AIBU to feed DH the same meal twice?

[KidsAreMean]

DH won't eat the same meal twice in one week. I, personally think it's absolutely bonkers, but apparently MIL never did (I must verify this with her!) and he doesn't like it. Fine. I've got used to it. However, usually during the week, I cook for the DC and will e.g. make a double portion of lunch which we eat 2 days later.
This week I made a massive lasagne. Plan: Monday lunch, Wednesday lunch when DH is home office and then we'd finish the rest Thursday lunch. Except DH has now decided he's working from home today (as well as yesterday). I don't have any other food in apart from eggs which he doesn't like. Else I can make an emergency pasta & tomato sauce - which is basically same as the lasagne!
So AIBU to serve him the lasagne? I'd planned to do the weekly shop tomorrow, going today will inconvenience me next week (even though I'm a sahm).

What an absolutely ridiculous question.

I read it as the third time....

Wtf did I just read. What makes me really angry is that women who enable this type of absolute bullshit make progress slower for the rest of us. Thanks op.

@KidsAreMean

I don't usually expect the kids to eat the same thing three times in one week. But, they begged for lasagne, I hate making it so they can eat it til it's gone! I don't want to freeze it as I don't like defrosted lentils.

We eat our main meal at lunch time. I usually do M/W and T/T although if I don't have enough for two meals, I portion some up for DH to take to work the following day and we eat something easy like scrambled eggs or fish fingers the other day of the pair. Otherwise he gets a cooked meal from the canteen or takeaway when he's at the office.

DH cooks one or both of the main meals at the weekend.

I must admit I'm a bit at all the let him get his own lunches when he's working from home. If you're all at home at a meal time, don't you all eat together?

Re the last paragraph.. people are saying to tell him to get his own lunch in this particular case because he is being unreasonable to expect a new meal every day. People eat leftovers; it's proper home economics. Saves time for the kitchen elf who magically makes it all appear.

Especially because you usually follow his eating demands, we are saying as this is a rare occasion, he can absolutely figure out how to feed himself.

If he wants something else, he can make it himself.

Tell him to get into the same decade as everyone else or make his own food.

Ridiculous it's even being questioned.

I'm a bloke btw and wouldn't dream of treating my wife that way.

If you want my truly honest advice he need a culture shock somehow, ie a friend should be saying that's not normal or just make you and the kids dinner and leave him out and say sorry I thought nothing was better than twice.

I too make a large portion and then have it again 2/3 days later. I personally do it because I work FT so it frees up some time but it also reduces food waste.
I guess if you are a SAHP you have more time to cook different meals every day but if it’s a meal everyone likes then I don’t see the problem having the same thing.

As PPs have suggested if he wants something different then he can make himself something different. He can still sit with you all and you can all still eat together.

Are you his slave??! Or just replacement Mother?! I understand the want to eat as a family, but it should be the kids being this fussy, not a grown ass man!

This sort of rubbish makes me happy I'm single but then again it's nice to read most of you wouldn't pander to it either!
He isn't being offered anything he absolutely hates to eat so I really don't see his issue ... even my child wouldn't moan when times were a lot tighter and she was having pasta on repeat

Think he needs to grow up ... he's not living with his mum anymore

Hopefully reactions to this have led you to realise you need to have a long, hard look at your relationship.

they begged for lasagne, I hate making it so they can eat it til it's gone! I don't want to freeze it as I don't like defrosted lentils

I’m curious…… I’ve not heard of or seen a lasagne made with lentils?🙄

I make a huge pot of something and eat the same food for dinner and tea every day until it is gone. Sometimes that can be 4 or 5 days if I make a huge portion.
I don't think eating the same thing twice in the week is unreasonable at all.

YA most definitely NU. Why is it your job to sort his lunch? Surely if you're good enough to make him food, he eats what's on offer or makes his own. If he's got an unexpected WFH day, surely he could have thought ahead that it's an extra unexpected meal to sort and he might have to pop to the shops himself? How is this in any way your responsibility?

Why would you ask his MIL. She created this man-child.
My DH would eat steak and chips for every meal if he could but unless he is cooking, he gets what he is given.
Tonight is tuna and rice, he hates rice but the other 4 of us love it. So he can make chips if he wants but I'm not cooking 2 meals, we are a home not a cafe.

Not everyone is at home at lunch time and unless you homeschool, your kids won't be home at lunch either.
Dinner is our meal time but this doesn't mean that I cook and cater for every food whim.

@Tomasinabombadil

they begged for lasagne, I hate making it so they can eat it til it's gone! I don't want to freeze it as I don't like defrosted lentils

I’m curious…… I’ve not heard of or seen a lasagne made with lentils?🙄

I used to make a veggie lasagne with puy lentils. Ingredients: onion, garlic, 2 peppers, about a dozen or so mushrooms, and about 250g of cooked puy lentils. Then do the rest (tomato-y sauce, herbs, bechamel) as you would for any other lasagne.

To the OP: my husband is happy to eat the same thing 5 days in a row. I am not. When we're both working from home, I'll make my own lunch, DH reheats his leftovers, and then we eat together. It's not rocket science.

And if my OH ever compared me negatively to his mother, he'd get an absolute earful. Maybe he'd like to go back to his mummy and she can make his food just how he likes it? Don't you dare ask your MIL about this.

I voted YABU because YABU to be cooking his meals for a start, but cooking his meals when he doesn't even appreciate them is bonkers. Tell him to make something himself if he's so fussy and 'doesn't want to eat the same thing twice'.

pinkpirlie

Not unreasonable , but joy sucking in my life.

If food is simply fuel then go for it.

A lot of life is a heavy.. Caring, working, cleaning, same old, same old.
I want to grasp bits of my life that I can relish and find joy, food is one of them. A wedge of lemon, fresh greens, tomatoes in season, it need not be expensive, but to me life affirming.

Erm is he incapable of feeding himself. Why on earth are you pandering around these pathetic rules. He could cook himself something and also go to the shop and buy food if he doesn’t like the food that is in.

We all get our own food at lunchtime.
We do eat evening meals together though. I do prefer to eat a different meal every day of the week tbh, but I think he should be grateful he is being cooked for.

If you are not employed outside the home at the moment, I can see that you might like to prepare food for your husband as you are having to cook for yourself and the children anyway. However, he sounds very inflexible and if he is that fussy I think he should sort some of his meals out for himself. And, even if you are not employed outside the home at the moment, I think he should take over the cooking sometimes.

I have put YABU

YABU for serving the cf lunch at all, he can sodding well make it himself

I’m curious…… I’ve not heard of or seen a lasagne made with lentils? - I would make a lasagna with green lentils, ditto bolognaise and chilli.

Being vegetarian.

Let the man child "serve" himself