CF part two. Voldemutt and the philosopher's bone

[Purplewishes]

Can't actually believe this has needed a second thread.

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/4331756-CF-DSD-DSDs-mum-and-dog

For any new stragglers jumping on for the ride I will try and summerise.
DSD has a dog at her mum's. Dog pisses and shits on the floor.
I'm up to my tits with my own kids with a toddler and newborn twins.
DH ex asked me to walk dog, I said absolutely fucking not.
Been lies and twisted truths about who's looking after dog.
DHs ex has fucked off on holiday anyway.
dSD has taken responsibility for walking dog but need DH to ferry her back and forward
Dog has now been renamed as voldemutt
DH has been told if voldemutt crosses the door he will be drop kicked out the door.
Once again to reiterate I'm having fuck all to do with voldemutt and plan to just sit back and watch the drama unfold (while drinking wine)

So where did we leave off?
DH took DSD at half 5 to her house to walk the dog before school no problem. The plan we were told was that a nice caring neighbour was going to walk voldemutt while DSD at school.

I was out with twins today with a friend with the buggys and we went a scenic route (this was about half 11) and who do I see walking voldemutt??????? DSD.

DSD should be at school (were in Scotland) so I'm guessing that DSD has dogged school in order to be there to walk voldemutt and there was never a neighbour involved. Now DSD didn't see me and I haven't mentioned it to her or to DH yet but I have full intentions of asking her how her day at school was when she gets home and then firing a million detailed questions about her day to see at what point she admits she was not at school.

[quote Purplewishes]@angelPrint clearly voldemutt has touched the dark bark and has all the death eaters run to his aide. Shame they couldn't all run to walk him and we wouldn't be in this predicament[/quote]
🤣🤣

Just come from previous thread…
What the actual fuck.
The ex is totally taking the piss. She’s basically left the dog in the care of DSD knowing full well your DH/you would have to step up to help her manage the arrangements for the dog.

I think you’re doing 100% the right thing by staying out of it and letting DSD and DH sort the dog.

Be interesting to see what DSD says. Seems like she might have ended up a little stuck in the middle of it all and probably had pressure from her mum to look after the dog.

She's 13 she knows right from wrong even if she was told to by her mum not having her Xbox for a night is reasonable for lying.
Good luck OP.

@drjohnZoidberg sorry going to have to disagree. There has been plenty of comments on here about how DSD is of an age of responsibility etc what I plan to do is ask her a simple easy open question "how was school". It is then up to her to decide what path to take. She can either choose herself to lie in which case appropriate consequences will be taken for the lie or she can choose to take responsibility tell the truth and say she wasn't as school and then we can take it from there.

It was wagging school where I grew up vaguely dog related placemark

I do for DSD as I imagine she has either been asked to skip school to watch the dog or felt that she had to to prevent an argument.?

[quote Purplewishes]@drjohnZoidberg sorry going to have to disagree. There has been plenty of comments on here about how DSD is of an age of responsibility etc what I plan to do is ask her a simple easy open question "how was school". It is then up to her to decide what path to take. She can either choose herself to lie in which case appropriate consequences will be taken for the lie or she can choose to take responsibility tell the truth and say she wasn't as school and then we can take it from there.[/quote]
She’s already lied to you, though. When, by word or deed, she gave the impression she was going to go to school today and the neighbour was going to walk the dog. If lying is a big deal, she needs punishing for this. You’re just setting up a “gotcha” here and it will make her feel, even more, that she can’t win.

@DrJohnZoidberg I didn't use either of those terms.

The fact is the OP says DSD has form for lying and they've been working on it. It's a big no in their house. Respect that. It's a perfectly good opportunity to make sure that they're getting through to her re lying.

I think you're wrong to punish you DSD for a situation her mother has put her in. Either her mother has made her lie or the girl doesn't want to leave her dog alone all day. It's not like she was skipping school to go drink in the park. She was walking the damn dog because there is not one person in her life who would do it.

@drJohnZoidberg sorry my wand finger pressed post too soon.

What this does by asking DSD how school was is creates an opportunity for her to tell us herself she wasn't at school rather than me have to tell her I seen her. If she comes clean there's no reason for me to even say I saw her in the first place

[quote DrJohnZoidberg]@Purplewishes there have also been plenty of comments on here saying that trying to catch her out is wrong as she may be stuck in the middle. But you can choose to ignore them if you like. You claim she is old enough but the way you’re going about it is really immature. 🤷‍♀️[/quote]
Doesn’t sound immature to me. Sounds like actual parenting (rather than tiptoeing) and doing it well.

Where have all these deatheaters come from?

@drjohnzoidberg you can think I'm being immature all you want, personally I think your a Muggle. Enjoy your butter beer.

Clearly the OP is Mrs Weasley (she has twins) Perhaps a howler to exW is needed on return?

Where did the ex go? Where ever it is I hope it raining because even with your best efforts she managing to create a difficult situation for you all.

Waiting shamelessly for updates

@Doglover157

Waiting shamelessly for updates

Me too. This is better than Netflix

I really don’t think asking her how was school is putting her in an awkward position.

She either chose to skip school or her mother let her. Either way the ex knows she has been off, as the school will have either phoned her or she would have contacted them.

Update required op..

Sorry hadn’t religiously read every update must have missed that one! Sorry for committing crime of the century!!