DH charged me for Steak...but I'm a Veggie!

[atleastthepoochlovesme]

Not irate/upset/annoyed but just wanted to see how others would feel if it were them...

DH is a lovely guy but has his quirks (don't we all). For context, we split the household bills and big purchases 50/50 so he transfers the money into my account on the 1st of each month. For anything else, we just buy what we want/need out of our own money.

A few weeks ago, DH and I had some beauty treatments by a self-employed beautician who has a beauty room at home but is also mobile. I've only visited her a handful of times before, so we're friendly, but not friends. Before we left, she was telling us about other treatments she does, so DH and I booked in for a massage at our home (DH said he would pay as a treat) which took place a couple of days ago. As we were leaving, DH asked her if she liked steak, to which she said yes, so DH told her that he would make a steak dinner for her (DH loves to cook). I thought it was a bit odd offering to make dinner for her when she was coming over to work, but it was a friendly enough gesture by him. Please note this was his gesture, not mine. I would've just given her a tip at the end!

Anyway, the day of the massage arrived; DH went to the butchers and bought the steak. While I was enjoying my massage, he was cooking away in the kitchen. Beautician ate and enjoyed the steak and DH was loving the compliments.

Yesterday morning, 1st of the month, direct debits due, I checked my bank account and found that DH had transferred £20 less than he should have. When I asked him why, he told me, "for the steak!" I wouldn't have minded but I'm a vegetarian so I don't even eat bloody steak!

Yes, he paid for my massage...thought it was a treat, but it cost me £20 in the end. Still a bargain I suppose! What would you think?

[quote atleastthepoochlovesme]@ChequerBoard I'm worried about you. You sound highly strung. I think a massage followed by a nice bit of steak would do you good. [/quote]
I prefer to keep my massage appointments and my steak dinners entirely separate thanks.

I don't enjoy awkward social situations or embarrassing people trying to do their jobs.

@ChequerBoard you can do it whichever way your heart desires. But it sounds like you need to do it. Enjoy!

I do t think you should have paid £20 for the steak. The massage was a treat from your husband that shouldn't have cost you anything! It was his idea to feed the lady an expensive piece of meat! Truth is, its weird. No-one would have done that at all. Think you should ask for the £20 back, and say it was his idea, not yours. If you gave a tip then that's separate to the whole thing.

This was a great thread till people turned up and started being salty and accusatory read the room people!

Not everyone manages money in the same way, doesn’t make one marriage better than the other. If it works for them what the fuck has it got to do with anyone else.

I'd be more fucked off that he thought it appropriate to buy and cook a steak for someone he hired to do something utterly unrelated. What a weird thing to do! Even weirder, the masseuse who accepted this offer of a steak dinner after she'd just rubbed you both down for a fee. I would find that so bizarre and would have said "thanks for the offer, but I'd rather not stay for dinner."

Weird, weird, weird. My husband is quirky and has ADHD and occasional loopy interpretations of appropriate boundaries and even he wouldn't do this.

@Bollindger

Buy some knickers, expensive ones, ask DH for half, and tell him he will get to look at the knickers, like you got to look at the steak, oh and remind him your treating him.

Definitely this level of passive aggression called for. I approve

@DrManhattan

This is the oddest thing I have read in ages. It can't be true. How strange.

Bless you, OP. I have no idea if this is real and you really are as bananas as you sound, but either way, this is hilarious .

I hope the masseuse is okay, though.

I'd be more fucked off that he thought it appropriate to buy and cook a steak for someone he hired to do something utterly unrelated. What a weird thing to do! Even weirder, the masseuse who accepted this offer of a steak dinner after she'd just rubbed you both down for a fee.

It's incredibly weird. Bizarre.

[quote atleastthepoochlovesme]@ChequerBoard I'm worried about you. You sound highly strung. I think a massage followed by a nice bit of steak would do you good. [/quote]
Ahahha, this made me howl.

We have the same setup as you, OP, and it works really well for us. You see so many stories on here of people left high and dry because they've never had their own separate finances. It makes less than an iota of difference to anyone else what other people's financial arrangements are.

As for your DH, he is clearly from a different planet. I too, have a DH I suspect is an alien. it drives me up the wall sometimes, but at least it's never boring - you really do not know what they're going to say or do next.

More power to your elbow!

(Although re-heating steak in the microwave is quite possibly the mark of a psychopath)

Turning down dinner from your client's husband is a missed steak.

@ClawedButler

Turning down dinner from your client's husband is a missed steak.

Boom Boom!! 🤣🤣

I think he's tight-arsed (and you both need to get a grip of how you manage your household finances)

Tight and very odd

@ClawedButler after 500+ posts, it's refreshing to hear that someone else doesn't have the "perfect" partner seeing as so many people on here do. You're right, just like the sounds of yours, my life/marriage is also far from boring because of my crazy DH! 😘

@beastlyslumber it's all very real! Well, I think she's ok...I've got another treatment booked in this month. She's not cancelled yet! Perhaps a salad sandwich will be on offer next time!

@ineedsun I know, right!

@callmeadoctor Afternoon!! How many now? 😜

@therearenogoodusernamesleft

OP. Why did you not, at any point, say 'no, we're not going to ask the masseur to have steak with us, you absolute psycho'?

Thank fuck someone has asked. The itinerary doesn't make it any less weird its the fact that he asked the masseuse to have a steak dinner AND THE ONLY THING THE OP FOUND ODD WAS WHO WOULD PAY FOR IT. Batshit!

@PearlclutchersInc hmmmm, says the Pearl Clutcher! Love it!

It's a bloody liberty he short changed you. He wanted to cook so it should come out of his pocket money. Like you said you only wanted a massage.

@Malin52 "I thought it was a bit odd offering to make dinner (...)"

Nope! 🤨 But granted, you've got a lot of posts to get through so I can see why you'd forget this glaring statement.

@paddingtonbearmeetsdeadpool yes, only wanted a massage and now I've got all these new marriage counsellor friends too! Only cost me £20! 🤣🤣

This is a joke thread. I just don’t believe it

So I made the assumption he charged you for half the cost of the entire meal, not just hers. Was her steak actually £40?? What the fuck did he buy?

To be honest I can’t believe that the beautician came back to do the massage!

I can't believe she's coming back again! She won't be happy with a salad sandwich next time. She'll be expecting a £45 steak, or at the very least some extra chips.

@JesusIsAnyNameFree correct. It was half the entire meal. Of which I consumed chips and salad. Most expensive chips and salad of my life. Just to clarify, I bought my own Quorn! 😂