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Aibu to be really cross about this breakfast club situation?

229 replies

Henni19 · 04/09/2021 21:29

My 3yo started at the school nursery on Thursday, his 5yo brother went into y1.
On Friday I put them into breakfast club as I had work.
School are still operating bubbles and all other restrictions (i am annoyed about this, although from a thread I posted the other day many disagreed with me).
Anyway it turns out my 3yo is the only child in the nursery bubble in breakfast club so they made him sit at a table on his own for the whole hour, while his brother sat the other side of the hall with his friends.
My eldest saw him crying asking for me and asked if he could sit with him but was told he wasn't allowed.
Only 2 staff work there and they both greeted us so no confusion over them being brothers, sounds like just taking the bubble rule to the extreme.
I cant work out if I am more devastated or bloody fuming about it.
Aibu to send an email to school asking them to use some common sense?
2 days in and 3yo already doesn't want to go back ☹

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Theworldishard · 04/09/2021 21:48

@Fubitch

Anyway, luckily I feel confident enough to contact the school and also luckily the school realised it was unacceptable.
Tbh they didn't want the hassle from a moaning parent. We get it, albeit rarely.
shouldistop · 04/09/2021 21:48

It's like "computer says no" - totally thick. Where is the extra Covid risk of allowing brothers to play together.

Fubitch · 04/09/2021 21:49

Vile response and says everything about you.

What a cunt I am for advocating for my child.

Theworldishard · 04/09/2021 21:49

@shouldistop

It's like "computer says no" - totally thick. Where is the extra Covid risk of allowing brothers to play together.
Because then the younger brother is then mixing with other people's children. It's not just about these two brothers.
TheMadCat · 04/09/2021 21:49

Our primary school has dropped bubbles but then they had them they would let siblings cross bubbles if needed, so my neighbours younger DD fell over and wanted a hug so they went and got her big sister for a hug, which seemed entirely sensible to me.

Fubitch · 04/09/2021 21:49

That was to Theworldishard

Comedycook · 04/09/2021 21:50

If your three year old was totally alone at the table and in the bubble, then I don't see why your eldest child couldn't have just sat with him. They wouldn't have even been mixing bubbles as it would just be them two and they live together anyway

Kakser · 04/09/2021 21:50

[quote Theworldishard]@MayorGoodwaysChicken no but it's a rule we have to stick to.

If you think that's the worst thing that happens to a child at school, think again. Lunchtimes are the worst. Children lost in a crowd and only two staff watching about 100, children[/quote]
What an unpleasant school you must work in. I teach in primary and that's not my experience at all. The main thing that stands out to me here is that we're talking about a 3 year old. That's completely different to even a reception child. Completely ridiculous and unfair situation.

Lockdownpudding · 04/09/2021 21:51

@Comedycook

If your three year old was totally alone at the table and in the bubble, then I don't see why your eldest child couldn't have just sat with him. They wouldn't have even been mixing bubbles as it would just be them two and they live together anyway
Quite!
TheKeatingFive · 04/09/2021 21:52

What an unpleasant school you must work in.

That’s what I was thinking

TheChild · 04/09/2021 21:52

Could they not have taken the older brother out of his bubble to join the 3 year old so he had someone to play with?

My 3 year old would get very upset if she were in that situation.

Theworldishard · 04/09/2021 21:53

Actually we are highly rated. Schools are not as they appear on the surface sometimes. Sorry to burst that bubble.

621CustardCream438 · 04/09/2021 21:53

“The trouble is that the brothers are in different bubbles during the day, so the breakfast club will not be allowed to mix bubbles.”

Under bubble rules (and I’d be complaining about that still even existing too) I can understand why the 3 year old can’t join his older brother’s table of friends. I think the additional risk is infinitesimal but I get that it can be argued there is some sort of increase and it counts as “mixing bubbles”. But why on earth anybody thinks the older one joining his younger brother and becoming a table of just two children who live together is somehow mixing bubbles or increasing risk at all I cannot fathom. They are already mixing the bubble the other 18 hours a day plus weekends! Completely and utterly absurd. Very obviously the club should at minimum allow your two children to be on their own table of two. Whether your older one would be ok with that is perhaps another story.

Theworldishard · 04/09/2021 21:53

@Fubitch

Vile response and says everything about you.

What a cunt I am for advocating for my child.

Your username and use of the c says everything about you
StarshipsAreMeantToFly · 04/09/2021 21:53

I don't see why the eldest can't go and sit with the youngest at least.

NinaGonk · 04/09/2021 21:53

This is really sad. Definitely complain and point out that a sibling bubble would make no difference to them.

StarshipsAreMeantToFly · 04/09/2021 21:54

@621CustardCream438

“The trouble is that the brothers are in different bubbles during the day, so the breakfast club will not be allowed to mix bubbles.”

Under bubble rules (and I’d be complaining about that still even existing too) I can understand why the 3 year old can’t join his older brother’s table of friends. I think the additional risk is infinitesimal but I get that it can be argued there is some sort of increase and it counts as “mixing bubbles”. But why on earth anybody thinks the older one joining his younger brother and becoming a table of just two children who live together is somehow mixing bubbles or increasing risk at all I cannot fathom. They are already mixing the bubble the other 18 hours a day plus weekends! Completely and utterly absurd. Very obviously the club should at minimum allow your two children to be on their own table of two. Whether your older one would be ok with that is perhaps another story.

Yeah, I cant see the problem with having the two of them sat by themselves together
Kolo · 04/09/2021 21:54

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Lockdownpudding · 04/09/2021 21:55

@Theworldishard

Actually we are highly rated. Schools are not as they appear on the surface sometimes. Sorry to burst that bubble.
Schools are highly unnatural in my opinion. We've developed ourselves a very odd society, if you think about it, and have been conditioned to think it's normal.
Theworldishard · 04/09/2021 21:55

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Jumpjumpjumper · 04/09/2021 21:56

Thank fuck you don't run the wrap around care at my school, Theworldishard.

CyclingIsNotOuting · 04/09/2021 21:56

@Fubitch

There should be no bubbles now.
Unfortunately our school is still operating bubbles too Angry

YANBU OP. They let a 3yo sit by themselves for an hour. I’d be cross too.

Theworldishard · 04/09/2021 21:56

@Jumpjumpjumper

Thank fuck you don't run the wrap around care at my school, Theworldishard.
As above, I don't set the rules
Kolo · 04/09/2021 21:56

Why? I don't set the rules

You don't seem to understand them either.

I've seen it happen, I've seen people working with children become hateful and compassion less. Time to move on.

Fubitch · 04/09/2021 21:56

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