DH charged me for Steak...but I'm a Veggie!

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Not irate/upset/annoyed but just wanted to see how others would feel if it were them...

DH is a lovely guy but has his quirks (don't we all). For context, we split the household bills and big purchases 50/50 so he transfers the money into my account on the 1st of each month. For anything else, we just buy what we want/need out of our own money.

A few weeks ago, DH and I had some beauty treatments by a self-employed beautician who has a beauty room at home but is also mobile. I've only visited her a handful of times before, so we're friendly, but not friends. Before we left, she was telling us about other treatments she does, so DH and I booked in for a massage at our home (DH said he would pay as a treat) which took place a couple of days ago. As we were leaving, DH asked her if she liked steak, to which she said yes, so DH told her that he would make a steak dinner for her (DH loves to cook). I thought it was a bit odd offering to make dinner for her when she was coming over to work, but it was a friendly enough gesture by him. Please note this was his gesture, not mine. I would've just given her a tip at the end!

Anyway, the day of the massage arrived; DH went to the butchers and bought the steak. While I was enjoying my massage, he was cooking away in the kitchen. Beautician ate and enjoyed the steak and DH was loving the compliments.

Yesterday morning, 1st of the month, direct debits due, I checked my bank account and found that DH had transferred £20 less than he should have. When I asked him why, he told me, "for the steak!" I wouldn't have minded but I'm a vegetarian so I don't even eat bloody steak!

Yes, he paid for my massage...thought it was a treat, but it cost me £20 in the end. Still a bargain I suppose! What would you think?

You don’t eat meat so presumably you don’t buy it so I’m just letting you know that forty quid for one fillet steak from the butcher …even a london butcher, is way off the mark.

@LAMPS1

You don’t eat meat so presumably you don’t buy it so I’m just letting you know that forty quid for one fillet steak from the butcher …even a london butcher, is way off the mark.

I presumed the husband had one steak and the beauty therapist had one.. Or do we reckon they shared one steak on one plate, Lady and the Tramp-style?

I find it very strange to have situations where married people owe one another money. It's not weird to have separate bank accounts but it's weird to have this kind of pettiness about money between a married couple

LTB?

OK maybe overkill but something is not quite adding up

How did you find this "beautician"? Could he be into BDSM and she is his dominatrix (professional or someone he plays with)? Had she told him to do this?

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This is all sorts of weird

Weirdest things for me is

1. steak in a microwave (even though it must just be veg)
2. she accepted it and ate it!!

@Eralos

Weirdest things for me is 1) steak in a microwave (even though it must just be veg) 2) she accepted it and ate it!!

I expect she'll insist on the vegetarian option next time.

I’m loving this thread! At first I thought it’s so weird and I’m just loving the bizarreness of it, but actually it’s less weird the more I think of it.

I teach in people’s houses. I’ve had plenty of stuff offered, cups of tea usually, but cakes, biscuits and the odd other snack. I’ve had pupils give me eggs (not cooked, from their chickens), homemade sweets, kefir. I’m the kind of person who tends to say “oh yes please, go on then” if I’m offered something so I guess it isn’t too much of a stretch that I’d be offered steak. I’d probably accept!

This is a way more serious answer than most on the thread but I think it’s a joint expense. I’d expect if I’m offered a cup of tea (obviously 20p not £20 but same principle) that that’s a family expense and not solely of the parent offering. However, since offering a steak is a bit out of the norm I’d be saying any more offers like that and he clears the cost with you first or pays himself. If he wants it to be joint I’d be telling him to stick with offering her a nice cup of tea.

I can't get past £40 on fillet steak and he put it in the microwave. This a man who apparently "loves to cook"

😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 I'm imagining her awkwardly eating a steak in your kitchen after she has given you both massages 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

£40 for steak makes me glad I'm vegetarian! That'd be a three course meal and bottle of wine here, with money left over.

teach in people’s houses. I’ve had plenty of stuff offered, cups of tea usually, but cakes, biscuits and the odd other snack. I’ve had pupils give me eggs (not cooked, from their chickens), homemade sweets, kefir. I’m the kind of person who tends to say “oh yes please, go on then” if I’m offered something so I guess it isn’t too much of a stretch that I’d be offered steak. I’d probably accept!

Tbh that's a totally different dynamic. It would be normal to sip a drink and eat a snack under these circumstances and be chatting - unless what you are teaching is practical massage ofc 😆 Massaging is rather different and more intimate.

I started reading this thread last night so I thought it might have something to do with the couple of glasses of wine I'd had.

But no, it's still here in the morning.

@TeapotCollection

£20 for ONE steak 😮

IT would be £40 for one steak if she was splitting the bill!

@me4real

The poor therapist, having to sit there and eat with random clients.

It certainly does seem as if he fancies her and maybe even hopes for a menage a trois.

Lots of people/men unfortunately make certain assumptions or fantasies about massage therapists/women who do massages, so it's not necessarily relevant that she's not his usual type.

This.

Sounds like an absolutely exhausting way to live.

So couples massage with steak dinner thrown in - suggests a threesome to me.

Sounds like an absolutely exhausting way to live

It really does!

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Why did this have to go?

@coodawoodashooda because it's a thread about a thread so not allowed. Also clearly not a genuine post 😆. Was fun while it lasted though.

He’ll be planting pampas grass soon.

£40 for a steak? Yeah, I’m in London, it’s not £40 for a piece of steak. Ridiculous. £6 for 2 sirloins in my butchers. So he’s fleecing you on top of the weirdness.

Beef fillet in my rural butcher would cost 40 for about 3 people.

£40 for a steak? Yeah, I’m in London, it’s not £40 for a piece of steak

Depends on the cut and size. Though I suspect the portions would be like you see on Man Versus Food rather than on Gordon Ramsey.

Bit weird though unless the beautician was a family friend.

I'd LTB though for microwaving a steak of the quality I'd expect at that price.

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But it was a genuine bonding experience for all of us mumsnetters.