Husband doesn't like my cooking any more

[Boysgrownbutstillathome]

I love cooking and when I have time I like to try out new healthy recipes. I also sometimes cook convenience food like spaghetti and meatballs with pasta sauce from a jar or fish and oven chips with frozen peas or baked beans. For years my husband and sons have tucked into whatever I've given them once my youngest got over his childhood fussy phase.Now my husband has started saying that he doesn't like some of the meals I've cooked for years - aibu to want to still cook them for the rest of us and leave him to fend for himself?

Haha glad I’m single reading these comments

Friday's from now on is a takeaway. You're too busy this day to cook

If he's criticising your cooking in a dickish way and is refusing to do his share of the cooking, I'm afraid I'd go a bit nuclear and stop cooking for him altogether for a bit until he pulls his finger out, shows some appreciation and does his bit. So rather than letting him pick from the menu, it would be steaks for me and DC and leave him to it. I can't stand people who won't do things themselves but are happy to criticise the efforts of others.

We had Birdseye Chicken fingers tonight….not even the worst of it. They were served with oven chips and baked beans

Haha can’t beat abit of captain colonel

@SolitaryTree

We had Birdseye Chicken fingers tonight….not even the worst of it. They were served with oven chips and baked beans

I had a greggs sausage roll. Reheated. With HP sauce What can I say, it was a long day at work! For balance I had a lunch of feta salad with pesto quinoa...

Sounds like cooking needs to be done by someone with a Y chromosome so it gets done right in your house. And it ain't cooking if it doesn't come with cleanup.

Thanks for all your comments and suggestions, they have been very helpful. I will try to encourage DH to cook more often but in the meantime will carry on as usual and if he doesn't like it he can get himself something else.

@Boysgrownbutstillathome

Thanks for all your comments and suggestions, they have been very helpful. I will try to encourage DH to cook more often but in the meantime will carry on as usual and if he doesn't like it he can get himself something else.

So basically you’ll do fuck all about his criticism.

@Daisydoesnt

I’m sorry OP but I’m just really struggling to square these statements “I love to cook” “I like to try out new healthy recipes” “I also sometimes cook convenience food like spaghetti and meatballs with pasta sauce from a jar or fish and oven chips with frozen peas or baked beans”

I know we all have days when we just want to get food on the table but if you’re a keen cook how can you bear to dish up oven chips and baked beans. That’s just unhealthy, unmitigated stodgy.

Which meals in particular does your DH no longer want?

Bollocks. Nothing wrong with baked beans sometimes. And oven chips.

We all need a quick and convenient meal occasionally.

@Daisydoesnt

I’m sorry OP but I’m just really struggling to square these statements “I love to cook” “I like to try out new healthy recipes” “I also sometimes cook convenience food like spaghetti and meatballs with pasta sauce from a jar or fish and oven chips with frozen peas or baked beans”

I know we all have days when we just want to get food on the table but if you’re a keen cook how can you bear to dish up oven chips and baked beans. That’s just unhealthy, unmitigated stodgy.

Which meals in particular does your DH no longer want?

'What's for tea tonight, wife?'

'Tonight dear, we have two delicious options, these are : Take it, or, Leave it'.

Alternatively sits down, grizzles, without a word, pick his plate up, empty the contents in the bin, sit down, and continue eating, ignoring his reaction.

Both also work on recalcitrant children, and sullen teenagers.

To avoid performance cooking we have a rule in our house that the person cooking the meal tidies up after themselves. At first sight this appeared unfair to the performance chefs but I swiftly pointed out that as I do the vast majority of the cooking it is me who is most adversely affected by the rule because surprisingly enough no one thinks to wash up after me. They wisely, but somewhat begrudgingly agreed to washing up their own pans.

Now I feel like beans and chips!

