To ask what really posh folk are like?

hahahayoumustbejoking · 2021-09-06T15:55:22+00:00

Someone on MN recently said that posh people were very friendly and polite but actually wouldn't tend to get close to people outside their close circle and were quite guarded. Just wondering if anyone has any other insights or stories of the posh, good or bad.

the80sweregreat · 06/09/2021 16:58

I've only ever met one ' posh ' person briefly ( had money , private boarding school etc) and she was lovely! Very down to earth and funny

(Most people I know are not posh at all!!)

shouldistop · 06/09/2021 17:00

I'm not sure anyone can generalise with a whole group of people.

ssd · 06/09/2021 17:00

I dont actually know a posh person

malmi · 06/09/2021 17:02

Does anyone know what the working class are like? I heard that they are hard-working and honest but others say they are ill mannered and eat junk food. Which is it please.

Hekatestorch · 06/09/2021 17:02

My MD is very posh. Grew up in a Manor type house, boarding school etc

He is nice. Very much into sharing the wealth as he recognises his own privilege and that of his kids. Gave me a 20% pay rise, just so private school was an option for ds. Even if I didn't send him.

I knew a few others growing up. But they were all just like normal people. Some dickheads. Some great. Some lovely, some cold.

Same as most hours would be if you split them by anything. Age, earnings, house type.

Which ever way you categorise people, you will find some are nice and some are not.

Noshowwithoutpunch · 06/09/2021 17:03

Superficially friendly but guarded.
If you're not one of them you'll never be fully accepted.

Noshowwithoutpunch · 06/09/2021 17:04

@Noshowwithoutpunch

Superficially friendly but guarded. If you're not one of them you'll never be fully accepted.

It's feels a bit like my friendship with a Jehovah's Witness pal.

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hahahayoumustbejoking · 06/09/2021 17:05

Another observation (very sweeping admittedly) is that being sociable, a good host, and eating anything put in front of you is a golden rule. No fads allowed.

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hahahayoumustbejoking · 06/09/2021 17:05

@malmi

Does anyone know what the working class are like? I heard that they are hard-working and honest but others say they are ill mannered and eat junk food. Which is it please.

I'm working class and very much the former. Maybe I should do a AMA 🤔

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ChequerBoard · 06/09/2021 17:06

They are just people.

Some are lovely, some are utter bastards just like with any group of people. Impossible to generalise.

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hahahayoumustbejoking · 06/09/2021 17:07

@ChequerBoard

They are just people.

Some are lovely, some are utter bastards just like with any group of people. Impossible to generalise.

You're probably right. Just with all those advantages I wonder if certain expectations come with it.

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Letsallscreamatthesistene · 06/09/2021 17:08

I meet a lot of 'posh' people in my line of work. Some are bellends. Some are lovely. One of my longest standing friendships is with someone with a title and very wealthy. Im not 'posh' at all.

If someone wrote a post asking if all working class people are sweary and crass but honest hard workers there would be outcry. Please reconsider your generalisation.

ComtesseDeSpair · 06/09/2021 17:08

I don’t think “posh” people are very different to anyone else, in that they probably gravitate towards and are more likely to find friendship and understanding with people who are like them and with whom they share similar lifestyles and characteristics.

I know a handful of people from very privileged titled families and they’re really just people. Some I like a lot, some I like less. I’m good friends with a couple of them who I have a lot in common with. I know they sometimes worry whether new people are genuinely trying to cultivate a friendship or just trying to grab onto the coat tails of connection, status and money for their own benefit: perhaps that results on them coming across as aloof when you first meet them.

Letsallscreamatthesistene · 06/09/2021 17:11

I know they sometimes worry whether new people are genuinely trying to cultivate a friendship or just trying to grab onto the coat tails of connection, status and money for their own benefit

Totally agree and would add that some come across as guarded or aloof because they are well aware of the preconceptions of 'posh' people, so dont know if people will be friendly or not.

myotherusernameistaken · 06/09/2021 17:14

As @ChequerBoard says, they are just people.

