and they'd be gone in the bin.