Husband doesn't like my cooking any more

[Boysgrownbutstillathome]

I love cooking and when I have time I like to try out new healthy recipes. I also sometimes cook convenience food like spaghetti and meatballs with pasta sauce from a jar or fish and oven chips with frozen peas or baked beans. For years my husband and sons have tucked into whatever I've given them once my youngest got over his childhood fussy phase.Now my husband has started saying that he doesn't like some of the meals I've cooked for years - aibu to want to still cook them for the rest of us and leave him to fend for himself?

Yanbu

Leave him to it!

Does he cook?

He can cook them surely? My husband told me about 18 months ago that he was bored with the meals I planned and shopped for.

I haven't planned or shopped since, although I will cook meals that he has planned and shopped for. He's pretty good at it now :-)

Absolutely. Let him sort himself out.

Tell him to get off his butt and cook his own tea, then.

I’m sorry OP but I’m just really struggling to square these statements
“I love to cook”
“I like to try out new healthy recipes”
“I also sometimes cook convenience food like spaghetti and meatballs with pasta sauce from a jar or fish and oven chips with frozen peas or baked beans”

I know we all have days when we just want to get food on the table but if you’re a keen cook how can you bear to dish up oven chips and baked beans. That’s just unhealthy, unmitigated stodgy.

Which meals in particular does your DH no longer want?

@Daisydoesnt

I’m sorry OP but I’m just really struggling to square these statements “I love to cook” “I like to try out new healthy recipes” “I also sometimes cook convenience food like spaghetti and meatballs with pasta sauce from a jar or fish and oven chips with frozen peas or baked beans”

I know we all have days when we just want to get food on the table but if you’re a keen cook how can you bear to dish up oven chips and baked beans. That’s just unhealthy, unmitigated stodgy.

Which meals in particular does your DH no longer want?

Nothing wrong with some times using convenience foods!

Show him where the cooker is and leave him to it !

When me and my DB lived together ( mid teens ) I did all the cooking and though he never complained he never praised it either and it always took him at least 10 minutes to get his arse to the table even tough we ate at about the same times most days .

So I got him to start cooking , starting with really basic stuff like egg and chips he got the hang of most things quickly and learnt how to do more complicated stuff like currys, chilli , stews etc .
He quickly realised how much effort went into cooking and was much more helpful and grateful.
I know one his proudest moments was when he surprised our DM/D by cooking a full sunday dinner for the four of us.

In short get your DH cooking he may surprise himself and you

@Daisydoesnt

I’m sorry OP but I’m just really struggling to square these statements “I love to cook” “I like to try out new healthy recipes” “I also sometimes cook convenience food like spaghetti and meatballs with pasta sauce from a jar or fish and oven chips with frozen peas or baked beans”

I know we all have days when we just want to get food on the table but if you’re a keen cook how can you bear to dish up oven chips and baked beans. That’s just unhealthy, unmitigated stodgy.

Which meals in particular does your DH no longer want?

So you're only allowed to say you like to do something if you do it all the time? 🤣🤣

I bloody love a good walk. Guess what? Sometimes I use my car.

@Daisydoesnt

I’m sorry OP but I’m just really struggling to square these statements “I love to cook” “I like to try out new healthy recipes” “I also sometimes cook convenience food like spaghetti and meatballs with pasta sauce from a jar or fish and oven chips with frozen peas or baked beans”

I know we all have days when we just want to get food on the table but if you’re a keen cook how can you bear to dish up oven chips and baked beans. That’s just unhealthy, unmitigated stodgy.

Which meals in particular does your DH no longer want?

'Unhealthy, unmitigated stodgy' food can be bloody delicious.

Oven chips beans and veggie sausages is a treat round here, we are very worthy veggie cooks, make our own bread the full works - but sometimes an oven chip is exactly what is desired.

Life is boring if it is the same every day.

@Daisydoesnt

I’m sorry OP but I’m just really struggling to square these statements “I love to cook” “I like to try out new healthy recipes” “I also sometimes cook convenience food like spaghetti and meatballs with pasta sauce from a jar or fish and oven chips with frozen peas or baked beans”

I know we all have days when we just want to get food on the table but if you’re a keen cook how can you bear to dish up oven chips and baked beans. That’s just unhealthy, unmitigated stodgy.