What do you mean by "really posh" anyway?

MereDintofPandiculation · 06/09/2021 17:17

I knew a Countess. She was a cow. Never a good idea to generalise.

eating anything put in front of you is a golden rule I went to a school with aspirations. After a dinner so vile that over half of it was returned uneaten to the kitchens, we were treated to a lecture in assembly form the headmistress end with the phrase "how would you cope if you were dining out and your hostess served something you didn't like". It was then I realised that the purpose of school meals was to train you to eat disgusting food without a murmur.

IntermittentParps · 06/09/2021 17:19

Does anyone know what the working class are like? I heard that they are hard-working and honest but others say they are ill mannered and eat junk food. Which is it please.

I'm working class and very much the former.
I'm working class too and TBH I tick all of those boxes.

Letsallscreamatthesistene · 06/09/2021 17:19

eating anything put in front of you is a golden rule I went to a school with aspirations. After a dinner so vile that over half of it was returned uneaten to the kitchens, we were treated to a lecture in assembly form the headmistress end with the phrase "how would you cope if you were dining out and your hostess served something you didn't like". It was then I realised that the purpose of school meals was to train you to eat disgusting food without a murmur.

What?!

HollowTalk · 06/09/2021 17:22

@MereDintofPandiculation

I knew a Countess. She was a cow. Never a good idea to generalise.

eating anything put in front of you is a golden rule I went to a school with aspirations. After a dinner so vile that over half of it was returned uneaten to the kitchens, we were treated to a lecture in assembly form the headmistress end with the phrase "how would you cope if you were dining out and your hostess served something you didn't like". It was then I realised that the purpose of school meals was to train you to eat disgusting food without a murmur.

Well, that isn't the purpose, obviously

bamboocat · 06/09/2021 17:23

The majority of them are awfully naice and terribly polite, but completely out of touch with the realities of life for us plebs.

But, as in any walk of life, you will find that some of them are arses.

CBUK2K2 · 06/09/2021 17:24

People are people and posh is a matter of perspective. To some people you will appear posh, to others you will appear not.

Most of the people I've met with serious money you wouldn't really know. It's the in between people that I tend to find are more often pretentious.

5128gap · 06/09/2021 17:25

@Letsallscreamatthesistene

I meet a lot of 'posh' people in my line of work. Some are bellends. Some are lovely. One of my longest standing friendships is with someone with a title and very wealthy. Im not 'posh' at all.

If someone wrote a post asking if all working class people are sweary and crass but honest hard workers there would be outcry. Please reconsider your generalisation.

There's a whole world of difference between a tongue in cheek question about being posh (which after all isn't even a thing; being a subjective term applied to anyone from aristocracy to people a bit 'well to do' depending on who is speaking ) than making offensive generalisations about the working class. I'm sure anyone 'posh' on here won't feel too upset, as I doubt many self define as posh anyway.

MistressoftheDarkSide · 06/09/2021 17:26

Don't know many but one titled couple I sort of know are very chilled and hold small festivals in their grounds which they participate in and enjoy..... in fact didn't even realise they were titled until after we got handfasted there. Great experience and quite surreal, I think they fall into the English eccentric mood quite well.

As a sixth former I went on an open day to Oxford as it was thought I might finally pass my maths O level and stand a chance on my English skills - ha bloody ha - anyway, we had tea with an undergraduate in their study and when I said that Lapsang Souchong (?) tasted like Dettol to my uneducated palate he asked me if I'd like to leave via the second floor window....as a sensitive 17 year old in the 80s this confirmed my lowly status and probably subconsciously put me off applying notwithstanding my academic failings.

So it really does depend on the individuals I guess.....

dementedma · 06/09/2021 17:26

Surely smart, rather than posh?

Sunshinealligator · 06/09/2021 17:27

The really posh that I know are all older generations.. all a similar age bracket to my parents+ several years.
I genuinely feel like some of them are the most positive people I've ever met. They have a very calm sense of ease, and absolutely no concern that something cannot be achieved. I call it the "go get it"