To ask what really posh folk are like?

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Someone on MN recently said that posh people were very friendly and polite but actually wouldn't tend to get close to people outside their close circle and were quite guarded.

Just wondering if anyone has any other insights or stories of the posh, good or bad.

Well I am very posh and just lovely.

I always say posh, because we're not smart. As one of the smartest people I knew once said to me, po faced, we're just UMC! At the end of the day, if your face fits, and you're nice, you'll do fine. But get above yourself, and it will be made clear.

@malmi

Does anyone know what the working class are like? I heard that they are hard-working and honest but others say they are ill mannered and eat junk food. Which is it please.

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I'm old; I had to Google Robert California, and still none the wiser!

@THisbackwithavengeance

According to MN folklore, posh people are generally salt of the earth types who drive ancient Volvos and buy rounds in the pub for the village folk.

But as for anyone who has had the temerity to do well in business and make their own money, they are beyond the pale being just crass and "nouveau".

So true

The nouveaus are portrayed as rude and abrasive whereas the aristos are genial delights in their old Barbour and pearls.

But only because the aristos know that the next 10 generations are likely to have to get on together, equally tied across the family acres. New money just trades property.

I worked for ten years for a vey posh person. His Kids were at Eton, mates with Prince Charles, fox hunting everybloody week, groom for the horses, housekeeper etc. Mistresses- at the last count two. On his second wife. Resented paying for anything. He was terribly polite but didn’t understand real life. One of his friends was put in prison for failing to stop when he killed someone in a car accident -he seemed to struggle with the law on that. Became a sir just as I was leaving his employ and made millions selling the company I worked for as one of his professional advisers.

In general, all the very old school posh, not new money etc, people I’ve met were very down to earth, very careful with money (not flashy at all) and very messy (everything everywhere in their homes) and they didn’t give a stuff 🤷🏻‍♀️🤣

Well what does “posh” mean? Do you mean wealthy? Or well spoken? Or well educated?

Regardless of of posh means to you OP, why would you think they were any different to anyone else you think isn’t posh?

I don’t know any posh people personally but if the majority of our Government are anything to go by they’re all self serving, narcissistic, callous, lying, thieving bastards

As Louis Armstrong said about swing, if you have to ask, you'll never get it.

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Yes, I've come to realise he probably wasn't terribly well-bred after all 😁

Ironically I have been accused of being "posh" myself - my Nana went into service at 14 and absorbed every aspirational scrap of etiquette she could, passing it all down religiously. And she was a voracious reader. In my teens I read alot of Dornford Yates, the "Berry" books and other stuff that my peers sneered at. I used to rather aspire I suppose.,... and I have just binge watched Downton Abbey and rather enjoyed it though it's obviously quite the work of fiction.....

I think for me the whole concept is tied up with bygone eras tbh.

On my Dad's side I do have a long deceased Great Aunt in Burke's peerage though. A 30s "scandal" as she was very much a rural working class girl who met her beau working as a model in a fashion house.... funnily enough we're not close to her descendants at all .... her son became quite a famous sci-fi novelist though.....[/quote]
If that’s the author I’m thinking of they all were farmers, Apart from the author.

Some are nice and some are ridiculously up their own arses. I know a "Lady" who owns a stately home which is open to the public and she insists staff address her by her title, I think she would lap it up if they also curtsied. I've posted on here before that her staff are paid less than minimum wage and I got roasted as apparantly that simply is not possible.
I know people who boarded at Ampleforth who are addicts now and I've been in the company of teenage Eton boys quite a lot and they are always lovely and so polite.

You know I have found the really wealthy very pleasant, it's the middle class that are the unpleasant customers

That's my experience anyway

We're actually very nice thank you, although we do try to avoid mixing with YOU LOT! 😱

I feel there is much inverted snobbery and it's hard to get past that.

I think what someone said said about feeling secure counts for so much.
People who feel totally secure in many ways don't even think about so many things the rest of us worry about.

It's usually the try hards who are harder work... The ones in the middle.

Seoul was she raised a lady thought or brought her title? Married into it?

@SeoultoSeoul I can easily believe it. Salaried but work way, way above their contracted hours. I’ve worked months without a day off in this sort of set up, the head gardener worked 12 hour days everyday - it was his ‘choice’ apparently.

I went to Oxford from a bog standard working/ lower middle class background and met a lot of posh people. The majority were perfectly nice, but they just had no concept of what I thought of as normal life-struggling to pay rent or make money last the whole month. They didn't treat me as inferior in any way, but I did sometimes feel as though I was some kind of animal they were seeing on a safari.

A small minority were arrogant arseholes- Bullingdon club types - but they treated everyone outside their very narrow circle like shit really.

I know one properly 'posh' person - very old, wealthy family, friends in very high places.

We couldn't have had more opposite upbringings and if I'm being honest about my inverse snobbery, I would have expected not to like him because of some of the things his family are/are known for/have invested in. But... he's very nice! Not guarded at all, very welcoming...and he's very sweary, haha. Impeccable manners when it counts, always get thank you cards after events.

He's maybe a bit naive about life down in the lower orders but he's a really lovely guy who, apart from having played obscure sports at school and knowing the Latin phrase for everything, seems perfectly normal haha!

I knew a few extremely posh people, a couple of old Etonians and one who attended Downe House, Kate Middletown's alma mata prior to moving to Marlborough.

The old Etonians were lovely lovely men, so understatedly confident, impeccable manners and treated everyone absolutely the same. One of them is now one of Prince George’s godfathers, so they are literally part of the aristocracy.

The lady who went to Downe House was always looking down her nose at the rest of us. She would offer us raffle tickets for whatever her latest "charidee event" was, but not actually invite us to the event, lest she be seen with us. She was really quite fake.

As mentioned by previous PP, the lovely ones were the ones who were by the far the richest, and had large family estates (I found out from someone else, not from them). They never talked about money at all.

@XingMing

I'm old; I had to Google Robert California, and still none the wiser!

It wasn't an insult by the way. :o

He just has a certain way of phrasing his sentences and your posts reminded me of him.

I think I have been watching The Office a little too much recently.

I work with titled/old money types every day and after seven years in the job they make me feel sick. The accumulated wealth and unearned privilege is eye watering and does this country a massive massive disservice in so many ways. Pmsl at all the cap doffing on this thread, 'oh the really posh ones are ever so naice not like these ghastly middle class upstarts', absolute load of bollocks. When it comes down to it most of them simply do not give a shit about anything or anyone outside their milleu.

One really shouldn’t be asking with such impertinence.

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