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CF part two. Voldemutt and the philosopher's bone

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Purplewishes · 27/08/2021 15:12

Can't actually believe this has needed a second thread.

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/4331756-CF-DSD-DSDs-mum-and-dog

For any new stragglers jumping on for the ride I will try and summerise.
DSD has a dog at her mum's. Dog pisses and shits on the floor.
I'm up to my tits with my own kids with a toddler and newborn twins.
DH ex asked me to walk dog, I said absolutely fucking not.
Been lies and twisted truths about who's looking after dog.
DHs ex has fucked off on holiday anyway.
dSD has taken responsibility for walking dog but need DH to ferry her back and forward
Dog has now been renamed as voldemutt
DH has been told if voldemutt crosses the door he will be drop kicked out the door.
Once again to reiterate I'm having fuck all to do with voldemutt and plan to just sit back and watch the drama unfold (while drinking wine)

So where did we leave off?
DH took DSD at half 5 to her house to walk the dog before school no problem. The plan we were told was that a nice caring neighbour was going to walk voldemutt while DSD at school.

I was out with twins today with a friend with the buggys and we went a scenic route (this was about half 11) and who do I see walking voldemutt??????? DSD.

DSD should be at school (were in Scotland) so I'm guessing that DSD has dogged school in order to be there to walk voldemutt and there was never a neighbour involved. Now DSD didn't see me and I haven't mentioned it to her or to DH yet but I have full intentions of asking her how her day at school was when she gets home and then firing a million detailed questions about her day to see at what point she admits she was not at school.

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CharlotteUnaNatalieThompson · 27/08/2021 16:42

@Popetthetreehugger

Place marking to say that dogging is a word in essex too ….. but it didn’t mean skipping school 🤣🤦‍♀️🚗🚗
It means the same in the North East!
CharlotteUnaNatalieThompson · 27/08/2021 16:42

[quote prettybird]**@Eralos* : RTFT Hmm. She saw* her walking the dog when DSD should have been in school Confused[/quote]
No need to even RTFT, just the OP will do it...

BeenThruMoreThanALilBit · 27/08/2021 16:43

Yup - DSD was told by her mum to skip school today and on monday. There was never a neighbour involved. If true, that’s very, very sad.

You should speak to DH first to find out if he knew DSD was staying home today. Take it from there.

Whatever the answer, this isn’t DSD’s fault. It’s either ex’s alone, or ex + DH.

Kipperandarthur · 27/08/2021 16:43

The mother hasn’t half created lots of unnecessary drama and put her DD in an awkward position.

All she had to do was put the bloody dog in a kennel or dog minder for the weekend.

I hope your DSD doesn’t completely lie to you but I would imagine this has a way to run yet.

EineReiseDurchDieZeit · 27/08/2021 16:44

You realise this has Soon To Be Featured In The Daily Mail all over it OP?

Oogachuckachopsy · 27/08/2021 16:45

Her mum told her to skip school to walk the dog? Jesus.

I cannot wait until you tell everyone you know what you know that they don’t know you know what you know…

Oogachuckachopsy · 27/08/2021 16:46

@EineReiseDurchDieZeit

You realise this has Soon To Be Featured In The Daily Mail all over it OP?
Ugh, don’t ruin a thread with this sort of comment. It always makes me think of smug tattle-tails from school. Just let it be… I think OP can handle it anyway.
diddl · 27/08/2021 16:46

How was she supposed to get to school from her mum's?

I had thought that the point of going early was so that she would be brought back to yours before school?

MeridianB · 27/08/2021 16:46

OP was DSD in school uniform when you saw her?

LittleOwl153 · 27/08/2021 16:47

I had a feeling the responsibility for the mutt would fall to the 13yr old. Her dad needs to take over and sort this for her. And yes I think that does include letting school know so that they can keep an eye in future.

MilesOfSand · 27/08/2021 16:47

Wasn’t it a lot of work to get the children all over to the location of the ex wife’s and go for a walk? Without the dog.

ElephantOfRisk · 27/08/2021 16:47

@diddl

How was she supposed to get to school from her mum's?

I had thought that the point of going early was so that she would be brought back to yours before school?

I think she was going to get the bus. The same as she would do every day when staying at her mum's house?
Kipperandarthur · 27/08/2021 16:47

Good point about the school uniform!

diddl · 27/08/2021 16:51

"I think she was going to get the bus. The same as she would do every day when staying at her mum's house?"

True.

Fir some reason I was thinking that she'd walk the dog & be brought back to get ready for school as it's walking distance from Op's.

MadeForThis · 27/08/2021 16:52

I would tell DH first. Could he know about this plan?

DuckDuckGooses · 27/08/2021 16:54

This thread has kept me going these past few days - will be watching Harry Potter tonight with my wine in honour of Voldemutt!!

Can't wait for the skipping school updates Grin

CaffeineAndNicotine · 27/08/2021 16:58

If the mums house is 5 mins away, why does dh need to take her over? Can't she walk?

MaggieFS · 27/08/2021 16:59

I thought it was 15 mins each way by car?

MzHz · 27/08/2021 17:02

I can’t believe that the entitlement of the mother and her inability to do things the right way by her dd l, by her sodding dog means that a kid is skipping school

@Purplewishes you are going to have to tell DH. Ideally before the bs of dsd school day starts.

beachcitygirl · 27/08/2021 17:04

Rubs hands in glee - gets wine & popcorn

SchadenfreudePersonified · 27/08/2021 17:05

@Waspsarearseholes

I bet the CF mother phoned her daughter in sick this morning. There never was a neighbour. Did step daughter bunk off yesterday as well then, do you think?
OR the poor kid is so worried about the dog she doesn't want to leave it alone.

While I applaud her for this, it is dreadful that she has been forced into this position.

JudgeJ · 27/08/2021 17:08

@Billybagpuss

Wow, and the average kennel is only £20-£25 per night.
I would stick the mutt into the kennels and take the cost from any money your DP pays to his ex. If she refuses then make sure that the school is aware of what's been going on.
JudgeJ · 27/08/2021 17:11

@diddl

I don't agree with her skipping school, but it seems the first bit of responsibility anyone has shown to the poor dog!
It's the ex's dog, it's 100% her responsibility, no-one else needs to be involved.
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Purplewishes · 27/08/2021 17:12

@tulipsTwoLips there's always one hater Grin

I fully expect that there was never a neighbour who was going to walk voldemutt and that DSD had always planned to take today off to look after voldemutt.

DH has finished work and is going to pick up DSD on the way home so we will see if she comes clean or not.

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