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To want to throttle my neighbour or at least sewear profusely at her?

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Peachy · 03/12/2007 09:56

We're in a rented house, the neighbour ahs been in dispute with the landlorrd as she wanted half our garden given to her which the landlord wouldn't do (why shoulod they?) then she built extensions without planning permission that encroached onto our garden so they tried to take action, although they gave up due to money a few montsh ago.

We did the christmas card run alst week, ds1 made cards for all and posted one through er door- he was really prud and we taught him that neighbourlyness was a point of Christmas.

Just ahd it pushed back through the door ripped up.

Thank God ds wasn't here to see that- its his birthday, he'd have been heartbroken.

Want to go rund and slap her but won't and will just ignore byut so very, very very angry- she's 60 years old ffs, not a stupid teenager!

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coppertop · 03/12/2007 12:24

What a hag!!

Happy birthday to your ds btw.

hertsnessex · 03/12/2007 12:28

evil old witch.

DANCESwithHughJackman · 03/12/2007 12:30

What a cow. I can't believe anyone would be so spiteful towards a child in order to have a go at the family.

soopermum1 · 03/12/2007 12:31

I've got a 'sounds of the bagpipes' CD, played very loudly, which always does the trick with horrible neighbours.

wanna borrow it?

ABudafulSightWereHappyTonight · 03/12/2007 12:44

What a totally horrible misery guts. Admire you Peachy as I would be straight around there giving her an earful.

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Peachy · 03/12/2007 12:44

LoL Soopermum- maybe I could let the boys do their violin and recorder practices with the window open for a few weeks?

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OrmIrian · 03/12/2007 12:49

As long as your DS didn't see it peachy, it's her loss and her loss only. She must be a sour old crone to do that though

I don't do grudges either. I seem to forget what I'm supposed to be angry about and just give up...

VictorianSqualor · 03/12/2007 12:58

Go round christmas morning at about 6am with mince pies and candles, sing her 'we wish you a merry xmas' and then pray for her.
Before you go explain to the DS's that she can needs you to help her as she has something wrong with her because no-one wishes her merry xms so although she may act like she doesnt like the singing and prayers she needs it anyway.

Itsthawooluff · 03/12/2007 12:59

Leave it Peachy - she's not worth it!

She wants a reaction, so the best thing would be to absolutely deny her any acknowledgement of her mean minded, petty, spiteful act. I like the huge smile a la Stepford Wife approach - because the message is really "Nothing you do will disrupt my perfect happy smiling life, you raddled old crone, so bog off"

Don't tell Dh - it'll only escalate. Buy the children a noisy muscial instrument for Christmas - violin / cymbals?? And smile

pagwatch · 03/12/2007 13:05

Peachy
when i used to take DS2 to his nursery we had to walk through town and there was a shop run by a very rude man who used to say things like " oh my god here comes that weird kid" when i walked past ( DS2 is ASD).
I was very angry but started going in there and saying hello. I would explain about DS2 to other customers in a loud voice and add things like " people can be so mean but we just try to remember that they don't understand ". After a whole term he came up to DS2 and gave him a balloon and said " what a lovely lad " .
Kill them with kindness I say !

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Peachy · 03/12/2007 13:06

They already have 2 violins, recorders and a drum LOL

I've already lost the anger and am just feeling a bit sad for her now, if this is how happy she gets at Christmas imagine the joy she must have the rest of the year!

Did think of popping anote through saying Oh I am sorry we didn't realise you weren't a Chrsitian and didn't vcelebrate Christmas, please forgive us if we offended you but frankly can't be arsed

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Tortington · 03/12/2007 13:09

i would post a xmas card every day until she accepted it

Blu · 03/12/2007 13:11

Peachy - I agree with you - no point holding grudges and bitterness.

You and youyr DS behaved in a neighbourly fashion - that's all the involvement you need to hold your head high.

rookiemater · 03/12/2007 13:13

Peachy, you sound like a lovely person and so does your DS1 for posting christmas cards.

I'd go with your natural instincts and just leave it, its a very childish way for her to behave and shows that she could well be looking for a fight.

Enjoy your christmas with your family and save your pity for someone who deserves it.

Emprexia · 03/12/2007 13:29

stick another through her door with just "Bah Humbug" written on it.

hifi · 03/12/2007 13:32

i think you should try again but this time post a christmas turd.

LoveAngelGabriel · 03/12/2007 13:33

What a miserable cow. Why don't you surprise her with some carols on her doorstep?

ComeOVeneer · 03/12/2007 13:34

What a sad old woman. BTW why on earth does she think your landlord should give her half the garden?!?

VictorianSqualor · 03/12/2007 13:38

lol@bah humbag, could go one better and just post humbugs through her door every day between now and xmas.

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Peachy · 03/12/2007 13:40

Come OVeneer becaue she wanted to build rear access and already ahd her shed covering her rear wall. Its where the kids swings are and the only way to get furniture in and out of our house (old terraced cotatge place), she then built a wall for a conservatory onto our side as she said it was theirs but records from 100 years ago say not, then she built a terrace that looked directly into ds's bedroom which distressed him immensely (his ASD makes him very private indeed, his room is his sanctuary).

I am beginning to think she does have some kind of meantal health or empathy issue herself so should really feel sorry for her I guess for that. She did get her DLA and blue badge taken back after she tried kicking the aprtition wall onto DH (!), and I think she thinks that was us but it wasn't.

I think i'm going to rpetend I didn't see the card returned and just be distant but smily, pretty much as I tend to be anyway tbh.

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Amethyst86 · 03/12/2007 14:44

You are a much nicer person than me. I would not have been able to control myself, would have had a huge go at her, which thinking about it is probably the reaction she wanted. She sounds like a really wicked woman (old fashioned word but relevant here I think). Cannot understand how anyone could do that to a childs card. However maybe she is hurting because her own kids don t want to bother with her and has taken it out on your DS. No excuse though.

NoNameToday · 03/12/2007 15:02

Send her a Christmas Hamper full of gooseberries,lemons and limes. Acid seems to be her favoured taste.

Seriously, ignore here if you can.

Eliza2 · 03/12/2007 15:14

You know, there are some people who just BEG to have wax effigies made of them.

But it sounds like you are being the reasonable grown-up here and well done you!

Perhaps she can feel the combined negative vibes from this thread. >

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Peachy · 03/12/2007 16:18

Did have to stop myself loudly singing We Wish You A ... as I walked past ehr hosue earlier (did it really quietly though which made me smile at least)

Thought Dh would go spare, he laughed LOL (Prozac must be doing some good )

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pania · 03/12/2007 16:22

She MUST have some sort of mental problem, that is totally bizarre behaviour.

Tbh, if it was me, I would try to avoid having anything to do with her.