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Aibu to be really cross about this breakfast club situation?

229 replies

Henni19 · 04/09/2021 21:29

My 3yo started at the school nursery on Thursday, his 5yo brother went into y1.
On Friday I put them into breakfast club as I had work.
School are still operating bubbles and all other restrictions (i am annoyed about this, although from a thread I posted the other day many disagreed with me).
Anyway it turns out my 3yo is the only child in the nursery bubble in breakfast club so they made him sit at a table on his own for the whole hour, while his brother sat the other side of the hall with his friends.
My eldest saw him crying asking for me and asked if he could sit with him but was told he wasn't allowed.
Only 2 staff work there and they both greeted us so no confusion over them being brothers, sounds like just taking the bubble rule to the extreme.
I cant work out if I am more devastated or bloody fuming about it.
Aibu to send an email to school asking them to use some common sense?
2 days in and 3yo already doesn't want to go back ☹

OP posts:
shouldistop · 04/09/2021 21:32

Ridiculous. I'd be angry too

zombielady · 04/09/2021 21:34

Bugger, was expecting a thread about teenage detention films.

Samcro · 04/09/2021 21:37

No advice, but thats so awful

nimbuscloud · 04/09/2021 21:39

Your poor kids
That’s shit

Overthebow · 04/09/2021 21:39

That’s awful. They need to sort this out it’s not fair for a 3yo to be sat by himself with no other kids.

KingdomScrolls · 04/09/2021 21:39

It's ridiculous, my husband and I work in the same building and have been put in different bubbles, it's ridiculous and a transmission risk, but to do that to a three year old is fucking awful

Brenna24 · 04/09/2021 21:39

Can't he just be added to his brother's bubble? That's barbaric. Well done to his brother for trying to look after him though.

drpaddington · 04/09/2021 21:40

That's ridiculous. No common sense whatsoever!

Theworldishard · 04/09/2021 21:40

I used to work in bf club and I do an after school club and unfortunately we also would have done the same

Theworldishard · 04/09/2021 21:40

And no parents have complained

Fubitch · 04/09/2021 21:41

I had this with one of my two last year. I wrote to the head and the situation was immediately rectified. It was like a punishment for him sat there alone watching other children play together. They have ipads but didn't even give him one of those.

GlitterBiscuits · 04/09/2021 21:41

Is the breakfast club run by robots?

Bloody heartless and I would be extremely angry.

Littlefish · 04/09/2021 21:41

The trouble is that the brothers are in different bubbles during the day, so the breakfast club will not be allowed to mix bubbles.

That said, at the very least, one of the adults should have been sitting with him so he wasn't on his own.

MayorGoodwaysChicken · 04/09/2021 21:43

@Theworldishard

I used to work in bf club and I do an after school club and unfortunately we also would have done the same
And you feel ok with yourselves about that...?!

Doing this to an upset 3 year old who has literally arrived from home with his big brother, making him sit there and watch his brother and not let him go near him, while he cries for his mum. Child abuse, nothing less. What the fuck are we doing to our children? Sad

Theworldishard · 04/09/2021 21:43

@Fubitch

I had this with one of my two last year. I wrote to the head and the situation was immediately rectified. It was like a punishment for him sat there alone watching other children play together. They have ipads but didn't even give him one of those.
Well that is ridiculous imo. What happened if every other child wanted to bubble with their sibling? The child would not have been left alone. Staff would likely have paid him more attention and he would be able to see his brother and still play with the toys etc. We have had this in our school many many times and no one has complained and the kids are generally ok
Fubitch · 04/09/2021 21:43

There should be no bubbles now.

Theworldishard · 04/09/2021 21:44

@MayorGoodwaysChicken no but it's a rule we have to stick to.

If you think that's the worst thing that happens to a child at school, think again. Lunchtimes are the worst. Children lost in a crowd and only two staff watching about 100, children

Fubitch · 04/09/2021 21:45

And it would be more common sense for siblings to form their own bubble rather than leave a child alone. Mine could have been sat alone for 3 hours. Come on!!!

oknowimscared · 04/09/2021 21:45

That is horrible - for both your DCs. Definitely email. School are being borderline cruel to your 3yo. But 👏👏👏 to brother for wanting to help

Theworldishard · 04/09/2021 21:46

@Fubitch

And it would be more common sense for siblings to form their own bubble rather than leave a child alone. Mine could have been sat alone for 3 hours. Come on!!!
It's not as simple as that. In our school there are set tables for each class. You can't just let siblings cross bubbles, it defeats the purpose. Saying that, our school has now dropped bubbles, but we think it worked a lot better in many ways.
TheKeatingFive · 04/09/2021 21:46

Jesus that’s awful. All proportion has been lost here.

tiredanddangerous · 04/09/2021 21:47

That's dreadful and I'd be livid. Schools aren't even supposed to have children in bubbles any more.

Fubitch · 04/09/2021 21:47

Anyway, luckily I feel confident enough to contact the school and also luckily the school realised it was unacceptable.

Theworldishard · 04/09/2021 21:47

Also lots of kids cry for their mum, it's not child abuse.

Kolo · 04/09/2021 21:47

That's awful. I run a wraparound setting and we had some bubbles that crossed year groups, specifically because it's just not on to leave 1 or 2 kids in a bubble alone. It was within guidance to do this. We tried to follow the school class bubbles as much as possible, but there was flexibility for just this situation. Also, we allowed siblings to play together, because they live together!

We're no longer required to have bubbles, so we don't have them.

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