@Boysgrownbutstillathome

I love cooking and when I have time I like to try out new healthy recipes. I also sometimes cook convenience food like spaghetti and meatballs with pasta sauce from a jar or fish and oven chips with frozen peas or baked beans. For years my husband and sons have tucked into whatever I've given them once my youngest got over his childhood fussy phase.Now my husband has started saying that he doesn't like some of the meals I've cooked for years - aibu to want to still cook them for the rest of us and leave him to fend for himself?

Excellent. He will be taking over the cooking then.

I know it's besides the point really, but I've found it life changing to do one pot meals in the oven.

Never more than ten minutes prep, and it always looks fancy coming out, as well as delicious.

Less work even than convenience foods as you don't have to turn it over, combine everything etc. Veg, meat and a tin of chopped tomatoes mixed with some olive oil and flavours. 45m at 200 degrees. Comes out perfectly every time.

I’m wondering if there’ll be a surge in oven chip sales today.
And whether @Daisydoesnt will be a good sport and come back to the thread!

@thecatsthecats

I know it's besides the point really, but I've found it life changing to do one pot meals in the oven.

Never more than ten minutes prep, and it always looks fancy coming out, as well as delicious.

Less work even than convenience foods as you don't have to turn it over, combine everything etc. Veg, meat and a tin of chopped tomatoes mixed with some olive oil and flavours. 45m at 200 degrees. Comes out perfectly every time.

@thecatsthecats Love the thought of this. Any more one pot ideas?

I can’t help but think of Shirley valentine reading this post!! One of my favourite meals when I did slimming world was tinned ratatouille stirred through spaghetti and a small amount of low fat cheddar on top.

If your husband doesn’t like some of the meals you have cooked for years, how about looking at recipes and swapping into your routine some new experiments? Interesting for all of you? New favourites to be discovered!

Your husbands ‘won’t cook’ is a bit , he could wise up a bit there. Maybe give him a simple one pot recipe book for Christmas…

Oven chips and beans are a big thumbs up in our house. Stir fry is an easy quick healthy meal, we like Linda McCartney’s mock duck with it.

if you’re a keen cook how can you bear to dish up oven chips and baked beans. That’s just unhealthy, unmitigated stodgy. Add sausage and you have a fairly staple meal for many! Or an egg.

For us that would be a weekly meal, Mondays, with cold cuts from Sunday roast - known with some rose tinted spectacles as 'a council house tea' as it is pretty much what we both grew up on!

And we both love cooking, baking etc. Don't be such a snob!

@Boysgrownbutstillathome tell him that the next decade or so all cooking is down to him. See what he is capable of!

I have suggested he cook more for us but he won't. Sorry, I missed that bit.

Then just stop cooking for him until he starts a conversation about it and offers to cook regularly and often.

Try the Green-Roasting-Tin for one pot oven baked.
Beware, they may be veggie but they're not all low fat. Have put on tons of weight since adding it to my repotoire. (Or it could be the copious amounts of oven chips and beans, who knows!?)

There's a whole series of Roasting Tin books, think she's just released one for desserts. But would highly recommend them for labour unintensive but v tasty meals. Put stuff in tray, bung in oven and leave for 45 mins.

@Daisydoesnt

I’m sorry OP but I’m just really struggling to square these statements “I love to cook” “I like to try out new healthy recipes” “I also sometimes cook convenience food like spaghetti and meatballs with pasta sauce from a jar or fish and oven chips with frozen peas or baked beans”

I know we all have days when we just want to get food on the table but if you’re a keen cook how can you bear to dish up oven chips and baked beans. That’s just unhealthy, unmitigated stodgy.

Which meals in particular does your DH no longer want?

You'll have an attack of the vapours if you ever find out what top-end chefs eat after service.

On a more serious note do you get off on being so condescending?

@SpamThief

There's a whole series of Roasting Tin books, think she's just released one for desserts. But would highly recommend them for labour unintensive but v tasty meals. Put stuff in tray, bung in oven and leave for 45 mins.

I love that book as it's my prefect way to cook - bung it in the oven and virtually no washing up.