AIBU to feed DH the same meal twice?

[KidsAreMean]

DH won't eat the same meal twice in one week. I, personally think it's absolutely bonkers, but apparently MIL never did (I must verify this with her!) and he doesn't like it. Fine. I've got used to it. However, usually during the week, I cook for the DC and will e.g. make a double portion of lunch which we eat 2 days later.
This week I made a massive lasagne. Plan: Monday lunch, Wednesday lunch when DH is home office and then we'd finish the rest Thursday lunch. Except DH has now decided he's working from home today (as well as yesterday). I don't have any other food in apart from eggs which he doesn't like. Else I can make an emergency pasta & tomato sauce - which is basically same as the lasagne!
So AIBU to serve him the lasagne? I'd planned to do the weekly shop tomorrow, going today will inconvenience me next week (even though I'm a sahm).

Oh my god, what is he doing to you? How dare he dictate such nonsense

How many days aoart does it have to be to become non-depressing?

Personally it would need to be about 2 weeks apart between meals before I wanted to eat it again. I don’t even serve potatoes/rice/pasta 2 days in a row and we have pork, beef,lamb, chicken, salmon, Prawns etc. I’d rarely do any of them twice in one week for a main meal even if the meal was totally different.

I try not to serve the same food twice so left overs go in the freezer for the following week. Lunches tend to be what's in the fridge and DH will go to the supermarket if he wants something different. If I am making something for myself I will ask him if he wants some. He will do the same. He occasionally cooks dinner but not often. Every family has their own ways. I would say to him we are having Lasagne today if you want something different pop out and get some thing you fancy. Easy.

I would be inclined to serve him this weeks leftover lasagne, next week

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All the pleasure of AC and GC but living too far away to babysit or school run. King-size bed to myself. Eat, sleep, buy and watch what I want, any time.
Enough money not to think about bills or curtail treats.

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That’s the beauty of being married to somebody will eat practically anything put in front of him without complaint.

Is this a joke post!?

I didn't know that Mumsnet & the internet existed in the 1950's!!!!!

Tell your manchild to make his own dinner!

If he doesn’t want what’s on offer, he feeds himself.

All this “feeding DH”, “serving DH” and “what I’ve got in” concerns me. “What WE’VE got in surely? He lives there too, right? And you are not the kitchen staff!

He's nuts, lasagne leftovers are the best.

I'd happily eat it every meal until it's gone (and as I live alone and only have a tiny freezer, have done).

"MIL never did" Oh, really? 😂 😂 😂

Being a SAHM means you call the shots IMO.
Surely next week is Fix Your Own Chow Week?

Ah, Lasagne twice in one week! Heaven!

People will get away with what they can get away with. Ludicrous. Tell him there is lasagne and hope he can cope with that as it has caused a riot on mumsnet who think he is as an overly - entitled man and you think they are probably right.

Get up off that doormat right now.

Just wow. I'm sorry your life is like this. It shouldn't be. Obviously YANBU, but really, you need to think about how you get some independence and don't worry for days about whether a meal you have cooked is good enough. That's not good OP and you deserve better.

I haven't read all the thread. I would tell him that he knows where the fridge is and how to work the cooker and let him get on with it. It reminds me of a competition, " Illustrate what you would prepare for husband's supper on WI night?" One entry: picture of a baked bean tin and a tin opener. I don't think it won though.

apparently MIL never did

And now you're his mother substitute, right? I don't understand why you put up with this. Isn't it a complete turn off to feel you need to 'feed' your DH?

I generally wouldn't but then I wouldn't want lasagne three times a week.

However zDh can make his own lunch if he doesn't like what I'm offering and vice versa

I must admit I'm a bit confused at all the let him get his own lunches when he's working from home. If you're all at home at a meal time, don't you all eat together?

If he doesn't want to eat what you have cooked then of course you should let him get his own lunches. Absolutely ridiculous. He is a grown man, not a spoilt toddler.
Totally pathetic and you should stop pandering to him.

He doesn't like what's on offer? He can't eat the same meal twice in a week? Fine, there's the kitchen, go and find something he does want to eat-

shove it in the blender and make a soup for him
He can watch you eat your delicious meal and review his ridiculous position on leftovers

@Peregrina

I'd suggest a Google Maps link to the supermarket would have been better 🤣.

Honestly, anyone would think that the penis gets in the way for poor poor OP's husband.

surely if he's sometimes working away from home, having the evening meal be the main meal would be better?

I find eating lunch as the days 'main' meal a bit weird. we only do that on a weekend when we generally tend to eat about 2pm.

As for the rest, it'd not strange to not want to eat the same meal twice in one week, but you can switch something like lasagne up with adding chips or salad, or garlic bread to it on the second serving.

In this instance OP, as its him who's changed his schedule, then telling him you and the kids were having leftover lasagne again, and he can either join you, or sort himself out, is absolutely fine... i'd do the same with ExH if he switched shifts with someone and was home when he is usually working.. he ate what i made for me and the kids, or made his own food.

I only read the title. And my response was.....

to feed DH the same meal twice

Umm he can feed himself and if he doesn't want the same meal twice, he can make something different himself. You are not his parent.

@KidsAreMean

I don't usually expect the kids to eat the same thing three times in one week. But, they begged for lasagne, I hate making it so they can eat it til it's gone! I don't want to freeze it as I don't like defrosted lentils.

We eat our main meal at lunch time. I usually do M/W and T/T although if I don't have enough for two meals, I portion some up for DH to take to work the following day and we eat something easy like scrambled eggs or fish fingers the other day of the pair. Otherwise he gets a cooked meal from the canteen or takeaway when he's at the office.

DH cooks one or both of the main meals at the weekend.

I must admit I'm a bit at all the let him get his own lunches when he's working from home. If you're all at home at a meal time, don't you all eat together?

No, not at breakfast or lunch. Everyone fends for themselves, although sometimes timings will work out so that we can eat together. Dinners we always eat a meal together though if we're all home.