CF part two. Voldemutt and the philosopher's bone

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Can't actually believe this has needed a second thread.

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/4331756-CF-DSD-DSDs-mum-and-dog

For any new stragglers jumping on for the ride I will try and summerise.
DSD has a dog at her mum's. Dog pisses and shits on the floor.
I'm up to my tits with my own kids with a toddler and newborn twins.
DH ex asked me to walk dog, I said absolutely fucking not.
Been lies and twisted truths about who's looking after dog.
DHs ex has fucked off on holiday anyway.
dSD has taken responsibility for walking dog but need DH to ferry her back and forward
Dog has now been renamed as voldemutt
DH has been told if voldemutt crosses the door he will be drop kicked out the door.
Once again to reiterate I'm having fuck all to do with voldemutt and plan to just sit back and watch the drama unfold (while drinking wine)

So where did we leave off?
DH took DSD at half 5 to her house to walk the dog before school no problem. The plan we were told was that a nice caring neighbour was going to walk voldemutt while DSD at school.

I was out with twins today with a friend with the buggys and we went a scenic route (this was about half 11) and who do I see walking voldemutt??????? DSD.

DSD should be at school (were in Scotland) so I'm guessing that DSD has dogged school in order to be there to walk voldemutt and there was never a neighbour involved. Now DSD didn't see me and I haven't mentioned it to her or to DH yet but I have full intentions of asking her how her day at school was when she gets home and then firing a million detailed questions about her day to see at what point she admits she was not at school.

"It's the ex's dog, it's 100% her responsibility, no-one else needs to be involved."

She didn't take responsibility though did she?

I love the name you gave this thread!

I have my popcorn ready. I can’t wait to hear if the mom said it was ok for her to stay home and walk the dog.

Why is walking a dog more important than her being in school?

Fuuuuuck, there's no way she can pretend she wasn't there

Just to answer a few qu
We live in walking distance from DSD and from MIL house
DSD house is about a 15min drive from our house depending on traffic
DSD usually gets bus to school from her mums (or walks if she stays here)
The plan was for DH to take DSD home this morning to walk voldemutt and she was going to get the bus to school as normal.
She wasn't in school uniform when I seen her
She has had form for not going to school in past claiming to have sore head / tummy and ex will keep her off (not sure if this is relevant but just to show ex isn't adverse to keeping her off)

Dogged school I haven’t RTFT but I’m assuming someone has pointed out to you that they don’t use the term south of the border! I learned the hard way!

I can’t believe she is letting her daughter skip school just to avoid paying for a kennel!

Is there a possibility that DH was aware of DSD taking the day off to look after Voldemutt?
Wouldn't an adult have had to report her as sick to the school?

You can report sick via text or an app my son knows my laptop password and could technically sign himself off school with no one checking not that he ever would but it is possible

@Gilmorehill

Dogged school I haven’t RTFT but I’m assuming someone has pointed out to you that they don’t use the term south of the border! I learned the hard way!

Well, we do use that term south of the border, but of course it means something completely different down here and usually involves the wearing of masks, sometimes a dog mask. 😉

@Boatingforthestars

I had a useless mother and a nasty stepmother that deliberately made life difficult for me too.

You should be ashamed of yourself enjoying the young girls grief.
Imagine it would be a different set up for the poor girl if you weren't on the scene, deliberatly making things difficult for her, like having a shit mother isn't bad enough on its own.....

Oh do get a grip hun.

Just tell DH about DSD and let him deal with it.

Ex may have told DSD that she'd get rid of the dog if there was poo and wee in the house when she got back, so DSD may just be trying her best to keep the dog.

I still don't understand the logic of presumably paying circa £2k for a pup - as that's what the popular ones go for - and not being prepared to pay £25 a night for it when you go away.

She isn't enjoying the young girls grief. It is the mother who is the problem here. She should have booked a kennel and then the dog wouldn't be an issue.

Op is in her right to not want the dog in her home. Regardless of the reason.

@boatingforthestars they don't call me voldestepmum for nothing.

In all fairness I have never once said DSD has a shit mum or that I'm taking pleasure in her grief. Behave yourself.

@Boatingforthestars Are you ok? 🤣🤣

OP the wicked stepmum? How is she making things differently in the slightest? By not dragged her toddler and newborn a babies to look after her DH’s ex’s bloody dog 😆 The mum is the waste of space here & the kid is taking the piss too.

Nasty .... oh please!

I stated shit had a shit mother for putting her in the mess in the first place.
You are 100% reveling in it.
Your going to ask her awkward questions later to get her to fess up? She is in a situation where she cannot win regardless what she does and you are proving to be a bully making matters worse for her and also enjoying it.

@Boatingforthestars stop projecting.

@LittleBiscuit09

She isn't enjoying the young girls grief. It is the mother who is the problem here. She should have booked a kennel and then the dog wouldn't be an issue.

Op is in her right to not want the dog in her home. Regardless of the reason.

Its 100% the mothers fault, but the mums not here is she and its down to a child to sort out, the child is being given no choice to do the right thing as there is no way around it. You could've had the mutt in the house for a couple of days and made her life a hell of a lot easier.

Bet she feels a big part of the family with you putting your foot down and putting her in an awful situation.
Remember she didn't ask for any of this

Must commend you on a most excellent thread title 🎉😂 rest of the thread is an added bonus haha

I’m just here for the names and puns

@Boatingforthestars

Yes just want a mum of 2 newborn babies wants, a dog shitting and pissing all over the place 😅.

Get a grip, the OP has done nothing wrong and stop acting like the kid is a victim, not everyone enjoys that victim role 😊 also OP is not a bully ffs

Please don't play games with your SD to see if she fess's up. She needs one adult who can be honest with her
Your agreement is with her mum, don't back your SD into a corner

@boatingforthestars Jesus Christ get off your nimbus 3000

I plan to ask DSD to see if she LIES as lying in our household is a huge no and DSD has learned the hard way in the past about lying.