2nd Thread: friend wants to move in for a 'few months'

[islandhoppin]

As continued from my previous thread.

Have you spoken to anyone close to her? Sounds like she is having some kind of breakdown.

Call the police. Do NOT get in contact with her in any way, otherwise she learns that if she does this she gets a response. Other than the police it needs to be complete radio silence lence.

In your first post, OP, on the first thread, you said you felt sick with anxiety at her initial request. Do you think that was because you knew if you refused that she'd kick off like she has?

I guess she has form for this type of behaviour. No wonder you felt so anxious!

I'm wondering why you're worried that her family are pushing her to live with you? It's quite unusual at the age of 24 for you both to be in such excellent positions housing-wise, with her nearly paying off her mortgage due to an inheritance, and you having a house with so many rooms. (I won't say spare rooms because, they are only spare if you say so.) Just wondering if your families have history which makes her feel you owe her this? (Not that you do!) And whether she is a best friend only because you've known her since school.

Because her behaviour says she's your bully, not your best friend. You know you don't have to be friends with her, don't you?

She cannot seriously think she can force you to let her live with you? Not after this, surely?

What's her endgame? To gain entry to @islandhoppin's house and claim squatters rights??

Thanks all I've called the police to make them aware. I just feel really confused and shocked right now.

What the hell was she going to do once she'd broken in???

@JackOfGentleman

What the hell was she going to do once she'd broken in???

Unpack and make herself at home presumably!

I'm not surprised you feel shocked and confused.
Keep talking on here or try the relationship board, as this is a friendship which has likely been abusive / controlling even if you didn't notice it yourself at the time.

@BeckyWithTheAverageHair

What's her endgame? To gain entry to *@islandhoppin*'s house and claim squatters rights??

I suspect she's not used to anyone seriously saying No to her and so this is a tantrum to Get Her Own Way. It doesn't sound like she's engaging brain at all, half a second's thought would show anyone that acting like this is going to get her a reputation rather than her own way.

@islandhoppin

Thanks all I've called the police to make them aware. I just feel really confused and shocked right now.

I hope you are getting support and are looking after yourself.. this is a dreadful turn of events...

tell the Police everything and take good care 🌸

OP when she came to the back door did you let her in or talk to her with the door locked? What did she say to you?

So sorry that you are dealing with this.

@islandhoppin what was said when you found her at your back door?

As soon as she saw me she ran off. It's so strange. Thank god my door wasn't unlocked!

I only saw her out at my back door my chance as I was popping into the kitchen quickly.

How bizarre!

And has her boyfriend contacted yours like she said, @islandhoppin?

You've absolutely done the right thing, @islandhoppin - deep breaths and stay strong! 🌹

As soon as she saw me she ran off

Which confirms that she was up to no good. You have everyone on mumsnet rooting for you. Stay strong.

Christ, OP! Has she always been this unhinged or is this the first time you're seeing this particular side of her?

It sounds really scary for you to deal with, good on you for informing police. It's good even just to build a record!

I hope it all calms down for you soon

Just wanted to say stay strong and as PP said, we are here if you need support.

Gosh that sounds scary? What is she playing at? What did the police say? Hopefully they can give her a visit!

What were the chances you would see her !!!

@nimbuscloud

What were the chances you would see her !!!

Quite high... Im in my kitchen a lot... and if she managed to open the door 😱

@QueenBee52
Are you the op?

Name change fail?