AIBU to never let my daughter have a drink again?

[Lauraloveshimback]

Yes I know IABU. I posted this in the Health section but have had no replies. Now posting here for traffic. My daughter is 8 1/2 and still wets herself on a night so has to wear pull ups. We have tried everything - no water after 6pm, regular toilet visits, wake up at 10pm to go and wake her up early morning to go - and a mixture of these together. I have tried the alarm but she doesn’t like the feel of it. She does not wet herself in the day. I have been to see a doctor but her advice was just to persevere. Does anyone have any advice? I would be so grateful. Thank you in advance

Wow! Lots of food for thought here. Looks like we have been trying the wrong things for sure. Thanks everyone.

The alarm was excellent for us with Dd1 aged 7. My brother and both wet the bed till we were teens. It was excruciating/humiliating for us both, especially because my family were so awful to us. They thought we were being naughty and shamed us by hanging the wet sheets out of the window to show everyone in the neighbourhood. Shouted at us , told the neighbours, our friends , relations , took the mickey out of us, didn't change the bed, so we had to sleep in damp peed sheets . It was just hell. It was so abusive. So please don't stop her from drinking and make her wake up to go to the toilet or say anything to her to make her feel bad, be supportive and loving and kind. I am sure you are already but it doesn't hurt to see what it feels like from the other side . Good luck TO YOU AND YOUR BEAUTIFUL DAUGHTER OP

My eldest was like this and was nearly 8 before he stopped, we did take him for a sleepy wee for 2 nights ( this was around 12 years ago) and he stopped after that. At the time I thought it had worked but looking back think it was most likely coincidental. Once he stopped that was it and he never went back to it, it will pass.

@Lauraloveshimback I wouldn’t bother with the GP. They tend to have no idea who or how to refer unless it’s the hospital. You need to get in touch with the school nursing team who deal with this all the time

Well… I don’t want to speak too soon but I think we have cracked it!!! When I originally posted, I had no idea that so many people would post offering advice and support. In the end, we used the alarm method and made sure we were extra strict. Then after about two weeks, we took it away but made her go to the toilet about three times in the hour before bed. Throughout all of this, she wore pull ups (just in case). She did well with this with a tiny accident here and there. She has been clear in her pull ups for the last two weeks. Last night was the first night she wore pants - and it was a success!! I know we shouldn’t get too confident yet and we will continue with the three visits to the toilet before bed, but it really feels we are entering the light at the end of the tunnel. Thank you again for all your personal stories, advice and support. X