Which meals in particular does your DH no longer want?

How can you BEAR to serve your family oven chips and baked beans? Does it not just tear at one's soul!

Frozen fish, oven chips, frozen peas???
Meatballs with sauces made from jars??
I'm not surprised your poor husband has revealed his displeasure at being served these effortless offerings. How embarrassing to learn that he doesn't heartily enjoy all of your cooking.
On a more serious note, my advice would be to take absolutely no notice. You can't please everyone all of the time, especially when it comes to feeding a family.

Send help stat. I’ve eaten jumbo chicken dippers and chips with ketchup.

(Licks lips)

@Daisydoesnt

I’m sorry OP but I’m just really struggling to square these statements “I love to cook” “I like to try out new healthy recipes” “I also sometimes cook convenience food like spaghetti and meatballs with pasta sauce from a jar or fish and oven chips with frozen peas or baked beans”

I know we all have days when we just want to get food on the table but if you’re a keen cook how can you bear to dish up oven chips and baked beans. That’s just unhealthy, unmitigated stodgy.

Which meals in particular does your DH no longer want?

I bloody love MN, especially when posters are unintentionally hilarious

@Boysgrownbutstillathome

I'd tell him to shit off.

He can cook for himself surely?

I'm pretty healthy and try to eat well, but I do exactly the same. There's nothing wrong with a bit of balance and convenience when you're busy.

My husband would probably say the same but well if he won't do any cooking he gets what he's given!

My meals are a bit shit often a bung in the oven job, fish n chips, chicken Kiev etc. Most meals I make from scratch are nothing fancy, pasta with sauce, spag bol, chicken curry, fajitas and the likes. I wish I cld cook better but well he makes no bloody effort. After working all day it's sometimes just whatever is quick and takes little effort.

What's the problem? Let him cook himself.

@Daisydoesnt

I’m sorry OP but I’m just really struggling to square these statements “I love to cook” “I like to try out new healthy recipes” “I also sometimes cook convenience food like spaghetti and meatballs with pasta sauce from a jar or fish and oven chips with frozen peas or baked beans”

I know we all have days when we just want to get food on the table but if you’re a keen cook how can you bear to dish up oven chips and baked beans. That’s just unhealthy, unmitigated stodgy.

Which meals in particular does your DH no longer want?

Just because she likes to cook healthily when she can, doesn't mean that sometimes it has to be quick, convenient, and less healthy. Perhaps she likes oven chips and beans sometimes! Nothing wrong with that.

OP, just crack on with what you are doing - if your DH doesn't want to eat it, he can do his own thing. Or ask him to plan, shop and cook for meals and cook for the whole family. He'll either rise to the challenge, or shut up and be grateful that you are cooking for him.

Suggest he orders the whole family a takeaway?

@Boysgrownbutstillathome

I love cooking and when I have time I like to try out new healthy recipes. I also sometimes cook convenience food like spaghetti and meatballs with pasta sauce from a jar or fish and oven chips with frozen peas or baked beans. For years my husband and sons have tucked into whatever I've given them once my youngest got over his childhood fussy phase.Now my husband has started saying that he doesn't like some of the meals I've cooked for years - aibu to want to still cook them for the rest of us and leave him to fend for himself?

Cook for you and the kids and tell him to crack on with feeding himself.. or alternatively he can cook for the whole family with the meal he really wants.

@NothingIsWrong

He can cook them surely? My husband told me about 18 months ago that he was bored with the meals I planned and shopped for.

I haven't planned or shopped since, although I will cook meals that he has planned and shopped for. He's pretty good at it now :-)

He did some chef's training during his younger years and likes to occasionally show off, using every pot, pan and utensil in the kitchen but won't do the everyday family cooking unless I am ill or away in which case he will cook something with chips.

I’d be wondering what has prompted this change in taste…

What is his problem with your food? That he's just tired of the same things? Over to him. If it's more about wanting to change for health reasons - erm, over to him.