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Neighbour issues!

150 replies

ShadowsInTheDarkness · 08/09/2021 11:13

Morning all.

Our cottage has a front path which runs past our front door and through our garden. It borders the back of some other cottages gardens and the cottage occupants have rights to access the path and use it for taking bins out, access etc. When we moved in we noticed that one cottage had a gate onto the path which was in disrepair, quite low and that their fence was falling down. We knew our dogs would be straight through it so we erected a post and chicken wire fence in our garden which ran alongside the path on our side. We can get onto the path via a gate and the neighbours have uninterrupted access to the path. We even placed the fence a foot or so further away from the path so that the access was wider than the path to make it easier to use.

Yesterday the neighbours called me over while I was outside. They have asked us to move the fence so that it runs further along, so they can more easily access their fence if the want to repair it. I agreed to this straight away, I have in no way been difficult about their access.

They have recently removed their hedge so that their garden now completely overlooks the path and our garden. The neighbours proceeded to point out that now the hedge is gone, our garden is their view, and that they would appreciate it if we could keep their view tidier. Specific things were pointed out such as a compost bag, a child's plastic chair that looked "dumped", some dogs toys and a bag of garden rubbish Id bagged up but not taken round to the bin yet. I was asked why we don't use the old green house which is a storage space and not used for growing (we have a larger one round the back of the garden!) and generally expected to hop to it and tidy up. The female neighbour "joked" that she would be doing an inspection later to check if I'd picked everything up.

I want to stress that these items were not up against the path, but in our garden. We generally keep the house and garden visitor ready but not immaculate as we are busy, and have a take us as you find us approach to visitors who pop round. We have livestock, DCs, dogs and both work/study full time. Our gardens are tidy and mowed but will inevitably have children's toys, feed sacks, hay and dog toys around.

So wwyd? DH wants to erect a solid fence pronto. I am avoiding going out there whilst also being tempted to pile up a load of pallets round there for storage and "accidentally" block their view!

There were also comments made about our dogs, chickens and ducks but as the birds are kept on part of our land that is not within sight of their "view" and a good distance away from them (nearly an acre) I'm inclined to ignore that. We aren't noisy or difficult neighbours and have always been very accommodating but this seems incredibly cheeky. Her justification for the request to keep the garden tidy was based on the fact that we "have all space" whilst they "only have this little bit". They are retired and sitting outside a lot at the moment with the nice weather so I'm hoping for rain soon!

Thoughts? Advice? How would you handle this? I will provide a diagram if requested 😁

OP posts:
FatCatThinCat · 12/09/2021 13:17

Sounds like they're jealous of your land and are tryiing to exert control over you and your land. I'd be thinking about what would be most annoying and do that. A trampoline next to the path maybe? I hear they're rather popular.

TheSpottedZebra · 12/09/2021 13:24

What's their proposal? That you do their bidding and make the land that they see 'nice' for them, or that you sell it to them?

TheSpottedZebra · 12/09/2021 13:26

Veg beds sound lovely. You could do no dig? Start by stockpiling cardboard. You need lot actually. And then your lovely much piles top.

TheSpottedZebra · 12/09/2021 13:26

top too

Buttercup54321 · 12/09/2021 13:34

Neighbours are CF.
Fence would be up by teatime!!!

TimeIhadaNameChange · 12/09/2021 14:05

Could you put a spring gate at either end of the path and then let the livestock loose?

GoWalkabout · 12/09/2021 14:54

Well done, now you have stood your ground hopefully they will realise how ridiculous they are being and pipe down.

DeletedByAccident · 12/09/2021 15:30

@TimeIhadaNameChange

Could you put a spring gate at either end of the path and then let the livestock loose?
Love this suggestion. The livestock will certainly mark your territory!
Brollypackedforscottishholiday · 12/09/2021 15:57

I would take photos of every angle and change you make. Keep a diary of dates of changes etc. You need to keep a record of your plans for your garden if you have concerns about them staking claims.
Have you pics of when the hedge was there?

RandomMess · 12/09/2021 16:06

Urgh they really hoped they could intimidate you into doing what they wanted!

How is the polka dot path? Lots of photos of the DC using the path!

OneMoreStitch · 12/09/2021 19:05

I'd hate feeling watched all the time, so I'd put up a solid fence for my own benefit, not theirs! I'd take some small pleasure in the fact that their "view" will now be a boring blank wall of fence! (Enjoy that amazing view, obnoxious neighbours!)

ShadowsInTheDarkness · 12/09/2021 20:11

@TheSpottedZebra

What's their proposal? That you do their bidding and make the land that they see 'nice' for them, or that you sell it to them?
Their proposal is very much that we don't use that bit of land and keep it pristine so they can look at it. Which just isn't happening. Chicken wire fence is down and all the posts and wire have been left in a nice heap right by the path. I was thinking that once the veg beds are up I might need to tie some carrier bags to sticks to keep the birds off the seed. That or wind chimes or similar. Livestock unfortunately can't be let out as most of them live down the road. We did have baby goats in that bit of garden last year with a high chance of more next year needing the same so I may just have to leave a gate open 😁
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Bargebill19 · 12/09/2021 20:25

Hmmm veg patch must need some noisy wind chimes surely?!

TwoLeftElbows · 12/09/2021 20:50

They are going to be very tiresome aren't they? Still Maude is a very picturesque chicken. She deserves an audience.

averylongtimeago · 12/09/2021 21:12

You need a nice big high fence on your boundary.
They are definitely after claiming at least the path and probably some of your garden too.

As an enthusiast vegetable grower myself, can I say that compost is absolutely vital. You will need 3 large compost bins (old pallets are very useful here) so you can have one in use, one maturing and one in the process of being filled. If you can add animal dung, so much the better.
I think you can guess the best place for these, can't you?

Erwhatno · 12/09/2021 23:10

Oh they’re nuts op!!

Clutterbugsmum · 13/09/2021 06:08

If you are putting in a veg bed in that area then I would definitely be putting up a tall (as you legally can) fence as I suspect they wouldn't think twice about helping themselves to your veg.

FangsForTheMemory · 13/09/2021 06:17

How awful that they cut the hedge down. I would say fence and plant a new hedge inside it. Blackthorn would be good.

PennyWus · 13/09/2021 06:24

Definitely a solid fence, and definitely along your boundary. Don't give up space in your own garden, that is foolish.

HeartShapedBalloon · 13/09/2021 06:52

If you want to keep the birds off your seeds you'll need a scarecrow...

LookItsMeAgain · 14/09/2021 15:35

Any update on what the CFer neighbours are up to @ShadowsInTheDarkness?

FOJN · 14/09/2021 15:49

Just seen you own the path. I would be putting up a sign on your new fence to the effect of, this is a permissive path only to cottages xyz. Please do not store items on it or block access. Kind regards abc cottage.

This is an important point if you're going to erect a fence. They are absolute cheeky fuckers. I'd use my imagination and have some fun with them before the fence goes up.

mistlethrush · 14/09/2021 16:12

I would be very much inclined to need a new shed and find that the best location for it would be directly in front of their gate - making sure that the requirements of permitted development are complied with, but nicely blocking the view. Of course you might want a tree or two next to the shed so that it doesn't look as conspicuous from your cottage - silver birches grow quite quickly but aren't eyesores like leylandii...

Horst · 15/09/2021 18:23

Any chance of getting some pigs… I mean if you keep live stock anyway

Dreamstosell · 18/09/2021 12:17

Could you put up a fence on your boundary - on the side of the path beside the neighbours garden but still on your land? With a gate in it to allow their access to the path

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